Im worth alot

[rnice]

Subject: FW: I am worth a lot

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the
question, "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking,
"Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."

She began to expound...

"As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do
for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my
household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the
position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to
money.

She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to
money. I need something more."

"I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.

She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection
mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't
need a simple-minded man."

"I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually
because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with
unbelievers is a recipe for disaster."

"I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a
financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand
what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded."

"I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive,I must
respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his
business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be worthy. God
made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help
himself."

When she finished her spiel, she looked at him. He sat there with a
puzzled look on his face. He said, " You're asking a lot."

She replied, "I'm worth a lot." 


nag send ang wife ko nito sa email before pako nanliligaw sa kanya, then ngayon may dalawang na kaming anak nag send sya ulit nito mga last month lang.gusto kung malinawan kasi. kailangan ko ng advice nyo at maraming salamat sa makaka basa.

[Prime™]

I don't know much about your situation, nor a good advice I could give you. Maybe she's asking you to act more like a man? Be independent, don't ask her for her approval and do what you think is right not only for you but for your family? Hindi ko kasi alam ang situation mo, this is what I picked up from that message.

Anyway in hindsight, while reading your article, one thing that pops in my mind is I know you're worth a lot; but what about what I want? I'm worth a lot too. What benefit would I get if I were to let you into my life?

It's a two-way streets holmes. Di pwedeng give lang ng give. You guys should be partners in life. As a man it's not your job to give then what they want, but it's your job to give them what they need.

[rnice]

thanks prime but its too late now co'z she give up me last sunday,parehas kaming nasa ibang bansa pero mag kaiba, nasa pinas ang dalawang anak namin si nanay nya nag babantay at kasambahay na pamangkin ko,graduate sya ako hindi sa madaling salita mas malaki ang kita nya,ako maliit lang lalo na di maganda ang napuntahan kung kumpanya alam kung di sasapat padala ko sa 12k a month dahil nag papadala rin sya wala akong ibang pinag kaka abalahan sadyang maliit talaga kita ko alak paminsan minsan sigarilyo oo.sya di ko alam kung mag kano sahod nya sa totoo lang, ang alam ko lagi sya sa mall sa pasyalan kasama office mate,kain sa susyal na resto,kapit bahay ang pinas o singapore,ako umalis ako ng pinas sumugal ako sa 130k na placement fee para mag katrabaho ng maganda kahit saan ko hinagilap yon kundi pa sya sinabihan ni nanay di nya ako mabibigyan ng konti,hindi ako umasa sa kanya dahil wala akong trabaho sa pinas noon pero habang nag hahanap ako ginawa ko ang lahat sa kanila na hindi ko ginawa sa kapatid ko at magulang dahil nahihiya ako sa mga biyanan ko mag laba,magluto,mag kumpuni ng bahay,mamalengke ginawa kong simpleng pang araw-araw para lang di masabi na wala akon hiya,

pero ngayon dumating ang malaking problema nagkatanggalan sa company nila kasama sya,pauwi na sya this month by june naman tapos na contract ko wala din akong ipon dahil pinapadala ko sa kanila,may offer sakin ulit ang kumpanya ko na bumalik ulit sa maliit na placement fee additional ng konti,wala akong ibang choice dahil wala na syang trabaho kailangan ko lang talaga mag partime pag tapos sa kumpanya namin.

pero last sunday tinalikuran na nya ko hindi ko raw kaya ang responsibilidad ko at wala daw akong tiwala sa kanya,kasi sinita ko sya bakit lagi nya kong tinataguan alam kung nasa labas sya pero 80 miss call di nya sinasagot tapos sasagutin lang pag nasa bahay na, lagi syang naka hide sakin sa skype at fb.di rin sya tumatawag o nag ttxt sakin,wala na rin care,hay

anyway thanks sa comment mo prime kailangan kung mag dasal para maliwanagan kami alang alang sa anak namin.

[Heathcliff]

Sorry to say this but, Egoista yang partner mo... BABAE... Nde sa lahat ng oras dapat ganyan mentality... At hindi sa lahat ng oras... Uugallin at ksilangan ang label ng pagiging babae ay ganyan.

By nature we are the weaker gender... Pero hindi naman dapat sagad sagaran ang demand sa partner! Oo dapat pamilyahin kami.. Maging maayos kayo na provider samin.. But i think depende yan sa sitwasyon... Hindi tama na dahil lang sa financial problem tatalikuran ka...

Acceptable sa soceity noon... Ang lalaki sa kanya lahat ang Responsibilty... But hindi na ganyan ngayon dahil iba na ang takbo ng buhay... Kung ang mag asawa hindi magtutulungan... Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon at sa taas ng bilang ng mga jobless ngayon... Hindi magsusurvive yan... Sa pagsasama .. Tulungan yan.. Dapat magkatuwang sa lahat ng bagay...

Sa lagay, dahil konti lang income mo... Iiwan ka na? Bakit.., did you tell her about her lifestyle na laging nasa mall... At lagi sya naglilimayon?? At ngayon ikaw ang nasa ganyan sitwasyon aalis sya...?!

... Tsk! Ang lalaki... Hindi makina na sumusuka ng pera.. Tao yan! Naghahanap buhay... May kahinaan ... Napapagod din! Hindi dapat sinasabi babae ako, im worth a lot you shud do this... Give this to me... And that... Hah! Wala tayo sa panahon ni mahoma...!

Magtrabaho ka! Kung maluho ka at nde kaya ibigay ng partner mo.. Have at least the decency to take it from your own pockets at wag sa kanya...hindi dapat isumbat na kulang ang ibinibigay.. Kung hanggang dun lang ang capacity nya... In the first place bago naging kayo.. More or less may idea na yung babae anong financial status mo... Kung nakikita naman na kailangan ng lalaki ang tulong ... Tuwangan mo... Itikom ang bibig wag ka manumbat... Afterall yan ang pinili mo... È kung hindi e... Di dapat banker na multi millionaire ang pinili nya..!

Sus! You are worth a lot if you know how to appreciate your man's worth too...! Hindi sya alkansya para bigyan ka ng pera... Bonus na at swerte kung talagang ok ang status ng lalaki pero kung hindi ... Sablay na isipin pa yang worth worth na yan... Lalo kung may mga bata... Ang dapat isipin pano isusurvive ang pamilya sa mabigat na financial problem meron sila...







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[Prime™]

@rnice

Sorry to hear that buddy. Life goes on, you have kids that depend on you. The best thing you can do is make the best out of yourself.

If she learns that you're miserable and defeated, it would only reinforce her belief that it was right to leave you in the first place. Pakita mo na dapat she stuck around with you and should have been behind you through thick and thin. Easier to say than done but pick yourself up and dust yourself off.

If finances is your problem then take care of it, once you have that fixed, go find a better partner. It's her choice to no longer be a part of your life, but it's your choice to make sure the next person that comes in is a part of something better. Now your learned your lesson, it's not too late for you. Buhay ka pa and sounds like you still have many years ahead of you. In this life there is only one main character, and that's you. You decide what happens to that character and how it's going to pan out.  We only live once, make it count, not only for yourself but your children too.

Life goes on holmes. Good luck in whatever decision you choose to make.

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@rnice

i was just reading some of the post here to relax and have a break from what i'm doing here in the office. I'm really touch sa nabasa ko dito... sorry to hear that you have a problem.....

Nakakalungkot malaman ang ganitong sitwasyon, i may not know you but i can feel the pain that you are going through right now. It is not really simple but i hope you can go through it, through life in a better way.

I'm also an OFW, working abroad for more than 11 years. Napakahirap lalo na kapag may problema, maliit man o malaki the effect is really something we can not shake-off even if we try harder. I'm just glad na i always go thru it, in one way or another.... and i'm sure you can find yours.

The only thing that you can do right now, just like what 'tol Prime said,"life goes on." At least you have kids to concentrate and look out for their future. Don't let this situation bring you down but make it as an advantage, and a strength to prove that you are better than your wife thinks of you, not that you want to prove her wrong but for the betterment of your children.

God bless you and guide you for the better....

[jamesbond]

  so it was finally over with you and your wife... sorry to hear that mice... life goes on... maybe at the start of your relationship there was already a hint or a sign that it will not last... hmmm... i'm speechless, numbed for another failed marriage has come into fore....good luck... 

[rnice]

MARAMING SALAMAT SA ADVICE NYO AND CONCERN I TRY TO CALL HER  PARA MAAYOS,PERO AYAW NYANG SAGUTIN,ITS HARD BUT I NEED TO ACCEPT AAAAHHH ITS BLOWING MAY MIND,EMOTIONAL,PSYCHOLOGICAL,I FEEL FULL OF DARKNESS.

[arthas™]

MARAMING SALAMAT SA ADVICE NYO AND CONCERN I TRY TO CALL HER  PARA MAAYOS,PERO AYAW NYANG SAGUTIN,ITS HARD BUT I NEED TO ACCEPT AAAAHHH ITS BLOWING MAY MIND,EMOTIONAL,PSYCHOLOGICAL,I FEEL FULL OF DARKNESS.

TS just an off topic. Please avoid all caps when posting. Thanks!


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[bryanbonifacio]

Mukhang nanlalamig ang asawa mo T.S. Try to think kung ano ang mga dahilan kung baket siya nagkakaganyan. Goodluck sayo. Sana magkaayos na kayo.

[toshka]

TS nakakalungkot nangyari sa inyo ng wife mo. Hope na maayos pa kayo.

Naalala ko tatay ko sa sitwasyon mo. Similar ng nangyari sa kanya ang sitwasyon mo ngayon. Naghiwalay sila ng nanay ko ng nagabroad si ernats mga bata pa kami nun ng kapatid ko. Devastated erpats ko laging lasing, depressed at insecure.

Nakapagtapos kami sa pagaaral ng kapatid ko ng magisa lang erpats ko. Lahat na ata ng klase ng raket e ginawa nya makatapos lang kami. Di kami lumaki ng may marangyang buhay kahit malayo nanay namen di nagkulang erpats namen sa paggabay samen. Ngayon pareho kami nasa abroad ng kapatid ko at may magandang trabaho, yun e dahil sa kami na lang inisip nya at hinayaan na lang ang nanay ko sa gusto nya. Now my dad, we spoil him para maisukli lahat ng paghihirap nya.

TS napakahirap ng pinagdadaanan mo at kung hindi na kayo maayos ni esmi mo yung mga anak mo na lang muna isipin mo.

[rnice]

maraming salamat sa inyo sa mga payo nyo, pero inaalala ko lang anak namin di baleng talikuran nya ko wag lang nyang ilayo sakin ang mga anak namin,dahil baka di ko makayanan pa, mahal ko ang asawa ko pero di ko sya mapipigilan kung talikuran nya ko,alam kung nandyan si lord para tulungan akong maayos ito.