how would you know if you married to a wrong person?

[nick726]

 

can anyone give me a sign if you married a wrong person?

[jamesbond]

hmmm.... maraming signs yan, like patago tago ng cp when you are around, ang schedule nya magulo, and... teka nga muna sir, can you share muna to us as to why are you asking this question para maka-relate naman kami... Ito bang question mo is general? Nagtanong lang para malaman din namin kung advise ba hanap mo or generally speaking lang..... Balikan kita sir...

[¿m☺ÿ]

mahirap sagutin ito.... para sa akin kasi depende sa tao kung paano mo idi-deal ang sitwasyon...and knowing this will not do any good and really can not do anything if you are in the Philippines... you will just continue to resent knowing na mali ang desisyon na ikaw din naman ang may gawa.....

No matter how perfect a relationship is, there will always have a mole na kapag pinabayaan natin will get bigger.... Marraige is something we can work and improve and continue to nourish just like a plant kailangang alagaan.... so for me there is no right or wrong person to marry kasi it is a continous adjustment between 2 different person.....people can only suggest us to marry a person but accepting is our choice......

[fayt]

bakit nasa 'marriage' stage na ang relationship saka lang magtatanong kung tama ba ang kapartner ko for me...

hindi ba pag mag gf/bf na kayo dun na nahuhubog ang pagsasama nyo as partners. Dito palang sa stage na to most likely alam mo na kung ano ang meron sa partner mo mapapangit man ng ugali o attitude tyak lalabas yan sa ganitong stage palang ng relationship. Pero kahit gaano pa kapangit ng ugali, looks or attitude pero kung swak sa atin personality edi carry on lang.. Yayain lang naman natin pakasalan ang isang tao kung decided na tayo na sya na makakasama natin kahit ano pa sya. Tipong nafoforesee mo na magigng ganito na ang buhay mo kapag kasama mo sya at carry mo lahat lahat kung ano ang meron sa kanya...

ganun dapat pag nagyaya kang pakasalan ang kapartner mo. dapat walang tanong tanong na ganito dahil hindi biro ang marriage.. habang buhay mo pakikisamahan ang taong napili mo..

kahit anong pang manyare at kung alin man ang magbago dapat handa ka rin na tanggapin mo sya hindi pag ayaw mo na saka ka bibitaw..

kung sa tingin mo mali ang napakasalan mo then shaped her to make it right for you...

[nick726]

hmmm.... maraming signs yan, like patago tago ng cp when you are around, ang schedule nya magulo, and... teka nga muna sir, can you share muna to us as to why are you asking this question para maka-relate naman kami... Ito bang question mo is general? Nagtanong lang para malaman din namin kung advise ba hanap mo or generally speaking lang..... Balikan kita sir...

UU nga pala mukhang situational  nga yung tanung ko noh?

eto po kasi ang sitwasyun..

when i got married and even before i got married me and my wife always argue with almost everything it seems like nothing goes right to our relationship.. she wants me to do something that i dont want and i try my best to change and i mean i've change a lot since we get married all the things i used to do,the way i do something but still i sense that all my effort still not enough for her.. but here is the twist why ask the question..

   hmm kasi before i got married nag karoon ako ng kaibigan na babae and we are very close and we even treat each other as brother and sister. we are so close that most of our co worker frequently ask if we are lover or is there something romantic going on between us.. we just laugh about it..and because of our closeness inde nag kaka BF kasi na tatakot sa akin yung manliligaw nya or pinag seselosan ako ng manliligaw nya or yung iba kasi inde nya type mga ganun ba.. dahil nga wala syang BF naging mas close kami sa isat isa na parang mag BF na kami tlga except sa alam nyu na six thing.. so ako i know my limitation nung nag karoon ako ng opportunity mag abroad i took it kasi baka lumalim yung tinginan namin and masira ang family ko..

   Lumipas ang 2 yrs nakauwi ako my relatioship with my wife parang mas dumami ang arguments namin.. di namn sa babae pinag aawayan namin small thing lang talga.. naka balik na ako sa company ko dati nandun pa din yung friend ko and she got BF na kaso nung nakabalik ako bumalik yung sobra close namin lahat ng bagay pinag kakasunduan namin to the point nag break sila ng BF nya at ako naman mas lumalala ang sitwsyun namin ng wife..

HABA NG STORY ko noh.. so what you think? em i married to the wrong person?

[bibo21]

sabi nila it takes 7 years after marriage bago mo malaman or mapagdesisyunan kung sya ba talaga ang babae/lalake para sau.. it says that yun ung adjustment period para sa inyo in which, in my case it is very true.. me and wife been BF/GF for 7 years and decided to get married.. in 3 years para kaming aso't pusa.. away-bati, bati-away.. and pinanghawakan lang namin yung kasabihan na we have 7 years para maayos yung nangyayari samin.. then, aun we're running 14 years and still kami pa rin..

ang sa nakikita ko sayo sir, naicocompare mo kasi yung friend mo sa wife mo.. try mo kaya iwasan yung friend mo.. for your own good and for hers rin naman.. opinion lang po ha.. peace! 

[fayt]

i see...

yun una sinasabi mo na nag aaway kayo nun hindi pa kayo married... Sa kwento mo kasi tsong wala naman dahilan kung bakit mo pinakasalan yun partner mo not unless buntis sya kaya mo sya pinakasalan.. So I assume na hindi sya buntis at pinakasalan mo sya which is sign na mahal mo talaga ang partner mo for you to decide na pakasalan sya.

Then eto puro na kayo argument dahil sa kung ano ano nag iisip kana ng 'am i marrying a wrong person'... konti pa yan nararanasan mong argument between sa inyo ng partner mo.. dahil sa pinakasalan mo sya then it means na habang buhay mo sya makakasama. Yan mga away na yan, dapat iresolve thru proper communication. Lahat ng bagay nareresoba... Ask her... para magkaroon ng resolution yan problem nyo... It is too lame to think na mali ang pinakasalan mo or kulang pa ang info na sinasabi mo dito for you to think that way...

Ilan taon naba kayong kasal?

May kids?

[nick726]

bakit nasa 'marriage' stage na ang relationship saka lang magtatanong kung tama ba ang kapartner ko for me...

hindi ba pag mag gf/bf na kayo dun na nahuhubog ang pagsasama nyo as partners. Dito palang sa stage na to most likely alam mo na kung ano ang meron sa partner mo mapapangit man ng ugali o attitude tyak lalabas yan sa ganitong stage palang ng relationship. Pero kahit gaano pa kapangit ng ugali, looks or attitude pero kung swak sa atin personality edi carry on lang.. Yayain lang naman natin pakasalan ang isang tao kung decided na tayo na sya na makakasama natin kahit ano pa sya. Tipong nafoforesee mo na magigng ganito na ang buhay mo kapag kasama mo sya at carry mo lahat lahat kung ano ang meron sa kanya...

ganun dapat pag nagyaya kang pakasalan ang kapartner mo. dapat walang tanong tanong na ganito dahil hindi biro ang marriage.. habang buhay mo pakikisamahan ang taong napili mo..

kahit anong pang manyare at kung alin man ang magbago dapat handa ka rin na tanggapin mo sya hindi pag ayaw mo na saka ka bibitaw..

kung sa tingin mo mali ang napakasalan mo then shaped her to make it right for you...

Hmm..yes i agree sa sa BF/GF stage nahuhubog ang rlationship but maraming bagay ang malalaman mo lang pag mag-asawa na kayo kasi malaki pag kakaiba ng BF/GF stage sa married life..
and yung shape her to be the right person.. does this mean i have to change her or force her to change for me? parang may mali po?
 matanung ko lang po MArried na po ba ikaw?

BUt anyways thanks for the opinion and advice...

[fayt]

Hmm..yes i agree sa sa BF/GF stage nahuhubog ang rlationship but maraming bagay ang malalaman mo lang pag mag-asawa na kayo kasi malaki pag kakaiba ng BF/GF stage sa married life..
and yung shape her to be the right person.. does this mean i have to change her or force her to change for me? parang may mali po?
 matanung ko lang po MArried na po ba ikaw?

BUt anyways thanks for the opinion and advice...

yeah im married... when i say you shaped her it does not mean you will do it forcefully... syempre walang magandang nanyayare sa pwersahan.. ang ibig sabihin ko po neto, try to live with her life. limit kung ano ang may mali sa kanya. dont tolerate mga bagay na mali pero at the same time hindi mo sya nililimit sa kung ano ang gusto nyang gawin sa buhay. Proper guidance lang from both of you.. Tama ka maraming big changes pag nasa marriage stage na ang relationship, pero the fact na pinakasalan mo sya it means na tanggap mo sya kahit sino pa sya at tatanggapin mo kung ano pa ang malalaman mo sa kanya. Pwede mo diktahan kung ano magiging takbo ng relationship nyo. Thru proper communication, respect, love, etc kaya mo ishape up yun relationship na gusto mo manyari. Marami pang adjustments ang mangyayare sa marriage life, pero kung paano mo iblblend ang personality nyo sa isat isa, yun ang essence ng stage na to....

[nick726]

yeah im married... when i say you shaped her it does not mean you will do it forcefully... syempre walang magandang nanyayare sa pwersahan.. ang ibig sabihin ko po neto, try to live with her life. limit kung ano ang may mali sa kanya. dont tolerate mga bagay na mali pero at the same time hindi mo sya nililimit sa kung ano ang gusto nyang gawin sa buhay. Proper guidance lang from both of you.. Tama ka maraming big changes pag nasa marriage stage na ang relationship, pero the fact na pinakasalan mo sya it means na tanggap mo sya kahit sino pa sya at tatanggapin mo kung ano pa ang malalaman mo sa kanya. Pwede mo diktahan kung ano magiging takbo ng relationship nyo. Thru proper communication, respect, love, etc kaya mo ishape up yun relationship na gusto mo manyari. Marami pang adjustments ang mangyayare sa marriage life, pero kung paano mo iblblend ang personality nyo sa isat isa, yun ang essence ng stage na to....

wow sounds very easy pag galing sa inyo pero parang hirap gawin.. well thanks bro.. i think you are very optimistic person based on your advice thanks bro...
Post Merge: April 28, 2014, 11:46:48 PM

sabi nila it takes 7 years after marriage bago mo malaman or mapagdesisyunan kung sya ba talaga ang babae/lalake para sau.. it says that yun ung adjustment period para sa inyo in which, in my case it is very true.. me and wife been BF/GF for 7 years and decided to get married.. in 3 years para kaming aso't pusa.. away-bati, bati-away.. and pinanghawakan lang namin yung kasabihan na we have 7 years para maayos yung nangyayari samin.. then, aun we're running 14 years and still kami pa rin..

ang sa nakikita ko sayo sir, naicocompare mo kasi yung friend mo sa wife mo.. try mo kaya iwasan yung friend mo.. for your own good and for hers rin naman.. opinion lang po ha.. peace! 

hahaha nice advice i'll try to do that bro..kahit parang mahirap..

[fayt]

well.... may anak po ba kayo boss?

ilan taon na po kayong kasal?

matagal na ba kayo nag aaway?

[marinero]

Hirap lang sa Pinas, mahirap magpa-annul ng marriage... Well let me rephrase that... Madali kung may pera ka... Mahirap kung wala... Kaya kung mag aasawa ka, pag isipan at kilalanin mabuti ang mapapangasawa...


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[Prime™]

bakit nasa 'marriage' stage na ang relationship saka lang magtatanong kung tama ba ang kapartner ko for me...

hindi ba pag mag gf/bf na kayo dun na nahuhubog ang pagsasama nyo as partners. Dito palang sa stage na to most likely alam mo na kung ano ang meron sa partner mo mapapangit man ng ugali o attitude tyak lalabas yan sa ganitong stage palang ng relationship. Pero kahit gaano pa kapangit ng ugali, looks or attitude pero kung swak sa atin personality edi carry on lang.. Yayain lang naman natin pakasalan ang isang tao kung decided na tayo na sya na makakasama natin kahit ano pa sya. Tipong nafoforesee mo na magigng ganito na ang buhay mo kapag kasama mo sya at carry mo lahat lahat kung ano ang meron sa kanya...

ganun dapat pag nagyaya kang pakasalan ang kapartner mo. dapat walang tanong tanong na ganito dahil hindi biro ang marriage.. habang buhay mo pakikisamahan ang taong napili mo..

kahit anong pang manyare at kung alin man ang magbago dapat handa ka rin na tanggapin mo sya hindi pag ayaw mo na saka ka bibitaw..

kung sa tingin mo mali ang napakasalan mo then shaped her to make it right for you...

I agree with this completely. Marriage is something to be taken seriously, kaya it's best not to get married in the first place kung discumpiado ka at di sigurado.

As for most marriage already on the rocks, I'm sure meron pa naman hope, if you guys can let go of your own egos and remember the very qualities you liked about each other and the very reasons why you got married in the first place, baka the bad air will clear up.

Granted meron talagang legitimate na problems like you unknowingly married a psychotic person, or abusive and nananakit then and there you should look for any means of separation.

Pero if nagkakainisan lang ng konti and nag papaligsahan against each other,  baka may paraan pa.

I will not presume to know what should be done with your situation. Frankly I don't know. Depende yan eh, pano if gusto mo pa, tapos ayaw naman nung isa, edi wala din.

Talk it out, pero always save your dignity. Be a man. No one wants to be married to a pussy. Kung ayaw, wag mo pilitin, pero if sa tingin mo sayo ang problema then improve it.

The grass is always greener somewhere else, you're married to your wife, your wife should be the first chick you think of. That should be her privilege, after all what's the benefit in marrying you if you put the one you married in the back burner and still be fixated with another person.

Be fair.

Mas alam mo yan, but in reading your post, sounds like you're looking for a greener pasture. Maybe not, maybe so but like I said mas alam mo yan.

There is no such thing as "the one". It's all Hollywood bullshit. Love your own, that's my advice.

Good luck mate.