Help me

[rnice]

Kailangan ko po ang advice nyo kasi may mga sign ang wife ko na meron na syang iba, tulad ng ayaw nya ng six basta ayaw daw nya,yung celfon nya at gamit na bag na panglakad tinatago nya sa kabinet ng nanay nya iba narin kilos nya hindi sya nag aahit ng pubic hair pero ngayon ginagawa na nya,nagtatrabho sya sa malaysia sa kl nagbakasyon lang sya ngayon pasko at bagong taon,meron kaming dalawang anak na lalaki 2 at 9 kakauwi ko lang ng june pero sa taiwan naman,hindi ko alam gagawin ko hirap na ko sobrang sakit ang ginagawa nya mahal ko anak ko ayaw ko ng broken family gusto kung malaman ang karapatan ko pano ko makakasurvive sa sitwasyon gusto na nyang makipaghiwalay.sana matulungan nyo ko ,gusto ko rin sana na mahuli sya pero wala na kung ipon naubos na sa kapapadala ng pera. Oh god help me ang bigat wala akong masabihan ng nararamdaman ko.

[Prime™]

Damn man, that really sucks. Out of all the problems here, siguro yours would be the most serious one I've even encountered, in recent memory.

I can't tell you anything that would help you right now, una my solution sa ganyan isn't that much applicable sayo cause you are married with kids. I would say hiwalayan mo na and get yourself a new person in your life pero this is a whole lot easier said than done lalo na may anak kayo.

Ang maipapayo ko lang, wag kang maging talunan. If ayaw na niya sayo, then accept it. Try to move on with civility. You mentioned that she is your wife, meaning you are legally married right, I'm also supposing married in the Philippines? Perhaps others could chime in lalo na with knowledge of the law on how you can go about legally separating. If you're asking about legalities and technicalities, perhaps you may want to create a thread in our Legal section.

I do not want to judge, or jump into conclusions. I'm just working on what you've mentioned here, and based on what you said, I cannot blame you for thinking that way cause there are a lot of red flags there. I've always believed in the first strike rule, when a girl cheats there shouldn't be any second chances, otherwise ikaw lang ang mahihirapan; BUT I digress, again you have no proof of her infidelity just some big signs of it.

Have the benefit of the doubt pero prepare yourself. Have you tried talking to her one on one? I mean really talk to her what's up? Cause sounds like you guys are distant not only physically but emotionally.

That is just my opinion and I'm not saying that it's the right thing to do, heaven knows what your facing right now is a lot more serious than some stupid flings I come across. Ikaw parin mag dedecide, ang advice ko lang is keep your dignity, improve upon yourself, be the kind of strong guy that women would line up to be with. Nobody wants a loser, so don't be one.

If wala kang ginawang mali and malinis ang conscience mo, then why should you suffer? Hold your head high and walk with dignity.

Nobody wants a broken family, pero if it will keep your sanity and in the long run makakabangon ka ulit for your kids, then accept it. It's not your wish na maging broken ang family mo, pero when you are faced with this kind of dilemma, you have to be father to your innocent kids now rather than be a husband to a non-existent wife.

My advice is nothing because what you're facing from the sounds of it is really severe, but I hope kahit papaano it might give you some ideas on how to empower yourself and get back to your feet.

If you have friends and family, talk to them. You have to talk with someone that you feel you can trust, maybe a fresh perspective is what you need.

Good luck on whatever decisions you make.

[rnice]

Thanks a lot for your advice siguro nga kailangan ko ng tanggapin,yup kasal kami twice jugde and church, nakausap ko sya pero she deny it wala daw syang iba i ask her about what i see a spray for viginal infection and eritation,she said its recomend of her doctor but she didnt saying kung ano sakit nya,they argue twice ill talk to her calm down but she always high temper im worried about her becouse she have a conginatal heart desseas,dont know what to do,i cant tell may mom nasa ibang bansa sya nag aaalala din ako sa mom ko.hay ang bigat talaga i always pray for her sana magbalik sa dati.guys i need your advice please help me try to comment and advice me tanggapin ko lahat.thank you prime

[razorsharp]

may matalik ba syang kaibigan, na baka pwede mong makausap ng masinsinan. tanungin mo kung may iba, for the sake of your marriage sabihin mo. sigurado may alam sya.

[rnice]

 She have a lots of friend but they all against me,kasi ayaw nyang tumanggap ng pagkakamali I try one of her friend but they mad at me, dont know why maybe may wife she told dont talk to me,  ive been loyal to her even im working in taiwan ive no involve to another girl,ginagawa ko ang lahat pinaglalaba ko nanay nya kahit panty na di ko nagawa sa mom ko,nagluluto,naglilinis,nagrerepair sa kanila,pag may sakit nanay nya naka bantay ako,but she never appricciate what im doing to her,maliban na lang sa kita maliit lang sahod ko kumpara sa kanya triple.thanks razor

[zzgundam]

I know I'm not qualified to give you advice, but:

1. Before acting rashly, try to make sure if she really is cheating on you. Be 100% sure.
2. If you are 100% sure, and have evidence, confront her. State your position. As you said, you have been faithful to her and have treated her and her family well, so there's nothing you should be ashamed of.
3. If she admits it and asks for forgiveness, great! patch up your relationship.
4. If she denies it even if there is evidence, talk to her family. And talk to your kids. And talk to a lawyer. There's no divorce in PH, but there is annulment. And marital unfaithfulness is a ground for annulment.

Just my opinion. Hope I was able to help.

[Rad]

sa mga nabanggit mo mahirap pa rin magsabing may ginagawa nga sya, ebidensya ang kailangan natin para yung hinala maging matibay na.

bro, nasa ibang bansa ka rin at nong bakasyon mo don lang kayo nagkita at nagsiping. bro, kapag walang nakasiping ang girl sa loob ng isang taon may pagbabago kang mararamdaman, hindi na natin kailangan pang idetaly siguro yon kung ano.

the best na gawin mo maghanap ka ng matibay na ebidensya sa hinala mo then kumunsulta ka sa abogado. kunin mo ang mga anak mo at ikaw ang magpalaki or dalhin mo sa mga magulang mo.

kung wala kang makuhang information sa mga matalik yang kaibigan, for sure sa mga nakakakilala sa kanya may impormasyon kang makakakuha.

[backpfeifengesicht]

Kung ako sayo sir basta kausapin mo nalang siya. If ever may iba siya, hindi yan yung problema kundi resulta ng problema. Tanungin mo kung masaya parin siya at alamin mo ang hindi mo naibibigay at hinahanap niya sa iba.