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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: appleblossomgirl on March 08, 2015, 10:37:29 PM
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feeling ko napaka stupid na question... sino ba ang pipilin mo? yung taong laging kang pnapaiyak at sinasaktan, pero mahal mo, kasi nakikita mo na nag ke care naman xa sayo..super insensitive nga lang, kaya laging ikaw ang umiiyak.. hindi marunong tumanggap ng pagkakamali.. laging xa ang tama...pero mahal mo..
o yung taong ayaw kang makitang nasasaktan o umiiyak, lahat ginagawa nya wag ka lang malungkot at umiyak.. sensitive xa sa feelings mo kaya kahit mahirap para sa knnya, ggwin nya suaya ka lng.. napa selfless nya... special xa sayo at willing xang maghintay kahit gano katagal para sa yo..pero mas mahal mo un isa...
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I would choose the one who loves me. I'm kinda lazy, ayaw ko nag hahabol, but that's just me, ma pride chicken.
Ask yourself, who makes you happy? Who do you see yourself with? Is it all bad? Could there be a compromise?
Who do you really want to be with? Could you talk to the other guy and tell him these are your boundaries, and ask him not to cross it and how it makes you feel when does? I'm sure if the guy has half a brain, he would understand.
Stick to one, and once you've made your decision, love your own. Grass is always greener on the other side, till you get there.
P.S.
But if you're being abused, that's a different matter. You should skedaddle.
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I would choose the one who loves me. I'm kinda lazy, ayaw ko nag hahabol, but that's just me, ma pride chicken.
Ask yourself, who makes you happy? Who do you see yourself with? Is it all bad? Could there be a compromise?
Who do you really want to be with? Could you talk to the other guy and tell him these are your boundaries, and ask him not to cross it and how it makes you feel when does? I'm sure if the guy has half a brain, he would understand.
Stick to one, and once you've made your decision, love your own. Grass is always greener on the other side, till you get there.
P.S.
But if you're being abused, that's a different matter. You should skedaddle.
the guy who made me cry also makes me happy..but it seems like behind those hundreds of happiness, there are thousands of pain.. i was never part of his future.. cultural differences perhaps.. when we talk about the future,, he talks about his future with somebody else.. im only existing in his present.. but never in his future..
the other one who's afraid of losing me, makes me happy all the time.. he tries his best to make me happy.. i am part of his life now as he said, wanted me to meet his family.. although we are of different cultures, he's willing to sacrifice everything.. i dunno to what extent.. but the fact that he introduced me to his family is something considering their culture is kinda strict.. he cant sleep without asking if im ok, .. i said i cant accept him now for i love somebody else.. he said he will wait.. until i finally learn how to love him..
i never even thought a guy like this would exist..
my question, i deem was stupid.. for there is an obvious answer.. but my heart is trying to ignore them all...|
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Sa tingin ko dapat mo munang timbangin ang sitwasyon. Hanggang kelan mo kayang tiisin ang isang taong mahal mo pero sinasaktan ka naman. O yung isang guy na matututunan mo palang mahalin pero handang ibigay at gawin ang lahat para lang mapasaya ka at hindi ka na masaktan.
Maaaring anytime ay iwan ka nung guy na never kang nakasama sa future nya. Dagdag mo pa ang cultural differences ninyong dalawa. Ang lalaki kapag hindi ka sinama sa future nya, malamang hanggang present ka lang at darating ang time magiging past na lang.
Ikaw na rin ang nagsabi na alam mo na kung ano ang sagot sa tanong mo. Baka kailangan mo ng space or time para makapag-isip isip kung ano ba at sino ba talaga ang gusto mong piliin. Sabi nga "when pain is more than happiness, that is not love, that is stupidity".
Nobody can blame you, you're just following what your heart feels. But love is not just what our heart tells, our mind also plays an important role for us to remind that hurt is just around the corner.
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the question is not stupid at all... why? because it happens to a lot of people and many are experiencing it... now, the solution can either be easy or stupid if you may say... why again? because you know that inspite the pain and heartaches that your bf has given you, you still love him and is still with him... would you risk your future with him or try to find someone who will be better, which in this case is the other guy who is willing to move heaven and earth just to show you his love... remember, you also have your mind not only your heart and i suggest you also use it to know the right decision to make... at the end of the day, it will still be your decision and i hope that you make the correct one for your future...
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I'm sure kapag pinili mo ang palaging nag care sayo kapag na fall ka na sa kanya siya naman magpapa iyak sayo.. cycle of life baby... so choose the one you love.. andyan na yan masasanay ka din lol
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I prefer the one who loves you.. remember that love can do a lot of things.. a person inlove can reach a star and give it to you though its impossible, it can move a mountain though its a miracle to happen, he can make you happy in many ways but the point is that a person whose deeply inlove is willing to do many things even lose a lot just to prove his love to you.. although i'm just a stranger, i'm asking that you give a chance the one that loves you..
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For me, I would choose the one that can love all the negative part of you before loving all that is positive about you. The one that sees you as the last partner that he/she will grow old with.
Also in your part ask yourself why do you love that person. Is it because of all the good things about him or can you love him as he is all about him his negative attitudes and his good attitudes. Another thing is do you have the strength to change the one that you love? If yes then choose him if no then choose another one.
Last one thing to consider is choose the one that makes you feel happy and makes you feel complete :D
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i can list down all advises i can give but in the end ikaw pa rin ang masusunod... looking back sa sinabi mo isnt it ironic ung second guy is really really a photocopy of YOU ??? ??? ???
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Choosing was never easy... i made a decision to say goodbye to the person who made me cry and give a chance to the other one who wants me in his life.. even all my friends are telling me that i am so lucky and i made the right decision.. but i asked him to wait for me.. wait for me until i completely forget about the other guy. he said he's willing to wait.. and he will be there for me.. am i being selfish?
actually that was his only fear..he's scared that one day i will tell him that i cannot forget the other guy and i want to be with that guy again... and that guy... that guy now kept on calling and texting me, saying he misses me and he wants me back...
...and to be honest... i said havent completely forgotten him.. :(
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Then mukha hindi mo pa rin makakalimutan yun past guy mo. Try to weigh the happiness mo compared sa mga sadness mo na nararamdaman sa guy na to. It seems kasi na marami din sya nagawa para mapasaya ka nya. Minahal ka rin ng tao na to kaya nga hanggan ngayon nahihirapan ka pa rin sya i let go. Baka pwede pa naman ayusin ang mga bagay bagay at magsimula ng bago. After all lahat naman ng relationship eh dumaan sa ganyan pagsubok....
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miss appleblossomgirl, i admire your honesty towards yourself. hard as it may be, decisions we make in life affects, not only the present but our future as well.
life is short, so might as well as enjoy life the best that we can. we can only hope and pray for our future. it may look complicated now, but we could simplify things for your future.
life still, has so much more to offer to each one of us. to let ourselves suffer in darkness commits a greater sin to ourselves.
pray and let your life move towards the light. take care and Godspeed!
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ewan ko kung baket pero maraming babaeng mahilig sa sadista hehehe. kahit maraming sampal ang abutin kakapit pa rin. meron naman halos ibigay na ni lalake ang langit, sunud-sunuran sa lahat pero ayaw ni babae. boring daw. :sipol:
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mahirap pumili, pag pumili ka laging me mali either way...
so choose without looking back.. yung tipong yun na talaga..
and you can only choose wisely pag pareho silang malayo sa iyo..
so stay away from both of them muna..
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WAG KANG MAMILI SA KANILANG DALAWA
check ur situation..mukhang iba ang aking sasabihin sa pananaw niu..pero iwan mu na lang silang dalawa kasi naattach ka sa iba while meron kang isa..parang may shoulder to cry on ka pero tama ba na mainlab ka sa kanya? .pero ung mahal ku masasaktan mu di ba..
kaya wag kang mamili sa kanila iwasan mu sila pareho pramis mas happy ang life mu..
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thank you sa mga responses nyo. i am really weighing things over.. and true enough na naiisip ko rin, baka mas ok pa na mag isa na lng ako at kalimutan ko sila pareho.. when i said that to the guy who i think loves me more, he cried too much.. parang baka makaiyak... at parang dinudurog naman un puso ko makakita ng lalaki na umiyak ng ganun, dahil sa takot nya na mawala ako sa knya.. yesterday, he had to leave kasi un work nya sa desert, so 2 weeks xa dun then 2 weeks vacation.. he cried again nun paalis na xa, pero ako hindi maxadong umiyak.. same day.. nun kinagabihan.. tumawag un first guy sa kin.. saying na h needs my help pero prng nakalimutan ko na xa.. then he said he never cried in his life.. pero that night, he cried.. and nun marinig ko na umiiyak xa.. ako naman ang umiyak na parang baka..
niloloko ko ba ang sarili ko? my brain is telling me na piliin ko un isa kasi mas mahal nya ako.. and he introduced me to his family as the girl he loves, and he has plans for us, to get married, to be together..
but my heart is longing for the other guy who made me cry, but also made me happy in some ways, who never promised a future with me, kasi what he promised was to be with me until he finds a girl to marry ( ibang nationality kasi and sa culture nila, dapat kalahi nila ang mapangasawa... although, un isa.. kalahi din nila, pero he fought for me, for his familiy, and insisted na he would give up his nationality just to be with me...)
jukinang pagibig to. di ko alam katangahan na ata ang pinapagana ko.. :( :( :(
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da best nga ata na humanap kna iba, kasi pag pinili mo yung isa ay sasaktan ka lang lagi pero dun naman sa isa ay baka mabore ka at magsawa sa sobrang kabaitan.. based on experience ko nun ay sobra bait ko tapos inayawan ako girl kasi boring daw at wala man lang challenge. kaya medyo maginoo na ko na medyo bastos.. hahahaha :peace:
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da best nga ata na humanap kna iba, kasi pag pinili mo yung isa ay sasaktan ka lang lagi pero dun naman sa isa ay baka mabore ka at magsawa sa sobrang kabaitan.. based on experience ko nun ay sobra bait ko tapos inayawan ako girl kasi boring daw at wala man lang challenge. kaya medyo maginoo na ko na medyo bastos.. hahahaha :peace:
haha! natawa naman ako sau..maginoo na medyo bastos.. :) un mabait na guy, i cannot say naman na boring xa.. yun mga gusto ko namn gwin gingwa namin like hiking, punta sa ibat ibang beach, visit sa ibat ibang countries.. tas mas may pera pa xa ;D hahha! pero di ko maintindihan tlga..bakit hinahanap ko un una... is it because i cannot simply let go of the memories? is it just about the memories o is it really because of him?
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Hi ms. apple...
IMO, I will agree with sir bigfatpussycat...
Why... Mainly because all that is happening right now is confusing you of your own goals...
Is choosing between them your number 1 priority...
If so, then choose wisely... If not, then leave the both of them and find the peace within yourself...
Maybe, you are hesitant because your condition right now is better than your previous setting with the other one...
But, are you really concentrated on the two of them... Thinking that they could be your destiny...
There are more men out there than the two that you have told us... You might just haven't met what is meant for you...
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choosing is really very hard thing to do naman talaga.. lalo na if your choosing between the one you loved once kasi magiging bias ka... and forgetting someone who becomes a part of you is also so hard to do... di naman dahil sa memories you two made and shared but because kung naging ano ka because of that someone... siguro the best thing to do right now... "dont choose" kasi first of all magiging unfair ka kung pipiliin mo ung second guy... youll be comparing him to your first and lastly sasaktan mo lang sarili mo kasi alam mo na mahal mo pa ung past mo...
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ewan ko kung baket pero maraming babaeng mahilig sa sadista hehehe. kahit maraming sampal ang abutin kakapit pa rin. meron naman halos ibigay na ni lalake ang langit, sunud-sunuran sa lahat pero ayaw ni babae. boring daw. :sipol:
asan na ba yung ginagamit ng kapitbahay namin sa sinakulo noon....
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nestle ikaw ba yan ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ???
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musta na po ang feelings mo ngaun? i hope we have shed some light to your situation. and we thank you for letting us share our thoughts for you. i pray that @appleblossomgirl you have reached your prompt decision already.
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musta na po ang feelings mo ngaun? i hope we have shed some light to your situation. and we thank you for letting us share our thoughts for you. i pray that @appleblossomgirl you have reached your prompt decision already.
i chose no one. si guy 2, nun sinabi ko sa knya na wag na xa umasa kasi i decided to be just alone nlng, or well, ayaw ko na ng commitments, nagalit xa, depressed, stalked me, even told me that he will marry me that month, ipapahanda na daw nya sa parents nya un dowry for me (amounting to 1M pesos! at ikinagulat ko yon). he willingly gave me his atm card and his bank account, oferred me a brand new car.... pero hindi pala talaga sukatan ang materyal na bagay.. i thought i will be happy with him pero something is missing..and ayaw ko naman na pumasok nlng basta sa relationship na feeling ko may kulang.. nakakahinayang lahat ng inoffer nya sa kin hahha! :)) :)) pero ganun talaga..
si guy 1 naman, we remained friends. kung wala kaming relasyon hindi ako masasaktan (palagay ko) so ganun nlng... I cannot just cut my ties with him kasi im friends with almost all his brothers and sisters..
complicated. pero im ok na... thanks guys!
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glad to hear ok na
mahirap talaga pumili kasi lahat may risk. posible rin na naman na si guy no. 2, in the long run, pag naging kayo, will become guy no. 1, and guy no.1 will come to his senses and become guy no.2. so paikot ikot lang
lahat ng desisyon mo may risk. hindi pedeng sureball hehe. kaya nga masarap mabuhay, exciting, kasi di mo alam ano meron bukas ;)
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buti na lng binasa ko hanggang sa huling post as of this writing. akala ko gagawa ako ng 'formal theme' titled "Puso o Pera, Alin sa Dalawa?" o kaya naman "It's Not You, It's Me...Ano ba Talaga Kuya!"
IMO its fair naman wla ka munang pinili sa kanila, allowing time to really tell what are your top priorities today. Di sa pagyayabang I already experienced both roles as yong pinaka mabait na guy sa balat ng mundo then twisted my principles after (bad boy) after someone broke my heart. Kaya lng honestly, d ako masaya kasi dami nagbago sa akin at di ko halos makita ang totoong ako and I feel useless. Lesson learned, Time may not heal everything but Time will guide your decisions at the right time. Wag muna ask when is the right time, malalaman mo lng kung yon na di mo inexpect.
Tingin ko lng @appleblossomgirl baka nga di mo alam ang priorities mo today kaya nahirapan ka mag decide. Enjoy muna moments sa life mo kung ano darating, ika nga take calculated risk and go with the flow kung ano magpapasaya sau.
Pero curios ako, pwd mo hindi sagutin - what it is with the 1st guy that you're so attach with him? Prang old skul na tanong ng Pop Cola na 'bakit mo xa love?' Is it always tama ang timpla or mas challenging kasi may extra effot na pra makuha ang tamang timpla? >:D ;D
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buti na lng binasa ko hanggang sa huling post as of this writing. akala ko gagawa ako ng 'formal theme' titled "Puso o Pera, Alin sa Dalawa?" o kaya naman "It's Not You, It's Me...Ano ba Talaga Kuya!"
IMO its fair naman wla ka munang pinili sa kanila, allowing time to really tell what are your top priorities today. Di sa pagyayabang I already experienced both roles as yong pinaka mabait na guy sa balat ng mundo then twisted my principles after (bad boy) after someone broke my heart. Kaya lng honestly, d ako masaya kasi dami nagbago sa akin at di ko halos makita ang totoong ako and I feel useless. Lesson learned, Time may not heal everything but Time will guide your decisions at the right time. Wag muna ask when is the right time, malalaman mo lng kung yon na di mo inexpect.
Tingin ko lng @appleblossomgirl baka nga di mo alam ang priorities mo today kaya nahirapan ka mag decide. Enjoy muna moments sa life mo kung ano darating, ika nga take calculated risk and go with the flow kung ano magpapasaya sau.
Pero curios ako, pwd mo hindi sagutin - what it is with the 1st guy that you're so attach with him? Prang old skul na tanong ng Pop Cola na 'bakit mo xa love?' Is it always tama ang timpla or mas challenging kasi may extra effot na pra makuha ang tamang timpla? >:D ;D
Sir @karaso ... Nice point of view...
Sana nga lang masagot ni ms. @appleblossomgirl ...
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Ano nga kaya ang lihim ni guy # 1...
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If you're selfish enough to think only but yourself then you'll probably opt for the person who loves you...but that would be miserable for you until you find that one person whom you believe is worth the chase and could make you happy because you love him/her deeply and truly..But isnt it unfair for the one who loves you devotedly?
There really is no appropriate answer to this question. Either of the two choices is painfully difficult.
True love is unconditional...and somehow it doesnt exist in this too complicated modern existence. You give love...you crave love in return. Who would have risked their hearts to love someone so deeply without even thinking of being loved in return and in full satisfaction? Nobody. Because everybody needs love...no single person is brav enough to say "okay lang...this is enough" then wouldn't flinch of the pain of being ignored and unloved....that's quite a hallucination. And even if you try hard not to be foolishly needy of the attention and affection ....for how long?
There will come a time that you will just come into realization that it is not what you really wanted..
.and all pent up emotions will burst and it will leave you...emotionally barren and feeling useless.
Self pity? Low self esteem.. Im afraid this is the unhappy bottomline for those who,unfortunately...been through this kind of experience.
Love ..but be sure to know the difference between loving in reality and fooling with your hallucination...you can have your fill of emotional and physical satisfaction...but for how long...?
I guess...the answer would be ...for as long as you believe that you are still satisfied well enough...but then...satisfaction depends....on how much is considered enough.
...complicated diba?
Bad.....bad...love.
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just in time din na nabuksan ko ang pt.. medyo matagal din un last na nag online ako e.. thanks sa mga insights ninyo.. it made me realize a lot of things, pero un nga, in the end it will still be my decision.. ok.. i didnt choose any, i decided to be just by myself.. pero... si guy 1 pa rin ang hinahanap hanap ko... kahit na me "kalandian" ako (try ko i ost ito sa kwentong malandi, haha!) basta si guy1 ang hinahanap hanap ng puso ko. Xa un tipong lalaking maalam sa bahay pero me pagka strikto. ipinaglalaba ako, ipinagluluto, ipinagmamaneho, ipinagliliis ng bahay... mga bagay na di mo maiisip na gagawin ng mga kalahi nya.. matapang ang personality nya, untipong di mo mkikitang iiyak... pero umiyak xa nun nagpaalam ako sa knya.. ano pa ba ang nagustuhan ko sa knya? malaki, as in malaki... hahahaha!!!! ;D
pero na mi miss ko xa.. kahit me mga times na di kami nagkakaunawaan.. gang ngaun naman may communication pa kami.. ewan ko lng if magkakaron kami ng second chance...
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Hahaha! Sis Apple...
Pwede bang pakitimbrehan mo ako pag wento mo na yan sa Kwentong Malandi?
Papasok ako dun at magbabasa. Nyaha!
;) >:D :peace:
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correct me if I'm wrong, but I think nacchallenge ka lang kay no.1 kasi insensitive sya, you might need some adventure with him na it will be satisfied for you kung mapagbago mo sya at mapansin ka. then for no. 2, you have a feeling for him already, pinipigilan mo lang kasi challenging si no.1.
to answer the question, kay no. 2 kna lang, it will not be hard for you naman kasi you already have a feelings for him. give him a chance and focus on him. remember, love is not only a feeling, its a decision.