question about kay Older Brother...

[appleblossomgirl]

I dont know if this is the correct board to put this post. It has been a long time since i last posted here.. 

anyway, i just have this small question, that I dont know the answer, or perhaps, i am just over thinking things.

i have a friend who is in a very nice relationship. although mejo strict un guy and possessive, masaya naman xa sa relationship nila. hindi xa nakakaalis ng bahay ng hindi xa sinusundo o hinahatid ni guy. if hindi available si guy, he asks his older brother para xa ang maghatid or magsundo kay girl.

recently, madalas na out of town si guy, so madalas din na si older brother ang nakakasama ni girl. small talks lang naman sila lagi kasi hindi naman talkative si older brother.

pero one time, older brother invited the girl to have a drink. vodka. so pumayag naman si girl. so they drank while watching movie sa haus. wala naman ibang nangyari, aside from na notice lang ni girl na biglang naging close si older brother sa knya.. lagi na xang tinetext, at yun pag inom nila, older brother sat beside her, which is never ginagawa ni older brother (usually sa opposite chair o one seat apart umuupo)...kahit sa car, madalas nya na mahuli si older brother na nakatingin sa kanya..

the question is... Is there something strange going on? o baka nga na o over analyze lang namin ang situation.. and there is nothing to be worried about...

[jamesbond]

i got your point straight up... nadedevelop na siguro si kuya... I think its about time for the girl to distance herself, that is of course if she wants it... little by little she will be eaten up kuya's company and before she knew it eh hulog na pala loob nya... so medyo iwas iwas na din if she truly wants his younger brother... there's no question about love but to be faithful is another thing...

[iceprince]

i got your point straight up... nadedevelop na siguro si kuya... I think its about time for the girl to distance herself, that is of course if she wants it... little by little she will be eaten up kuya's company and before she knew it eh hulog na pala loob nya... so medyo iwas iwas na din if she truly wants his younger brother... there's no question about love but to be faithful is another thing...

Tama ang sinabi mo sir jamesbond...

It is about being faithful sa kung sino ang karelasyon mo...

Ms. appleblossomgirl... It is better for your girlfriend to avoid, if not possible, limit the time na maiiwan silang magkasama nang Older Brother...

You just have to follow women's instincts on this...

It's not far off from the truth...
 

And I also have a girl friend with a similar case here in the Philippines...

About brother-in-law naman being a little too close dahil wala ang kapatid na lalake...

I told her to beware... Marami na akong nabasang Tagalog Stories na doon nagsisimula...
 

[appleblossomgirl]

i got your point straight up... nadedevelop na siguro si kuya... I think its about time for the girl to distance herself, that is of course if she wants it... little by little she will be eaten up kuya's company and before she knew it eh hulog na pala loob nya... so medyo iwas iwas na din if she truly wants his younger brother... there's no question about love but to be faithful is another thing...

palagay mo nga boss jamesbond e nadedevelop si older brother? baka naman sister na rin ang tingin sa knya?
anyway, nabanggit nun girl sa kin na 2 days ago, she had to go to a seminar, at tinwagan nya si younger brother. sabi ni younger bro eh paalis p lng xa sa kanila,(3hrs drive un) at ang sabi, si older bro daw e maaga na umalis sa kanila kaya makakarating xa ng maaga.. so un na nga, si older bro ang nag hatid sa knya sa seminar. after the seminar, dumating na si younger bro at xa na sumundo sa knya.. habang naglalakad sila palabas tumawag si older bro kay girl saying na andun xa inaantay si girl..nagulat si girl kasi bakit xa magiintay.. saka andun na nga si younger bro..  so pano nya iiwasan si older bro, kung si younger bro mismo ang nag ssbi kay older bro na samahan si girl pag wala xa?
Post Merge: December 01, 2014, 05:32:32 PM

It is about being faithful sa kung sino ang karelasyon mo...

Ms. appleblossomgirl... It is better for your girlfriend to avoid, if not possible, limit the time na maiiwan silang magkasama nang Older Brother...

You just have to follow women's instincts on this...

faithful naman si girl kay guy. yun lang naaasiwa na rin xa minsan kasi bigla ngang nagbago si older bro. kung dati isa lang ang lagi nag papaalala sa knya na mag ingat o wag makipag usap sa di kakilala, o wag mgbukas ng pinto pag di kilala ang nasa labas...ngayon dalawa na sila..

[iceprince]

Tutal wala pa naman si sir jamesbond...

Ako muna ang sasagot sa palagay kong dapat gawin...

palagay mo nga boss jamesbond e nadedevelop si older brother? baka naman sister na rin ang tingin sa knya?
anyway, nabanggit nun girl sa kin na 2 days ago, she had to go to a seminar, at tinwagan nya si younger brother. sabi ni younger bro eh paalis p lng xa sa kanila,(3hrs drive un) at ang sabi, si older bro daw e maaga na umalis sa kanila kaya makakarating xa ng maaga.. so un na nga, si older bro ang nag hatid sa knya sa seminar. after the seminar, dumating na si younger bro at xa na sumundo sa knya.. habang naglalakad sila palabas tumawag si older bro kay girl saying na andun xa inaantay si girl..nagulat si girl kasi bakit xa magiintay.. saka andun na nga si younger bro..  so pano nya iiwasan si older bro, kung si younger bro mismo ang nag ssbi kay older bro na samahan si girl pag wala xa?

It's a given na younger bro will ask older bro kapag hindi agad siya makakapunta...

Kaya mahirap...

Dapat iinform ni girl si younger bro about sa napapansin niya...

Banggitin din yung instance na andun na nga si Younger Bro tapos andun din si Older Bro...

Alam mo yun... Nagkukusa na kasi si Older Bro...

He got out of his way to do a thing na walang nagsasabi sa kanyang gawin...

Which could mean just one thing for almost all guys... In a point of view of a guy...

.1% would be what you think na sister na din ang tingin sa girl... which is very rare case...

99.9% would be what sir jamesbond have already said...
 

faithful naman si girl kay guy. yun lang naaasiwa na rin xa minsan kasi bigla ngang nagbago si older bro. kung dati isa lang ang lagi nag papaalala sa knya na mag ingat o wag makipag usap sa di kakilala, o wag mgbukas ng pinto pag di kilala ang nasa labas...ngayon dalawa na sila..

If dalawa na sila doing the same things...

It follows na same din ang feelings nila... Sa palagay mo...

Sasabihin ko ang sinabi ko sa girl friend ko about sa brother in law niya...

"Talk with your husband about his brother... That is the only way to stop o maiwasan ang pagkaasiwa... Let him decide for his own... Tutal kapatid niya yun and mas kilala niya yun..."
 

[Prime™]

Maybe.

We can't say for certain cause we're not there, but from the sounds of it, I think for sanity purposes the girl should distance herself a bit kesa magkagulo pa sila.

Thing is, if the older brother was actually trying to make some moves and has twisted his mind into thinking this behavior is healthy then the guy is a big douchebag and you can't trust douchebags. The girl is his brother's girlfriend.. How low can he get.

I'm not sure if the girl should bring this up to the guy, cause what if she was wrong and she causes a rift between the siblings, but on the other hand if the whole thing is making her uncomfortable, perhaps the best course of action is for her to tell her guy that she prefers to be fetched by him as much as possible and maybe make up some lame excuse that she doesn't want to impose on the big brother.

In hindsight, the boyfriend shouldn't be that possessive anyway, and the girl shouldn't have agreed to drink with the brother cause that could send the wrong signal specially if the guy was already thinking weird to begin with but that's a different matter.

Better na she takes active steps to distance herself from the brother but not in such an obvious and blatant fashion, mahirap na cause it can either make her look malicious or her guy becomes even more paranoid. There is still a chance na yeah baka nga innocent naman ng motivations niya, pero if hindi then just by simply hanging around the guy aggravates the situation. Better put out that fire soon before things get even weirder.

This is the kind of drama nobody EVER needs.

[iceprince]

Maybe.

We can't say for certain cause we're not there, but from the sounds of it, I think for sanity purposes the girl should distance herself a bit kesa magkagulo pa sila.

Thing is, if the older brother was actually trying to make some moves and has twisted his mind into thinking this behavior is healthy then the guy is a big douchebag and you can't trust douchebags. The girl is his brother's girlfriend.. How low can he get.

I'm not sure if the girl should bring this up to the guy, cause what if she was wrong and she causes a rift between the siblings, but on the other hand if the whole thing is making her uncomfortable, perhaps the best course of action is for her to tell her guy that she prefers to be fetched by him as much as possible and maybe make up some lame excuse that she doesn't want to impose on the big brother.

In hindsight, the boyfriend shouldn't be that possessive anyway, and the girl shouldn't have agreed to drink with the brother cause that could send the wrong signal specially if the guy was already thinking weird to begin with but that's a different matter.

Better na she takes active steps to distance herself from the brother but not in such an obvious and blatant fashion, mahirap na cause it can either make her look malicious or her guy becomes even more paranoid. There is still a chance na yeah baka nga innocent naman ng motivations niya, pero if hindi then just by simply hanging around the guy aggravates the situation. Better put out that fire soon before things get even weirder.

This is the kind of drama nobody EVER needs.

In some points... I agree with sir Prime...

I strongly believe that if there is a good relationhip...

One should be honest with how he or she feels...

Hindi kasi alam ni Younger brother na naasiwa na yung Girlfriend niya...

It would be both advantageous to all parties kung mabrought at mapag-usapan ang issue...

Para mawala na ang agam agam... Malay nga natin...

Namimiss interpret lang din nang girl...

Which would be clear kung makakausap ni Younger Brother si Older Brother...

Syempre in a very calm way of discussion...
 

[appleblossomgirl]

Maybe.

We can't say for certain cause we're not there, but from the sounds of it, I think for sanity purposes the girl should distance herself a bit kesa magkagulo pa sila.

Thing is, if the older brother was actually trying to make some moves and has twisted his mind into thinking this behavior is healthy then the guy is a big douchebag and you can't trust douchebags. The girl is his brother's girlfriend.. How low can he get.

I'm not sure if the girl should bring this up to the guy, cause what if she was wrong and she causes a rift between the siblings, but on the other hand if the whole thing is making her uncomfortable, perhaps the best course of action is for her to tell her guy that she prefers to be fetched by him as much as possible and maybe make up some lame excuse that she doesn't want to impose on the big brother.

In hindsight, the boyfriend shouldn't be that possessive anyway, and the girl shouldn't have agreed to drink with the brother cause that could send the wrong signal specially if the guy was already thinking weird to begin with but that's a different matter.

Better na she takes active steps to distance herself from the brother but not in such an obvious and blatant fashion, mahirap na cause it can either make her look malicious or her guy becomes even more paranoid. There is still a chance na yeah baka nga innocent naman ng motivations niya, pero if hindi then just by simply hanging around the guy aggravates the situation. Better put out that fire soon before things get even weirder.

This is the kind of drama nobody EVER needs.

nakakatuwa naman makarinig ng comments for guys. my friend was smiling while she was reading your comments though till now e naguguluhan pa rin xa. The fact na nothing is confirmed, it makes it more difficult for her. Di rin nya kasi masabi na the older bro is making"advances" nga sa knya. andun yun naiisip nya na what if ganun lang nga talaga si kuya.. baka napalagay na rin ang loob sa knya. pero un nga, nagiging awkward na yun situation. but telling younger bro about this , she thinks is a no-no.. she's scared on what the reactions might be. baka sa knya magalit kasi mapaghinala xa, o baka sa kuya magalit kasi he's making the girl uncomfortable.
sabi ni girl, nabanggit na nya dati na sana si younger bro na lng ang sumundo sa knya lagi, pero gnun ang sabi ni younger bro, na pag wala xa andun naman kuya nya.. malaki daw tiwala nya sa kuya nya..
as much as possible ayaw na nya makasama un older bro.. kaya if may pupuntahan xa at wala si younger bro, di na lang xa umaalis...

[razorsharp]

I dont know if this is the correct board to put this post. It has been a long time since i last posted here.. 

anyway, i just have this small question, that I dont know the answer, or perhaps, i am just over thinking things.

i have a friend who is in a very nice relationship. although mejo strict un guy and possessive, masaya naman xa sa relationship nila. hindi xa nakakaalis ng bahay ng hindi xa sinusundo o hinahatid ni guy. if hindi available si guy, he asks his older brother para xa ang maghatid or magsundo kay girl.

recently, madalas na out of town si guy, so madalas din na si older brother ang nakakasama ni girl. small talks lang naman sila lagi kasi hindi naman talkative si older brother.

pero one time, older brother invited the girl to have a drink. vodka. so pumayag naman si girl. so they drank while watching movie sa haus. wala naman ibang nangyari, aside from na notice lang ni girl na biglang naging close si older brother sa knya.. lagi na xang tinetext, at yun pag inom nila, older brother sat beside her, which is never ginagawa ni older brother (usually sa opposite chair o one seat apart umuupo)...kahit sa car, madalas nya na mahuli si older brother na nakatingin sa kanya..

the question is... Is there something strange going on? o baka nga na o over analyze lang namin ang situation.. and there is nothing to be worried about...

if you think there's something going on, or if u even suspect there's something remotely going on - then there IS something going on. period. syet tama na ang paligoy-ligoy haha.

[fayt]

ganito ang napapala ng kakatambay dito sa PT... tumataas ang hinala level sa ganyan...

sa ngayon malabo pang masasabi na "there is" at malabo rin naman masasabi na "there is not". Ang point ko lang naman, kulang pa ang detalye para matukoy ang mga bagay bagay. Kung mauupdate to ni ts baka dun meron na tayo makuhang hint.

base kasi sa post eh may hinahanap pa akong update na magiging turning point neto..

normal level pa lang kasi ang ginagawa ng brother nya sa kanyang kapatid ehh....

[iceprince]

ganito ang napapala ng kakatambay dito sa PT... tumataas ang hinala level sa ganyan...

sa ngayon malabo pang masasabi na "there is" at malabo rin naman masasabi na "there is not". Ang point ko lang naman, kulang pa ang detalye para matukoy ang mga bagay bagay. Kung mauupdate to ni ts baka dun meron na tayo makuhang hint.

base kasi sa post eh may hinahanap pa akong update na magiging turning point neto..

normal level pa lang kasi ang ginagawa ng brother nya sa kanyang kapatid ehh....

Pero IMHO, hindi normal ang kilos ni Older brother...

Especially, yung case na dalawa silang nagsundo...

It could be explained as misunderstanding...

But clearly meron intent na magsundo kahit hindi instructed...

Siguro nga medyo kulang pa ang inputs ni TS...

Ms. appleblossomgirl, maari bang makapagbigay ng other details...

Am I right in assuming na kaya sila strict dahil sa mayroong culture difference...

Are they from the same countries... Or magkaiba lang ng religious beliefs...

Which would be a major factor na hinahanap ni sir fayt...
 

[fayt]

ano pong nagsundo silang dalawa? kung eto yun sinusundo ni older brother ang girl, wala naman ako nakikitang malisya dun.. pwede gawin ng kapatid nya yun lalo na kuya pa sya at wala naman ako nakikitang masama

oh eto po bang case na ininvite nya ang kapatid nya para uminom.... well wala pa rin ako nakikitang masama dahil sa magkapatid sila, pwedeng gusto lang makilala pa ni older brother nya yun kapatid nya.. or bonding... kahit sabihin pa na tumitingin sa kanya ang kapatid nya.. Syempre, may time na titingin sa kanya ang kapatid nya dahil dalawa lang sila dun ehh... Pwede rin kasi sabihin na gusto lang na kapatid nya na makabonding ang kapatid nya na walang halong malisya o anu man...

kaya nasasabi ko na wala pa ako nakikitang turning point para masabi o maghinala ng kung ano ano man sa kuya nya.... imho.

[appleblossomgirl]

Happy new year!!

Sabi q sa knya, baka naman ganun lng talaga xa... Nagiging at ease lng xa... Anyway, sb ni girl sakin, madalas na si older bro na ang nagsusundo sa knya.. Minsan kahit mag leave sa work pra lng masundo xa.one time, inaya xa mag dinner sa isang resto, wala si younger bro nun time na yun.. Di nmn xa pmyag kasi nga naiilang xa.. Sbi take out nlng and dun nlng sa bahay sila kumain..habang iniintay si younger bro.. So pagdating sa haus, nagbihis si older bro, di nya close ang door ng bedroom, then went out na naka sando and boxers... Which is never din nya gngwa... Feeling ni girl inaakit xa ni older bro..

Nga pala... Nag suggest si older bro na dun na sa kanila tumira si girl with younger bro, kasi 3rooms sa flat nila..para daw di na xa gimastos sa rent..

[buloy]

hi, ms apple. baka naman taga PT si younger bro and gusto nyang magshare ng story nya sa "kwentong malandi thread" starring his older bro and gf