Ever encountered someone who says that he/ she is asixual?
Asixual people are people who experience no sixual attraction, although some asixuals, including but not limited to gray-asixuals do experience sixual attraction at one time or another. This does not mean that these people have a disorder, and they can be quite happy the way they are.
Here's how a d what we must do to understand them...
Note the difference between asixuality and celibacy. Asixuality is not the same thing as celibacy. Celibates are people who may have sixual attraction, but refrain from sixual activity, whereas asixuals have no sixual desires with any gender. Not all asixuals are celibate.
Don't confuse asixuals with homosixuals.Asixuals are not closeted homosixuals. Asixuals have no sixual attraction to their own gender, ruling homosixuality out as an orientation. Some asixuals are homoromantic, however. Asixuals are able to be romantically attracted, and can identify with many different romantic orientations (panromantic, biromantic, hetero-romantic, homoromantic, lithromantic, sapioromantic, etc).
Understand that asixuals are not people who have repressed their sixuality. Celibates refrain from having six (temporarily, such as until marriage, or permanently, such as some priests), while asixuals usually have no sixual thoughts about their spouse even in a strong marriage.
Don't expect change. Asixuals will not change if they "meet the right person". Asixuals are usually born asixual and will usually be asixual for their entire lives, just like any other sixuality. Implying that they can be "fixed" is very insulting.
Understand their motivations. Asixuals are not against having non-sixual relationships. They just don't have the desire to engage in six. Many asixuals have partners. Some have six for a variety of reasons (emotional intimacy, reproduction, etc), though they are not sixually attracted to their partner. On the flip side, understand that some asixuals are six-repulsed (meaning that six may make them feel intensely uncomfortable, and even the thought of having six or anything voyeuristic could make them feel literally sick.)
Being asixual does not mean they do not like touch. Just because a person is asixual does not mean that they do not like touch. They just do not have any desire for any kind of sixual touch. Some asixuals can be touch averse, however. Touch aversion and the lack thereof depend on the person and not their sixual orientation. It would be best to ask.
Avoid thinking of asixuals as having a disorder.They do not choose to be asixual, and many asixuals are perfectly happy being asixual and feel that there is no need to "cure" asixuality. Being asixual usually changes little about a person's behavior; they may not even seem asixual by all outward appearances.
Understand that most asixuals are not asixual because they have been sixually abused. There is no known cause for being asixual, just as there is no known cause for any of the other sixual orientations...
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