Does He Really Love Me?A romantic relationship is never meant to be easy. Because if it was easy, then that relationship is not worth fighting for.
However, romantic relationships do not have to be super complicated despite the fact that they require a certain amount of hard work, trust, forgiveness, and patience from every couple for their relationships to last forever.
Unfortunately, almost every relationship goes through tough times, and often, when the waves of problems get incredibly hard to overcome, some couples find start to find dents in their relationships that can no longer be fixed.
One such dent in a relationship is when you start to question if your boyfriend or husband really loves you.
The insecurity you feel about your man’s love for you is a plague that can destroy your relationship fast as it eats away the very foundations of your romance which are love, trust, and respect.
When you begin to wonder if your man really loves you, the best way to find out is to figure it out for yourself before the insecurity you feel ruins your relationship for good.
Here are ways to make sure that you man is truly, madly, deeply in love with you.
Words are wind, and it is also true for most relationships. Sometimes words of affection are not enough proof that your man is still madly in love with you.
There are times that you need to feel it and see acts of love instead of just hearing fancy words coming out of your man’s mouth.
Are his kind and gentle words proof enough that he loves you? Or does he prove his love for you by showing it through actions? Sometimes, you do not need to witness grand gestures of love just to know that your boyfriend or husband really loves you.
He does not have to surprise you with a wedding proposal on a daily basis. Most of the time, it is the simple gestures that matters.
# He makes you breakfast in bed every weekend mornings.
# He always writes short romantic poems on Post-It notes and sticks them on your morning coffee.
# He drives you on and off to work even when your office is miles from his.
# He surprises you with your dream vacation because he knows that you need to de-stress yourself from work.
Just think of it this way, if you shut your guy’s mouth with a glue gun and measure his love for you by his actions alone, would he pass or fail?
Another determiner of your man’s love for you is when he makes you a crucial part of every major decision he makes.
You are an integral part of his life now, so every important decision he makes for himself should include you. Your two cents matter for him before he makes his final decision.
If your man can go through his life and make crucial decisions for his career or personal plans without asking for your opinion, then that might be a sign that he does not put you in his list of priorities.
If you are only seeing each other for weeks, then that should not be an issue. However, if you have been together for years and most of his new decisions would go against the plans you both made for as a couple, then there is clearly something wrong with your relationship.
It does not necessarily mean that he always have to succumb to your decisions because it is not healthy if you always make the final decision for him.
He just needs to share his plans with you and weigh in your opinion before he makes his final judgment resolute.
If he does not include you in his plans, then that shows that he only has plans for himself, so you better get going with your life and find a man who values you as a partner.
One final aspect of knowing whether your man loves you or not is if he respects and loves himself the way you value him as your boyfriend or husband.
Remember that when a man does not love or respect himself, then you cannot expect him to love or respect other people as well.
Look at your partner and check how he treats himself when he is with you or with other people. Do you sense self-hatred? Does he make a lot of self-deprecating remarks about himself? Does he feel depressed most of the time?
When you witness any of these from your boyfriend or husband, then you should not question why you feel unloved by him. Your man does not have enough love to give himself, so he cannot give you the love that you think you deserve.
Sometimes, he requires your help to get to the root of this emotional baggage, so he can start loving himself more and provide you with the love and attention that you deserve as his partner.
Check these aspects of your relationship, and if you find that your partner truly loves you, then you are a very lucky woman. However, if you find that there is a basis for your doubts, then it is high time that you have an honest talk with your man.
Sometimes, love is long gone before both of you realize to end your relationship. If this happens, do not take it as a jab to your capability to give and receive love. You just need to find a better man whom you deserve and who deserves you.
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