How to Text a Girl - The 5 Most Damaging Mistakes

[fayt]

Texting too often, too soon

This seems like a no brainer but it really is a very subtle thing, which even I as a texting guru have to be cautious with. Firing off a text right after meeting someone, often is not a good idea. Even if they are all over you, still show some restraint. Waiting a day or two to contact for the first time shows emotional maturity and power. Leaving the texting conversation first or not texting as often as she, communicates that you are in demand. Something as simple as this often plants a seed of doubt, which will draw her too you like iron to a magnet.

Being sixual

Texting too often, too soon is the most common texting mistake, but being overly sixual is the most damaging when texting girls. What a lot of guys don't get is that women have a built-in genetic fear of men that can be triggered with a sneeze. Don't believe me? Think for a second the level of sixual violence women have experienced over the last million years and you can imagine why this is hard-coded into female DNA.

If you have not created enough comfort in the relationship, sending even the slightest sixual text will trigger her "RUN AWAY!" impulse. She will perceive that the sixual is your only interest and if you are creepy in the SLIGHTEST, it's all over.

To double up on this fear, no woman, even the most promiscuous girl (believe me I have tested this) refuses to be perceived only for six. It might be 100% true that she wants to violate you to the same degree but you can't be the one open this door. When learning how to text a girl, make her feel safe first, and I assure you if there is attraction, sixual intimacy will follow.

Being overly aggressive/cocky

I just got a drunken email from a client, "I tried your advice and it backfired! Clearly your suggestions don't always work!" He apologized the next day, saying he was drunk and didn't mean to send the email. I asked him to show me what happened, and this is a synopsis of what he text a girl:

Him: You text me too often, you are cute, but not cute enough to text me this much

Her: Don't be so mean, what are you up to later?

Him: Not sure, might go out with your sister

Her: I don't have a sister

Him: What, no sister? Well I guess the three-way is out, got a cute friend?

Her: Um... are you drunk?

Okay, ouch... I don't like to see things like this since he clearly didn't listen to my advice on how to text a girl. There is a big difference between being cocky/funny and just being a jerk. He was on a high from his previous success but he took it too far with this girl.

The problem is when you run into a girl who can't hang with this or simply is clueless as to how to respond. Being arrogant, self-assured, and cocky MUST be balanced with playfulness AND you must sense your target. If you are playing tennis with a 5-year-old, lob the damn ball, don't send it flying at their face. (Better yet don't play with 5-year-olds)

Being too nice/boring

I see this all the time when I teach guys how to text girls. They don't know how to text a girl in a way that creates tension, creates attraction. Playing it safe is easy but gives the least return on your efforts. In other words, if you gamble at nickel slots, you will never get the large payout.

Him: Hey wow it was really great to meet you last night

Her: Yeah, you seem sweet

Him: I am, but you are not only sweet but so cute!

Her: Wow, you are not so bad yourself (She is flattered but mildly repulsed)

Him: So cutie, what are you doing tomorrow, love to buy you dinner

Her: Thanks so much but I have to... (Wash my hair, wax my bottom, etc)

Yes yes, you have all heard the nice guy never wins, but do you understand why? It isn't because women like jerks more, but it is because the jerk creates tension and that tension is sixy. Being nice creates safety but it is incredibly dull and does not create attraction. I know you have experienced the same thing with that really sweet, really cute girl you dumped. Why? Not because you are a bad guy, but simply because nice is boring and the tension of attraction didn't exist. When texting girls you must push the boundaries, you must be interesting, or you will never be successful.

Relationship ultimatums

This is more of a girl thing to pull, but I have received countless emails from guys who have violated this. Here are examples of horrible relationship ultimatum texts:

Hey I really like you and I would like to know where this is going?

If I text you I would really like a text back sooner, feel like you don't care

I feel like I am the only one working on this relationship

I am not cool with you having so many guy friends

I really like you and I don't want to play any more games

All of these texts are communicating, "I am weak, I need reassurance that you care, you have more power than me, I am jealous, and I am acting like a girl." If you write this kind of text you are forcing her into a more male role and she will act accordingly and run away just like you would. Let her move towards you first, then tell her you feel the same. Always keep the balance when texting girls, always be the one in control of your emotions.


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[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

tip lang di porket nag pakilala ka na eh pwede ka na magtanong ng kung ano ano agad sa text

ex. hi im badong 24, can you add me on ym or fb?

that is a big no no turn off yan sa akin at sa mga ibang girls

di rin pwede yun overconfidence or cockyness

ex. hi im badong i like you and you have no where to go but with me,

duh? sino ka naman para mag sabi niyan,

di rin pwede yun bibigyan mo agad siya ng endearment

ex. hi babe, im badong whats, yours?

mag isip muna bago mag text

di rin pwede yun feeling close ka agad

ex, hi im badong  hows your day? kumaen ka na ba?

hellow kilala ka naba niya para sabihin mu yun?

start it with being nice, have some respect and some sort of decency

and most importantly if your given an inch don't go running for a mile

[fayt]

tip lang di porket nag pakilala ka na eh pwede ka na magtanong ng kung ano ano agad sa text

ex. hi im badong 24, can you add me on ym or fb?

that is a big no no turn off yan sa akin at sa mga ibang girls

di rin pwede yun overconfidence or cockyness

ex. hi im badong i like you and you have no where to go but with me,

duh? sino ka naman para mag sabi niyan,

di rin pwede yun bibigyan mo agad siya ng endearment

ex. hi babe, im badong whats, yours?

mag isip muna bago mag text

di rin pwede yun feeling close ka agad

ex, hi im badong  hows your day? kumaen ka na ba?

hellow kilala ka naba niya para sabihin mu yun?

start it with being nice, have some respect and some sort of decency

and most importantly if your given an inch don't go running for a mile

mukang may pinagdaanan ahhh lol.. thanks for the tip

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

explaining thing like this is simple when it's based on experience

and the topic it self is about how to text a girl so whats more better than a girl

explaining this one, i can explain this further more just got tired typing hihihihi

[fayt]

so nice sa text pala.. i see..

may ibang girl kasi iba yun dating pag masyado assertive ang text

i guess iba iba pa rin hehe

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

so nice sa text pala.. i see..

may ibang girl kasi iba yun dating pag masyado assertive ang text

i guess iba iba pa rin hehe

iba iba nga talaga meron yun mga malandi talaga mga hidatad na nagkalat jan

pero yun usual decent girl na type niyo malayo sa mga higad na yan you know what i mean

kahit sinong lalake tanungin mo yun type nila eh di maladi

[fayt]

hahaha.... malandi na ba agad yun lol

yeah tama ka mostly including me like very decent girl..

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

hahaha.... malandi na ba agad yun lol

yeah tama ka mostly including me like very decent girl..

see kita mo tama ang sinasabi ko

apply mo kasi eto pag ako share ng mga ganitong topic

1. Rai is Always Right

2. try to understand first before asking questions

3. if anything is wrong reffer to #1

anyway back to the topic

okay flirt na lang ang itawag mo sa kanila

at di lahat ng babae same ang gusto may mahilig sa sports

drama, etc, so when opening topics to them see to it that they have some interest of it

ex.hi si badong to napanood mo na ba yun latest na drama ni maria ozawa?

yan something like that kung gusto nun girl yun topic maybe

she would bother texting you

[fayt]

see kita mo tama ang sinasabi ko

apply mo kasi eto pag ako share ng mga ganitong topic

1. Rai is Always Right

2. try to understand first before asking questions

3. if anything is wrong reffer to #1

anyway back to the topic

okay flirt na lang ang itawag mo sa kanila

at di lahat ng babae same ang gusto may mahilig sa sports

drama, etc, so when opening topics to them see to it that they have some interest of it

ex.hi si badong to napanood mo na ba yun latest na drama ni maria ozawa?

yan something like that kung gusto nun girl yun topic maybe

she would bother texting you

huh? always right? you? lol.

on topic

for men to get reply to a girl, mag text ng weird..

sample:

nun pumunta ako sa zoo ikaw ang naalala ko..

in this way you will get a reply hahaha

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

huh? always right? you? lol.

on topic

for men to get reply to a girl, mag text ng weird..

sample:

nun pumunta ako sa zoo ikaw ang naalala ko..

in this way you will get a reply hahaha

well pag yan sinabi mo expect na mura ang reply kung magrereply pa siya if ever

[fayt]

well pag yan sinabi mo expect na mura ang reply kung magrereply pa siya if ever

mostly ganyan ang reply... pero may mga girls they found out weird or strange ang text kaya dun na magsisimula curiosity nila and will lead to conversation and etc..

siguro ang ratio 30-70 70 being mura ang reply dahil mga babae kadalasan graceful sila at hindi nila mumurahin ang nagtext na ganyan hehe

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

well base mo na lang sa mga example ko kung wala ka maisip

then gayahin mo yun last example ko

[serestro09]

basa basa lng hahaha ^_^

[arthas™]

i have made a lot of mistakes pagdating sa text. i think i'm being too nice kaya naiiwan ako sa friend zone.

[chillout]

nice tips. problema ko siguro yung being too nice/boring ang dating ko  sa mga girls na gusto ko. sa iba kasi, masaya nman daw ako kausap/katext.