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Falling in love with your best friend is a bitch. Nakakatakot na nawala ang friendship ninyo kapag nagtapat ka. Nakakalungkot naman na lagi mo siya kasama pero hindi niya alam na mahal mo siya. Feeling mo nasa pagitan ka ng langit at impyerno everytime na kasama mo siya. :-
Nangyari na sa akin yan. I chose to keep our friendship kaya never ko sinabi na mahal ko siya nang higit pa sa kaibigan.
Wala ka namang regrets po at napreserve nyo pa rin ba ang friendship nyo ngayon sakin kasi once bestfriend ko..bestrfriend lang talaga..walang lalagpas sa linya ...hahaha
Friends pa din kami. She's married now and has 2 kids.
Some people prefer friendship first before love, which i think have an advantage kasi... if you know the person you are inlove for a long time... the adjustment maybe more easier at hindi ka mahihirapang manghula sa feelings niya kasi you know her/him better like the back of your hand....hindi ka mahihiyang magsabi sa kanya ng feelings mo or things that you want to change or you want both of you do....meaning in short term, hindi mo kailangang magpanggap or magtiis na hindi magsalita because it will come naturally dahil you both know each other very well. This is a very good foundation in my perspective though not really perfect to assure a lasting relationship is more better than starting to zero(not knowing anything).Whereas if he/she is not your friend, the adjustment will be more harder...kasi you have to know everything about him, likes dislikes...etc...during the relationship period, one can not really release or do everything he/she wants without thinking or with caution if it will offend your partner meaning there is a point na kailangang magpanggap or hold something back sa pag-uugali or sweet effect until we think we know enough about the person or the relationship is getting better. The challenge and adventure of doing this is more fun, seldom it gets boring. Normally, it this is the kind of start of a relationship... it is like beginning from a scratch that may not last for long kasi it started from physical attraction only, but the moment you found something not really what you prefer... then one may start to doubt, then thats the beginning of a downhill relationship if the person is not hopelessly inlove with the other person.In love, there is not single a procedure, things to do, friends, etc....that will assure a better or successful relationship...crossing boundaries are one of the choices we can do that sometimes are the best thing to do.... actually, for me... from friendship to being lover is not crossing boundaries, it is an upgrade relationship that defines the boundaries you can do with each other.....
well sa panahon ngayon uso na po ang FUBU, kung di kayo puedeng magkaroon nang relationship nang bestfriend mo puede naman kayo mag tutnakan... yan napo ang treanding ngayon sa twitter at iba pang microblogging sites hehe
Being in the friendzone is the most simplest, easiest and safest way to get attached to a person. Pero, hindi ito basihan para magkaroon ka ng chance na makatuluyan ang tao. The purpose of friendship is to have emotional and moral support through other people, kinda like love pero it must be less intimate. The thing kasi bakit nga ba may pumupunta muna sa friendzone or bakit ang nanliligaw napapapunta sa friendzone is usually based on how you attract them. Hindi nila magets kung anong purpose mo sa kanila bakit ka nakikipagclose sa kanila. It maybe caused by staying at your comfort zone, maging matapang din kasi. Tiwala dapat sa sarili at suportahan ng buo ang desisyon.Parang prutas lang yan sa isang mataas na puno, totoo bumabagsak sa lupa ang pinakahinog na prutas pero nakakasigurado ka ba na hinog sya pagpunta sa kamay mo? Tutukain siya ng ibon, pwede ring magkaroon ng uod bago pumunta sayo, pwede ring kapitan ng insekto o baka bulok na siya bago pa mapasayo. Bakit hindi ka nalang maging matapang, magtiwala ka sa sarili mo at pitasin ang prutas sa mataas na puno. Posible kang malaglag at masaktan pero katumbas din nito ang sarap ng prutas at nadaragdagan pa ito ng kaligayahan dahil nakuha mo ang gusto mo at alam mong pinaghirapan mo ito. Nagbabago ang paraan sa panahon ngayon pero sa pagmamahal ganun pa rin, hindi siya instant. Kung hindi mo sasabihin ang totoong nararamdaman mo how will you expect na papasok sa isipan niya na mahal mo siya? Kung tayo nga nagdududa, sila pa kaya?At kung dumating sa panahon na hanggang friends lang talaga, give space have some closure. Maaring temporary or permanent. Give some dignity for yourself and try to accept the fact na hindi ka niya gusto at marami pang tao sa mundo, siguro sa kanya ka lang nagfocus noon. I had this experience once, pinilit ko from the start na love ang nararamdaman ko sa kanya but she still force us to be friends. I had closure. Naghabol siya ng naghabol at ako naman umiwas na ng umiwas. Kung ano ako sa kanya ay nagbago, nakakaloko, from friends naging hindi sigurado. XDAnyway, cut the story short, hindi pa rin ako nakipagtuluyan sa kanya. Kung ano kasi ang nararamdaman nyo sa isa't isa yun yung paghuhugutan mo sa oras na magkaroon kayo ng problema, papayag ba ako ng may ipinaglalaban na hindi sigurado? Hindi nalang. XD
