fallback after the break ups.. diverts or anything to forget.

[h00ver]

after a break up with my 6 years long relationship.. mahirap pero need makalimot.. for me naging effective yung outdoor activities specially wall climbing.. nakakawala ng stress... at the same time nakakalimot kahit paano..
Post Merge: August 09, 2014, 02:16:11 AMano naging fallback or divertions nyo mga idol para makalimot? baka may mas maganda idea.

[lovemarie]

Spend time with friends...get yourself busy with anything...work...hobby...but first of all you need to accept that it is over...grieve and then move on..

[Heathcliff]

We love in different degrees thus we deal with our pain in different ways...

Ironic as it may seem but falling in love and nurturing yourself to be in a relationship is easy... But to deal with it when it already  reached its end... Is not an easy thing to do... You cannot just will yourself to stand up and pick up the broken remnants of your heart without forcing your soul to be hurt even more... Moving on is something that must be felt inwardly... The willingness to accept the afternath... to eventually forgive yourself... And also to freely feel the need to give yourself another chance to start anew...

And to do that ... You must inevitably... Deal with the painful truth that you have lost something, someone so dear to you... Pain must be accepted, it must be felt... You have to let go yourself ... To be free to shed  your tears, be willing enough... To scream and pour out all the hurts that you're trying to suppress... Let it out..get rid of it...

Once you're done with it... That's the time... That you can readily say that even though you have lost a piece of yourself for that someone... You know that deep in your soul that you are capable of loving in such degree... And that you have survived the pains of that inevitable emotion.

... Nothing is more glorious than be able to feel the pain and turn it into something that will make your heart burst with life.

[DeaconFrost]

moving on is really just a state of mind, for me. you really can't forget if you keep remembering. you won't move on if you keep looking back. easier said than done, but it has to be done.  for me, it would be harder to move on if you really loved the person and made a terrible (and kind-of unforgiveable) mistake that broke the relationship.  that would be very difficult because you caused the pain.  but if you loved (or even not) the person so much, and that person is the one letting go, it's easier. because it's his/her loss, and not yours.

[nhibernate]

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks?

[Prime™]

For me, the only way is to make the most out of yourself. Use the extra time now that you are single to improve on the things you think you're lacking.

If you're overweight, take the time to workout. If you have personality issues, take the time to attend seminars or even read self help books. Anything that would improve YOU is what you should do.

I know it's easier said than done, but any minute dwelling on that other person is pointless. The thing is we are rarely in control of outside situations, and even rarer to be in control of other people. What's within your grasp is yourself, so take the time to fix yourself cause that's the only thing you are in 100 percent in charge of.

If you're in a bad situation, it's useless to feel bad about it. Why? If you can't do any thing about it, then why bother? It's okay to feel bad and to grief, you had a loss of of course that's how you would feel, but if you are constantly punishing yourself for something that happened even a long time again, don't you think you're being unfair to YOU? Naparusahan ka na once, why feel the need to undergo the same suffering time and time again? Even criminals get to be free after they have paid to their dues to society. The very fact that you have experience suffering means you have paid. Why feel the need to pay more? And more? And time and time again?

Once you feel you're better, go ahead and actively look out for a new relationship, there are billions of people in this world, it's statistically impossible that you won't find that awesome match for you. Just don't bring an extra baggage with you, cause that would be unfair to the new person.

Grudging against an ex is never a good thing, if you feel that you were treated unfairly and was scorned, still the best revenge is for that person to see that you are far better off without them.

[izzo_mack]

Still thinking which one is better.


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[jamesbond]

Wow... i'm not prepared for this... wala akong fall back ah.... hard pill to swallow i guess... hmmm.... palagay ko beer lang muna ang susubukan ko... tapos... i would rather play the songs which have been part of our days... yung mga happier moments... and i want to remember her that way b'coz she's too valuable to lose... that is kung heart broken nga ako... wala pa naman.... di pa handa sa ganyan...  Just the same, i'm playing those songs just to remember her always... para laging inspired and syempre kahit may pinagdadaanan hindi mo maiisip na humanap ng iba, tipong sya lang ang mundo ko.... worst case scenario? i dunno...


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