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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: Ozymandias on July 21, 2014, 05:54:01 PM
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You may not realize it, but there’s a definite difference between a nice guy and a gentleman. Unfortunately, when it comes to dealing with women, this difference is going to be the key as to whether you have a successful relationship or not.
It’s going to be the key as to whether a woman decides to walk all over you or not. It’s so important to learn the distinction between these two words, because you also need to learn how to act in the correct way if you’re ever going to make a relationship work.
With that said, let’s dive into the details now and determine the difference between a nice guy and a gentleman…
Gentlemanly behavior #1:
A gentleman will happily open a door for a lady. As he does so, he gently touches her on the elbow, shoulder or even the upper back. This lets the woman know that he is very interested in her. It shows that he cares about her and that he really enjoys touching her.
This type of touching is very appropriate when out on a date. It subtly lets the woman know that the gentleman is interested in her. It’s a great way to show that the man would love to get to know this woman better.
Nice guy behavior #1:
In the same scenario, a nice guy will gladly get out and open the door for a lady. But, due to fear and insecurities, he will not gently touch the woman on her upper back, shoulder or elbow. He will not take her by the hand out of fear, and he will avoid contact altogether because he’s afraid to touch the woman without her consent.
This is not very appealing to women. They do not want a man that is such a nice guy that he’s afraid to touch them. They do not want a man that is so insecure that he’s afraid to lay his hand on a woman that is interested in him. This just doesn’t work for women, so nice guys, remember to adopt the behavior of a gentleman and you’ll go much further in the dating world.
Gentlemanly behavior #2:
At the end of the first date, a gentleman would have no problem sweeping a woman off her feet by giving her a kiss good night. And we’re not just talking a friendly peck on the cheek. Oh no. The gentleman will give her a full kiss on the lips.
But on the other hand gentleman…
I’m not talking about a sloppy wet kiss either. Save the tongue kiss for another date. It’s not the appropriate time now since you just met and went out for the very first time.
Nice guy behavior #2:
Here’s where the nice guy always goes wrong…
He doesn’t mean it. Somehow it’s just in his DNA. Or it’s part of his fears and insecurities that he can’t seem to get over.
Instead of leaning in for a passionate kiss, the nice guy feels the need to ask permission ahead of time. This takes all the romance out of the air and it’s never going to sweep a woman off her feet.
Sure, some women might not mind being asked so much. But it really does kill the passion if the man is so scared that he has to ask permission first.
I know it might seem like a nice thing to do, but in reality you’re hurting your chances at really impressing this woman. She wants to be surprised and excited by the first kiss. She doesn’t want to feel like the guy is so scared to make a move that he has to ask instead of just going for it.
Gentlemanly behavior #3:
A gentleman understands body language. He really knows how to read a woman, and he knows when she is sending all the right signals.
Instead of wondering what’s going on, and hoping that there is an attraction, a gentleman will recognize the attraction and proceed based upon the signals that he is receiving.
The woman will gladly reciprocate since she is sending off the signals in the first place. There’s nothing to fear. And the gentleman knows this because he understands women and he recognizes body language and signals that say its okay to take things for the next level.
Nice guy behavior #3:
A nice guy, on the other hand, has no idea how to recognize signals and chemistry. He has no clue how to read body language. This is often a very difficult and awkward time for the nice guy, because he wants to make a move but he just doesn’t know if it’s appropriate.
This can be a serious mood killer for the woman. There may have been a time during the evening where she was open and interested in his advances. But since he did recognize the signals and he screwed up the body language, he may end up making a move at the wrong, inappropriate time. This would seriously put a hamper on the date and potentially even ruin the evening.
Gentlemanly behavior #4:
Let me give this to you plain and simple guys…
A gentleman knows how to lead. He knows how to take charge of a situation. He knows how to act and he knows how to put a plan together to create the perfect day or evening out.
Think about this for a second…
Sometimes a woman just wants the man to take charge. She wants him to come up with a plan for the two of them to enjoy spending time together. A gentleman knows how to lead as we have already determined, and he is the perfect person to come up with a plan and set it into action. Set it into motion and get the ball rolling.
He knows how to make decisions too. Some guys are so indecisive that it’s not even funny. Not a gentleman. He knows exactly how to make the right decisions, and he definitely knows how to get a woman’s attention because of his leadership qualities and his decisiveness.
Nice guy behavior #4:
As I’m sure you can imagine, a nice guy is the exact opposite of a gentleman when it comes to decisiveness and leadership skills. Sometimes this will not bother a woman, but other times it’s going to turn around and bite you in the neck.
The nice guy is always asking women questions about where they want to go, what they want to do. And then the woman will often shrug it off and asked the guys opinion.
But here’s what the nice guy usually does…
When the woman asks him where he wants to go, he’ll give a generic answer saying something like “I don’t know.” Or something like, “Do you have anything that you’d like to do?”
This can be annoying at times for a woman, and it can seem downright disrespectful at other times.
What do I mean?
Well, if you ask a woman out and then you don’t have a plan, it’s disrespectful because you’re wasting her time.
That’s about it for now.
This is the main difference between a gentleman and a nice guy. If you fall in a nice guy category, do your best to learn how to become a gentleman. You’ll be a lot happier in your love life when you do.
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Hmmm...this is very informative and interesting sir ozy...thank you for sharing.
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aba ayos ito sir Ozzy.... hmmm... so saan ba ako nag-fall among the categories na yan hahaha... wala cguro... batang kanto ito eh..... saka na ako maging nice kapag gentle na ako hahaha.... thanks again sir....
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aba ayos ito sir Ozzy.... hmmm... so saan ba ako nag-fall among the categories na yan hahaha... wala cguro... batang kanto ito eh..... saka na ako maging nice kapag gentle na ako hahaha.... thanks again sir....
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May sub category ang mga pinoy sir james...
Maginoo pero medyo bastos
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Haha tnx sir ozy, nahuli ko na mga mali ko hahaha! Lagpak ehh pro tnx atleast may idea na ako kung san ako. Two thumbs up!
You will always be in my Blue Heart
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Ayos to tol ha. Now I know san ako kabilang. Kaya pala sablay mga diskarte ko tsk! Thanks for sharing brader.
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paano kung hindi gentleman at nice guy.....
i guess doon ako nabibilang hahaha :))
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Nice share Sir Ozy.
Yun nga lang d mo tlaga alam kung saang category yung mga guys na both gentleman and nice kse kahit sabihin mong ganun sila, still pumapatol pa rin sila sa mga babae.
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tama nga pala ang sabi sa kanta, amg tipo nyang lalaki ay maginoo pero medyo bastos...
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aba ayos ito sir Ozzy.... hmmm... so saan ba ako nag-fall among the categories na yan hahaha... wala cguro... batang kanto ito eh..... saka na ako maging nice kapag gentle na ako hahaha.... thanks again sir....
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sa totoo lang nung binabasa ko ito ikaw agad pumasok sa isip ko... ikaw yung nice guy na gentleman, pero buti nalang naipaliwanag ni brader Ozy, mag kaiba pala yun... So now i know... ikaw brader eh gentleman ka, yung matinding katangian nasayo na, parang kanta lang ni daniel padilla... lalo na nung mabasa ko ang "Gentlemanly behavior #3:
A gentleman understands body language. He really knows how to read a woman, and he knows when she is sending all the right signals."
wow mukhang sakto ako sa nice guy pero horny haha