Happy or Contented?

[Tonying Bayawak]

I usually ask this noong college sa mga barkada ko lalo na sa mga turning point ng long relationships. At naalala ko nanaman ito when a friend of mine asks for an advise about his wife being oblivious in the house at kahit naman noong magkakasama kami kita ko naman. It's pretty subjective lalo na kung ipapasok natin ang pagiging family oriented ng Pilipino. I just gave him an open mind na it's alright na humiwalay na siya sa pamilya basta wag niyang malilimutan ang obligasyon niya as a father. But personally, I would decide happiness, and start a new life. Kaya lang hindi ko pa naeexperience magkaroon ng anak kaya siguro ganito ang advise ko.


So in a more serious decision, kung nga naman may 2 ka ng anak and nasa traditional na Pilipino kang pamilya. Nawala na ang pagmamahal mo sa asawa mo, at may nakakilala ka ng iba who's giving you a greater perspective of life. Would you choose to be happy and risk for a new life or spend your remaining life and be responsible sa mali mong decision?

Somehow ito ang backbone kung bakit may idea ng divorce.
Share kayo ng opinions pero be respectful sana sa members with opposite answers.

[angell.proven]

kung may anak ka na..siguro the greatest gift na ma ibibigay mo sa mga anak mo is be faithful to their mother

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Nice thread sir Tonying .... +karma sa iyo

It's really hard to give an answer sa topic na ito kasi, a family life always varies and it really depend on the person's experience with a family, and as we all know... there no such thing as perfect life... it's all in the mind and how you look at it base on individual point of view... so i will settle on contentment....

I live in a family na almost broke out because of my father cheating on my mother... but thank God, nasa Pilipinas ako because there's no such thing as divorce or else, there's always a chance of a split in the family. My good thing din naman kasi ang hindi pagkakaroon ng divorce kasi there is no fast escape but to mend, correct, and try to patch up the family, but i only say this kasi hindi naman sinasaktan ng father ko ang mother  ko at least physically, but how about if it is different.... how about if my mother is a battered wife....this is how i think when i was still a preteen... i believe in happiness.... that everybody should have a chance of happiness....

But as i grew up, i learned how to be contented....the reason is not only because of my religion but because of how i learn life as i grew old. If a person does not know how to be contented with what he have, he will not be truly happy. Happiness in my opinion can't be found through what we have whether it is expensive, important or rare.... it is how we look at it, or how we feel that it is important... it is how we feel contentment having it. By nature, man always aims for something greater meaning, by nature is always not contented. But it doesn't say that we can't be contented.

A good example is a baby. Baby cries if hungry, but if we feed the baby with milk, the baby fell asleep because it is the level of contentment he wants... just a bottle of milk to ease the hunger, he was contented. But it's different when the baby started to grow, and be curious of things around. As curiosity grows so as the contentment..... and this is what's happening to us.... we really don't stop growing though not physically but our minds continue to gather knowledge, experience, memories....the minds continue to grow.... so unless we tried hard to have contentment, true happiness is nowhere near... it's not easy but also not impossible....

[Tonying Bayawak]

kung may anak ka na..siguro the greatest gift na ma ibibigay mo sa mga anak mo is be faithful to their mother

Nice thread sir Tonying .... +karma sa iyo

It's really hard to give an answer sa topic na ito kasi, a family life always varies and it really depend on the person's experience with a family, and as we all know... there no such thing as perfect life... it's all in the mind and how you look at it base on individual point of view... so i will settle on contentment....

I live in a family na almost broke out because of my father cheating on my mother... but thank God, nasa Pilipinas ako because there's no such thing as divorce or else, there's always a chance of a split in the family. My good thing din naman kasi ang hindi pagkakaroon ng divorce kasi there is no fast escape but to mend, correct, and try to patch up the family, but i only say this kasi hindi naman sinasaktan ng father ko ang mother  ko at least physically, but how about if it is different.... how about if my mother is a battered wife....this is how i think when i was still a preteen... i believe in happiness.... that everybody should have a chance of happiness....

But as i grew up, i learned how to be contented....the reason is not only because of my religion but because of how i learn life as i grew old. If a person does not know how to be contented with what he have, he will not be truly happy. Happiness in my opinion can't be found through what we have whether it is expensive, important or rare.... it is how we look at it, or how we feel that it is important... it is how we feel contentment having it. By nature, man always aims for something greater meaning, by nature is always not contented. But it doesn't say that we can't be contented.

A good example is a baby. Baby cries if hungry, but if we feed the baby with milk, the baby fell asleep because it is the level of contentment he wants... just a bottle of milk to ease the hunger, he was contented. But it's different when the baby started to grow, and be curious of things around. As curiosity grows so as the contentment..... and this is what's happening to us.... we really don't stop growing though not physically but our minds continue to gather knowledge, experience, memories....the minds continue to grow.... so unless we tried hard to have contentment, true happiness is nowhere near... it's no easy but also not impossible....

I really admire your filipino values.

[jamesbond]

this one is a debatable subject matter... Like what tol imoy had perceived... As for me, its a question of priorites and wants of the person, focal point.... Jot it down in a piece of paper.... Nobody is ever contented, as humans our satisfaction in life is boundless therefore it is a continuous process.... Unless the person has stopped dreaming of the future...


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