How To Be Friends After It’s Over

[yannarose]

How To Be Friends After It’s Over
By JAMIE DELOS REYES   



I.

I will call you by your given name. Private nicknames are devious creatures; they make me feel like we have something that just the two of us have. There should be nothing that only the two of us have.

II.

Don’t tell me about your day.

Don’t ask about mine.

III.

Stop calling me on the phone. When we talk, you laugh a lot, and when you laugh I think of you happy and it makes me feel good and I want to make you laugh some more and only you and why does your voice sound like you’re smiling all the time? Make it stop.

IV.

I will provide you with my silence, give you space, because we need air and it’s getting harder to breathe when you’re near.

V.

Don’t tell me you’re tired from a long day, or you’re sad, or you’re confused or when you’re in a similar state. They make me want to give you hugs. Hugs are off limits. Hugs are traps.

VI.

Don’t tell me when you’re happy because I’d want to give you hugs during those moments too. I told you hugs are traps because they make my arms touch your arms and my chest touch your chest and make me smell your skin and make you whisper because you don’t have to be too loud anymore and when you whisper your lips are less than an inch from my…

See? Traps.

VII.

I will stop browsing your profile, and stop looking at my favorite picture of you, the one where I once thought “delicious” to describe your smile. A “delicious” smile? Such a ridiculous adjective for that noun. So ridiculous. But fall, I want to devour those lips so bad.

See how you make my verbs go haywire?

VIII.

Tell me her name. Tell me you love her. Help me like her. It’s harder to screw somebody over when you like them.

IX.

Remind me every day of her name. Please don’t let me forget. Force me to think of her name whenever I think of yours.

X.

I promise not to miss you. Not during the days I want to talk to you, not during your calls I ignore, not during the texts that go unread, not during those moments when my chest wants to cave in because it keeps telling me what an idiot I’m being for throwing away what could have been such a good thing.

XI.

Don’t cry for something we never really had and shouldn’t have.

Don’t cry.

We have no right to cry.

Fin.

Wish you were braver.




 

[monde8]

Sabi ng misis ko if your still friends with your ex ay its either that you still love him/her or you never loved him/her at all or kung hindi naman ay your still fukcing him/her.

 

[yannarose]

Sabi ng misis ko if your still friends with your ex ay its either that you still love him/her or you never loved him/her at all or kung hindi naman ay your still fukcing him/her.

 

falling talaga hahaha

Ahahaha i think possible naman talaga maging friends after the break up un lang dapat wala ng malisya dba and depende na din sa sitwasyon un..

[dere'k ™]

hahaha, ako naman eh halos naging ex ko friends parin naman hanggang ngaun... sa una medyo hindi nagkikibuan or hindi nagpapansinan pero later on makakamove on ang bawat isa, lalo na kung may pareho ng partner, well thats the time po na pwedi na kayong maging magkaibigan ulit

[nnelg06th]

Hahaha Ayos

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[¿m☺ÿ]

nice trend miss yanarose +karma sa iyo
nice answer sir monde, i like your answer +karma din sa iyo
nice answer din sir derek... +karma din sa iyo

personally for me, its really hard to make friends with your ex at least for a while after the break-up especially if its real love... its not like you spend lots of days thinking of her/him and telling yourself i love the person then suddenly, its all over and we're just friend.... in the real world, it doesn't go like that.... its either you don't care because you didn't really love your ex or you're hurt and its the reason you want to forget your ex to move on and just ease the pain somehow....

Kahit gaano natin kamahal ang isang tao, we can not just turn our backs in an instant... it will take time to heal wounds and adjust to the feeling... we also have pride even if its just a little to make things a lot harder to adjust.... only hypocrite don't feel this, either they hurt their heart or hurt their pride.... but eventually in time, things will heal and this is the only time we can accept friendship to its fullest......

[dere'k ™]

haha +k din sa iyo pareng imoy.... nice answer boss... only time can tell kung kelan maghihilom yung sugut, but definitely maghihilom yan....

[toshka]

mahirap to. saken personally i was never friends with ex after break up. kasi best thing to move on for me is umiwas. since medyo matagal na iniwasan at di nakausap malabo na maging magkaibigan.
isa reason din kasi napagseselosan pa ng current bf/gf kaya better not to communicate pa.

nangyari saken to na sinugod ako ng gf ni ex na ako naman e nananahimik at wala ginagawa masama.kaya after that di na kami naging friends man lang. nagsorry naman si ex napahiya din yung girl.

[arthas™]

Friends pa rin kami ng ex ko. Kinuha pa nga akong ninong ng panganay na anak nya pero syempre tinanggihan ko nyahahaha

[xkatrina]

nice article :]

sa akin naman, walang problema maging friends kayo ng ex mo as long as faithful ka pa rin sa partner mo ngayon.

[Prime™]

mahirap to. saken personally i was never friends with ex after break up. kasi best thing to move on for me is umiwas. since medyo matagal na iniwasan at di nakausap malabo na maging magkaibigan.
isa reason din kasi napagseselosan pa ng current bf/gf kaya better not to communicate pa.

nangyari saken to na sinugod ako ng gf ni ex na ako naman e nananahimik at wala ginagawa masama.kaya after that di na kami naging friends man lang. nagsorry naman si ex napahiya din yung girl.

Agree with tosh.

Yeah ayaw ko din. Just not worth the effort or trouble. Hi hello pero that's it, anything more than that for me would be forced and kinda awkward.