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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: sugarlove on April 30, 2015, 02:48:14 PM
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Would you go on a serious relationship with someone on a complicated status? Like married but separated guy or girl, single mom or dad?
I am in a complicated situation. My bf, he is too. But the thing is, whenever we fight or argue, he would always say.. "walang seseryoso sayo...tingin m ba may lalaking tatanggap sayo, wala! "
So most of the time, I self pity.
Kayo po, what's your stand on this? Thanks!
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hi sis.. to be honest, pag ganyan sya iwan mo sya.. di lang sya ang lalaki sa mundo girl.. kahit me sabit ka pa, di lang sya ang tatanggap sa yo.. alam ko madaming ganyan sa situation mo na di lang makaalis dahil madaming rason na dapat iconsider pero wala na love kaya ka npapasok sa isang third party situation.. di lahat ng may mga ganyang situation is bad na kesyo nagloko, may sarisarili ding mga rason bakit nagawa yan.. saka wag kang maniniwala sa sinasabi nya na walang seseryoso sa yo.. sino sya para magsabi nun.. girl di worth it, sayang oras, effort at lalong lalo na love mo sa kanya.. kung kada away nyo e yan ang sasabihin nya sa yo.. para ano ka pa sa kanya diba.. na di mo sya kayang iwan dahil wala ng seseryoso sa yo.. naku girl mag isip isip ha.. maraming lalaki jan sis na tatanggapin ka.. kahit complicated pa status nyo both, if nagmamahalan talaga kayo gagawa kayo ng paraan para magsama at gawin yung tama na wala kayong parehong masasaktan.. sis naghahanap ka ng isang tao na iintindi sa yo, magmamahal at magiging masaya ka.. di yung ganya na pinararamdam pa sa yo na wala ng ibang magmamahal sa yo.. hay.. kaw n bhala sis.. if kaya mo syang iwan o hindi.. mahirap yung lagi ganyan ang mararamdaman mo sa tuwing mag-aaway kayo.. isip isip sis ha :hi1:
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Thanks sis @fre_jo sa advice. Tatandaan ko yang sinabi m. Actually napapag isipan ko na ngang kumalas, natatakot lng ako na maging alone na naman.
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panu naging complicated ang status pag separated ang guy or ung isa ei single mom/dad ??? ??? complicated means 3 parties are involved and regarding sa bf mo panahon na ngang palitan na yan at maghanap ka ng bago...
on the topic of complicated relationships... well nasa usapan yan if one party is willing to sacrifice... di biro ang sakripisyo ng isang party na involed sa complicated relationship lalo na pag nakatali na...
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@5y5t3m_cr45h kaya ko po nasabi na complicated kasi bukod sa relationship nyong dalawa e may iba pang tao na involved like ung wife/husband or mom/dad ng kid. Kasi ayaw man natin,laging kasama sila sa kinoconsider lalo na kung may topak at pagbabanta. I mean, being in this kind of relationship medyo mahirap sya compared sa 2singles who fell in love. Idk kung naexplain ko ng maayos but matalino ka nmn..gets m na yan.hehe
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yup gets ko mam @sugarlove kaya ko nga po kinaklaro para at least makapagbigay din ng konting advice.. kung single mom/dad ang partner mo ala ka naman siguro magiging problema sa ex partner ng partner mo diba? ung anak nila ang dapat mong ligawan.. now if ang partner mo is legally tied pa then 2 things you should do its either get them annuled or pag usapan niyo ng partner mo ang magiging set up niyong tatlo...
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@5y5t3m_cr45h... Napag usapan naman namin ang set up and pati panliligaw sa anak nya ginawa ko na din. Nagbigay ako gifts,kung ano un gusto ng bata binibili ko ultimo kakulangan sa tuition inabonohan ko. Sabi nya the kid knows me,di lng daw ready pa na makaharap ako. Pero nakita na daw ako sa pics sa fb.. Ang nakakaloka na part,nung nakausap ko sa txt ung anak nya..aba, di ako kilala. Who you daw ako. Hahahaha. Ang saya diba! :-(,
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mukhang pareho tayo ng sitwasyon @sugarlove ah... kaso ala na kami ng number two ko ngayon :think:
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Awts.. Di bale may number 3,4,5,6.... And so on pa nmn yan e. Keri boom boom m yan.
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the thing is mas simple ang sitwasyon mo kesa akin @sugarlove single dad ang partner mo whereas sa ako ei legally married sa wife ko...
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Di sya single dad.. Married but separated sya and ung bata nasa kanya wala kay wife.
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ganun pa rin un @sugarlove ala ng habol ung wife niya sa kanya kasi diba separated na sila
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May habol pa din kasi di naman sila annulled. And ung wife minsan dun sa kanila nag sleep over kapag dumadalaw sa bata. Nakakapraning.haha
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ah ok. . . alam ba ng wife na kayo na :lr: :lr:
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Sabi nya hindi pa.pero sasabihin daw nya soon. Gusto kasi nya yung wife ang mauna magkalovelife.para daw walang angal kapag sya na ang nagkaroon.
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true. . . at pede rin sabay sila magkalablayp >:D >:D my advise habaan mo pasensya mo sa partner mo and dont be to demanding.. alam mo ang sitwasyon nya at sa tingin ko tinanggap mo ng buong buo pagkatao nya... dont be an ass like me 8) gang ngayon pinagsisihan ko bat nawala ung taong tumanggap kung ano at sino ako :(
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Ginagawa ko nmn yan.kahit most of the time feeling ko taken for granted na ko. Pati mga harsh words nya sakin. Tanggap ko nmn.. Kaya lang naiisip ko na mag give up dahil di nmn na naaappreciate ang presence ko, ang effort ko. And wala na talaga sya time sakin. Even simple good morning di na nya magawa ngaun and tuwimg gabi na lng, cannot be reached ang fon nya.
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ouch... pero try to know ang reason behind bakit nagagawa niya ang ganyan... dapat kasi two way street yan ei... both kayo nag eeffort to keep the relationship...
till next time mam @sugarlove uwian time na :))
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Thanks @5y5t3m_cr45h ingat sa pag uwi. Till nxt time. :bye: :-* :)
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Would you go on a serious relationship with someone on a complicated status? Like married but separated guy or girl, single mom or dad?
I am in a complicated situation. My bf, he is too. But the thing is, whenever we fight or argue, he would always say.. "walang seseryoso sayo...tingin m ba may lalaking tatanggap sayo, wala! "
So most of the time, I self pity.
Kayo po, what's your stand on this? Thanks!
+like muna po sa iyo... i admire you for opening up a bit of your private life... first of, yes, i would go the distance... why? mahal ko at mahal ako eh... you may call me whatever you want for at the end of the day it is still my decision and not yours... there is this saying that i have read in one of Michael Jacksons books by the Indian Proverbs, “Don't judge any man until you have walked two moons in his moccasins”...
and secondly, i've read those remarks by your BF and this i say to you, don't self pity... only fools who were out there would say those for fear of losing you.. he is just trying psyche you up.. defense mechanism... that only goes to show that he has a dick like the size of a peanut... a mere coward or shall we say insecure is what he is... he is just afraid of losing you... so the next time he talks like that in your face, just burst out a loud laugh hahahaha... think of what i have said (peanuts) and i'm pretty sure the confidence you lack at those ugly moments before will all come back to you in a jiffy... regards....
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@jamesbond thank you sir! Your advice gave me hope and lift up my self esteem. :-)
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sometimes you have to turn your back and walk away from something to realize that there is something out there much better for you... have faith and never lose your trust in HIM and i assure you that it is always the best that HE intends for you....
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Thank you @naruto789544! Your kind words enlighten me. :) :) :)
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I have the same situation before everytime i walk away he treateN's me, so i play nice at go with flow eventually napagod din siya buti naman. :D
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first of all pabibigyan kita nang jacket kay willie kase nag restock na siya today at ang mga tanong niya eh medyo malalim na hehe..
Yung feeling na gusto ko na mag asawa pero ang aasawahin ko may asawa pang iba... Yes indeed willing ako pasukin anumang klaseng butas maski kumplekado at masikip 'chos..
well sa sitwasyon mo girl, komplikado na nga kayo tapos ganyan pa turing niya sayo.. haistt iwan mo na yan dame dyan iba lol.. alam ko ang mga may kumplikadong sitwasyon pinupunan nila nang extrang pagmamahalan ang kanilang kumplekadong sitwasyon.. kaya naman mas masarap kapag kumplekado, mas ramdam nyo ang sarap nang isa't isa sa pagmamahal kaso mas ramdam nyo din ang hapdi at kirot..
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I have the same situation before everytime i walk away he treateN's me, so i play nice at go with flow eventually napagod din siya buti naman. :D
Hi girl! Buti nmn napagod na sya. Un sakin kaya? Sana soonest na. Hehe.
Post Merge: May 11, 2015, 07:03:31 AM
first of all pabibigyan kita nang jacket kay willie kase nag restock na siya today at ang mga tanong niya eh medyo malalim na hehe..
Yung feeling na gusto ko na mag asawa pero ang aasawahin ko may asawa pang iba... Yes indeed willing ako pasukin anumang klaseng butas maski kumplekado at masikip 'chos..
well sa sitwasyon mo girl, komplikado na nga kayo tapos ganyan pa turing niya sayo.. haistt iwan mo na yan dame dyan iba lol.. alam ko ang mga may kumplikadong sitwasyon pinupunan nila nang extrang pagmamahalan ang kanilang kumplekadong sitwasyon.. kaya naman mas masarap kapag kumplekado, mas ramdam nyo ang sarap nang isa't isa sa pagmamahal kaso mas ramdam nyo din ang hapdi at kirot..
Antayin ko yang jacket sir! Hehe. Salamat po sa comment. Yan nga po eh, mas ramdam ko lng ang hapdi at kirot kesa sa sarap ng pagmamahalan.
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Just an update: We broke up! The reason - he made another woman pregnant. :'( :'( wala na ko magagawa andyan na yan.. Pero di na ko pumayag sa pakiusap nya na icontinue pa din ung sa amin. Di ako ganun kadakila at wala ako balak palitan si dr.jose rizal sa luneta.
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Would you go on a serious relationship with someone on a complicated status? Like married but separated guy or girl, single mom or dad?
I am in a complicated situation. My bf, he is too. But the thing is, whenever we fight or argue, he would always say.. "walang seseryoso sayo...tingin m ba may lalaking tatanggap sayo, wala! "
So most of the time, I self pity.
Kayo po, what's your stand on this? Thanks!
When girls take this kind of comment from their significant other/bf and still ask people if they need to stay in that relationship, I automatically assume that the girl is either too ugly or too stupid.
The reason you broke up with your bf was that he got another girl pregnant? SMH. Kung hindi nakabuntis ng iba, hindi ka pa pala matatauhan.
I'm sorry for being harsh, nakakaawa kasi yung mga girls na tulad mo.
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It's fine @messirooney, i get ur point. Yeah, i might be both of the qualities u assumed... And I wont be making excuses of what i did but hey, i just loved.
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Just an update: We broke up! The reason - he made another woman pregnant. :'( :'( wala na ko magagawa andyan na yan.. Pero di na ko pumayag sa pakiusap nya na icontinue pa din ung sa amin. Di ako ganun kadakila at wala ako balak palitan si dr.jose rizal sa luneta.
:-\ wow.. what a turn of events... well, what can i say... it's good it happened that way... you've seen everything he'd been keeping behind your back.. he was really not worth your while... take care miss sugarL... goodluck...
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it is what i say as "HE made the way for you to wake up..."
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Thank you sir @jamesbond and sir @naruto789544 ! Though what happened to us really pains me a lot and Im terribly hurting till now, I am trying to look at the positive side of it. I know I have to move on. He's not the end of my world.
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Sometimes, a person says something to put you down so that you will think that mababa ka and no one but him will care for you. Nakakainis ang mga ganun. Don't listen to him, someone will always see your worth :)
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Thank you @trashing214! You're right, maybe there is someone out there for me, though I don't see myself involve with anyone else yet. We'll see. :)
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mas complicated kung pareho kayong may mga asawa at anak,IMORAL Na yan... ???
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what's past is past, move on. face the present. kung ang pagbabasehan lang palagi e yung dati e di dun na lang sila. matuto sa kahapon, huwag manatili, hehehe. everyone deserves a shot at happiness and hopefully yung mga complications na ganyan e di na ma experience nino man.
at kung ganyan ang banat sa iyo, e tama sila, iwan mo na yan. loko pala siya e
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Glad you're trying to move on. Hopefully everything works out for you.
As for your question if I'm willing to be in a relationship with another person na may asawa na or boyfriend. No I'm not. I don't really get any thrills from that and I don't want any unnecessary aggravation. Dami naman single jan.
If the question is paano naman if ako ang meron ng kasama and if kukuha ako ng sideline, my answer is I don't know, probably not.
I don't want to and I'm not looking for it, pero I cannot say with conviction na hindi ko yun gagawin. Iiwas ako and it would take a really special snowflake to make my resolve dwindle and my caveman side to take over.
Good luck with whatever decision you choose to make. We only live once, it would be a waste if we spend it being sad because of something beyond our control.
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When we fall in love, we tend to fall in love with just the idea of love itself. We let our emotions take over and most of the time when we get hurt, nadi disillusioned tayo. ..And because our rightful judgement is clouded with too much love focused only, towards our other half, we are blinded and we cannot see the other part of our illusion which is, the reality.
And when the acknowledgement of our sad plight starts to kick in, madalas we choose to be overwhelmed rather than accept the fact that sooner or later. .. nandyan ang consequences ng lahat ng yan.
You are sure about yourself and your feelings thus you have accepted everything about him.,but I guess it's not enough to nurture the relationship. You know for a fact that both your status is complicated so from there you should know na maraming factor that will affect your relationship. And sometimes if I may say, happiness and satisfaction in life and love depends on how much is considered enough.
And obviously, everything you felt and did for him wasn't good enough to make him love you the way you wanted him to love you back. But the worst is already over and dealt with. It's good to know that you have accepted what happened and learned a good deal about the whole fiasco.
No need to look back at the past, move on na..focus on yourself, do not for any instant look down upon yourself because you made a mistake. Failures are meant to cross our paths to make us stronger. Keep your spirits up my dear, and do not ever let anyone bring down your precious self esteem.
Goodluck.
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its good that your relationship with him was over, the other thing is that, that other woman might suffer the same fate as you are in his hands.
you deserve to be happy. we all deserve to be happy. and that other woman also deserves to be happy.
someone else should tell her what he has done to your life...
its time to make amends with Him and move on with your own re-discovered life...
good luck!
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go. take risks.
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pahabol....
buti na lang everything turned out ok naman pala... Buti nakakalas ka.. pag di na happy sibat na... :)
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wag na pre. Papahirapan mo lang sarili mo. Hanap ka nalang ng maayos kausap.
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and just as the day ends with this chapter in your life, wake up the next day with a new hope in life that there is something better for you out there... goodluck...
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Been there done that nah!! not worth it! 😜 😂
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Been there done that nah!! not worth it! 😜 😂
agree... a relationship full of complication is not healthy... instead of being happy, you will tend to look back always to check your shadow...
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ang buhay ay napaka simple, kapag nauuhaw ka uminom ka tubig at kapag nagugutom kumain ka.. wag mo gawin kumplekado..
hindi ako papatol or hahanap nang karelasyon na may sabit na...