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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: elluminati14 on May 19, 2014, 10:30:16 PM
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mga ka pt.. gnito kc sitwasyon ko..3 months kming mag girlfriend ng gf ko tapos gus2 nya akong ipakilala sa parents nya dahil mahal nya ako at gus2 ko rin syang puntahan sa bahay nila.. naging gf ko xa ng hindi alam ng parents nya. ganito yun nung time na sinabi nya sa parents nya na may manliligaw sa kanya nung sinabi ang apilyedo ko ayaw kaagad ng papa nya.. may galit ata sa clan namin yung papa nya dahil daw ganun.. etc.pero sa family namin wala naman kaming nagawa. napasagot ko gf ko ng di alam ng family nya. pero yung gf ko pinakilala ko na sa family ko dahil gus2 nyang makilala family ko at yun ok naman sa kanya ang family ko... sa kasamaang palad yung papa nya ang ayaw sakin kahit di pa ako nakikita ng ama nya... need help po tnx.
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Dude lahat ng ama kalaban ang manliligaw ng kanilang dalaga. In every dad's eyes you are a thief. They will never trust you with their daughter. So to answer your question, Kung mahal mo ang gf mo, patunayan mo... if that means going to meet their parents, gawin mo. Thats the least you can do to earn the right.
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Wait a sec. This sounds familiar. Is your last name Focker?
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Waha Focker, tindi mo talaga sir caligs.
Repapips ang pinaka magandang gawin mo ay very obvious, sige at pakibasa ulit ang advise ni idol animazoo.
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Parang romeo at juliet lang sir story mo hehe clan wars .. ligawan mo dad nya kunin mo kiliti .. daanin mo sa suhol hehe malay mo it works ..
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ang hirap kc mga tol... nung nalaman ng ama nya na ngkikita kami ng gf ko ayaw na ng ama nya pagamitin ng cellphone yung gf ko ..gus2 ko sana puntahan cya sa bahay nila pero ayaw naman ng gf ko baka daw lalala ang sitwasyon . :(
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pa ridding with tandem mo nalang yung tatay ng gf mo para tapos problema mo
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ipon ka ng lakas na loob....
puntahan mo sa bahay at desente ang suot...
harapin mo ang tatay sabay sabi "Mahal na mahal ko yun anak nyo"
biglain mo yun pamilya nya... hehehehe
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patunayan m nlng n di ka magnanakawng anak.... yan tlaga kc ang ng tatay sa mga manliligaw.... kaya puntahan m wag kng matakot
Post Merge: May 20, 2014, 04:23:57 PM
isa pa pala nkalimutan ko... buntisin mo dahil pagbuntis n yan wla n clang magagawa hehehehe yon ang mganda
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btw... tnx sa mga advice nyo.. :) baka meron pa kayong mas magandang idea jan hehe
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Or maybe stop caring so much. I know he is her dad, and you should respect him for that fact alone, pero his opinion of you is beyond your control. As long as alam mong you're not acting like a douche and your intentions are good then that's all there is to it.
What does your gf think about the whole thing? Is the relationship a no go for her, because of this? Did she have a boyfriend before, and was he okay with him? And how old are you guys if you don't mind me asking?
It's usually normal for dads to feel irked by the fact that someone is eyeing his daughter. I've to be honest if I had a daughter and I don't think she's ready for a relationship, I'd kick the boy's ass the moment I see him. So there's that.
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23 po ako yung gf ko 21.....then nag decide nalang kami na cool.off nalang muna baka sakaling maayos pa ang lahat pag dumating ang araw.. maxado kasing kontrolado ng papa nya ang buhay nya kaya nahihirapan ako..
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i've been following your post since day one... guys here have been giving their inputs on how they can provide you best solutions and i must say that with your decision to have a cooling off period is nonetheless a melt down for me... its sad because you both have given up on your relationship just like that... Its a hard fought battle i know but you could have gone discreet on this one... anyway, i respect both your decisions and i bade you two good luck and hoping that someday lady luck will smile on you two...
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actually di pa naman kami break ng gf ko... pinapalamig lang muna namin ang galit ng papa nya sa kanya... then balik ulit sa dati heheh..
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ipon ka ng lakas na loob....
puntahan mo sa bahay at desente ang suot...
harapin mo ang tatay sabay sabi "Mahal na mahal ko yun anak nyo"
biglain mo yun pamilya nya... hehehehe
gusto ko yung suggestion ni 'tol fayt....
kasi kung ako ang nasa kalagayan mo gagawin ko yung suggestion niya.... actually, sa experience ko laging ganun ang ginagawa ko. I can't care less kung ano ang iisipin ng magulang ng gf ko basta ang alam ko mahal ko siya.. at ang tanging paraan eh puntahan siya sa bahay....
You will kill 2 birds in one stone, una malalaman mo kung gaano ka kamahal ng gf mo and pangalawa, you can prove that you love her that much by facing your greatest fear, fear na lahat yata tayong mga lalaki ay nararamdaman ito....the father or parents of the one's we love.
kung mag-gigive up ka dahil sa ganun lang na hindi mo pa nga nasusubukan then it will be your loss. You should have tried bago ka man lang nakipag-cool off. It just means that your love is not strong enough to stand, i'm telling you this as your senior, i've been threatened to be killed, pointed a gun on my face, napaghasaan ng gulok...but it is all worth it kasi naging masaya ako and proven that my love is true....nobody can blame me if the relationship didn't work out, at least i have done my part...and not just did it but did it with all my heart.... you should the same...your gf will not expect you to catch bullet or shield her with a knife but i'm sure she is expecting you to stand up for her....
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thank you mga tol....... pag di namin ma resolve yung sitwasyon namin ngaun... pupuntahan ko gf ko sa bahay nila.. bahala na heheh... tnx sa advice
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Basta pag pumunta ka sa kanila ay wag mo kalimutan magdala ng foods.
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Basta pag pumunta ka sa kanila ay wag mo kalimutan magdala ng foods.
Hahahaha! Pambihira, last time na may mag ganyan na may dalang foods kuno, parang inapakan ng kalabaw sa mukha ang resulta! Na gulpi de gulat haha! Catch you're like pareng monde, tawa ako ng tawa dito Oo.
OT: Nasa sa iyo yan, okay yung sumipot ka it shows your sincerity, pero use common sense too. If you think things will end up badly, then why make it more difficult. Depende din yan sa situation. In my example, if I'm the dad and I told my daughter not to see this guy, and he decides to show his face in my house, then I would tear that guy apart. Dafuq are you doing here?
Depends how the guy hates you. I wasn't able to see your answer to my question, did she have a boyfriend before, and does he know him? How did he react towards him if so? Kung wala naman then you might be witnessing some sort of empty nest syndrome. Parents feel like someone is taking their precious away from them, I think it's normal to feel antagonistic.
I'm not going to lie to you, this sorta happened to me too. It might help out things in perspective for you, but I think mine was more extreme than your situation.
I was involved with a girl, I got her pregnant, her family was understandably more than pissed, they went ballistic. She called me, crying and all that. What did I do? I showed up ng mag isa doon sa kanila and talked to her parents and brothers. Yung kalsada pa nila was napapaligiran ng mga ka anak nila and long time family friends. I got to tell you, all eyes were on me that day. I have nothing to hide, you're daughter wanted to be with me, if not then I wouldn't be here. I appreciate their protectiveness, lalo at bunso pa yung anak nila. Mind you this is the first time they have ever seen me, I don't have the habit of meeting the family of girls I dated. I just don't do that.
My brothers, cousins and our driver wanted to come with me in case the situation got pretty bad, but I didn't let them. This is something I'm going to have to fix myself. Sometimes you just have to man up and tough it out. I told them how it is respectfully, and they are just going to have to accept it. Your daughter loves me, I got her pregnant, I'm not running away from my responsibilities, hence why I'm here. Nakita nila na hindi ako duwag and that was a plus to them I guess.
When I showed up, they talked to me, I talked to them like civil people do. Okay naman ang result. We are all very pleasant now with each other. Things are great.
I'm not saying this is how it's going to turn out, maaaring Oo, maaring hindi. Mine was an extreme case, she was already carrying my child, come hell or high water of course I will show up. It's my right.
Think about your options, if his opinion truly matters so much to you guys, then you're just going to have to deal with it, sooner or later.
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Basta pag pumunta ka sa kanila ay wag mo kalimutan magdala ng foods.
Maganda ang suggestion ni tol monde8. Basta tiyakin mo lang na hindi sa condo ang bahay ng gf mo ha. Toinks
Sorry not helping.
Peace
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actually sa tanong mo "Prime" tungkol sa gf ko .. may bf po xa dati at nasaktang xa ng sobra.. then kaya siguro parang na phobia yung papa nya. at ang nag palala pa dahil ata may galit rin ang papa nya sa relatives ko at yun pati ako nadamay ..
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Di ka talaga gusto nung girl. Dinadahilan lang nya yung papa niya kasi alam niya di mo naman talaga mamemeet yun eh :P
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Dude... in your post, 3 months (well 4 na ngayon) pa lng kayo... I think it is still to early in the relationship to meet the parents. Biro you will be biting the bullet ika nga to meet her father, risking insult & rejection and you are not yet still sure kung sya nga yun girl na pakakasalan mo.
Patagilin mo muna pag sure na sure na na sya na nga yun girl then saka mo ipaglaban and prove to her dad that you are the best thing that ever happened to his daughter. Otherwise sayang lang yun effort.
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Umiinom ba tatay nya? Or meron kapatid na lalaki yung gf mo? Kung meron, inom kayo. Tapos kunin mo yung loob ng mga kapatid nyang lalaki. Matutulungan ka non.
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... Ok ang advice nung nasa taas ko ah.
Segundahan ko lang ...
Ask mo na den, well not directly .. Research ka muna ng konti...
Try to know kung ano weakness ni Erparts.. May bisyo?
Cards, mahjong? Manok ? Hahaha!
Yung unang sinamang palad na suitor ko.. Binigyan ng manok daddy ko... It was a McLean Hatch ( yellow leg) ... Yun.... Di nagtagal ... Naging sila yata ni Daddy.. Wahaha!
Joke lang! There's probably a reason baket nde pa sya ready na ipakilala ka sa family nya..
Have patience ... Wag madaliin.. May tamang oras para sa lahat ng bagay..
For the meantime... Keep every moments with your girl worth while .
Aight?!
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isa pa pala nkalimutan ko... buntisin mo dahil pagbuntis n yan wla n clang magagawa hehehehe yon ang mganda
Ito ang pinaka-gusto kong advice, kaya lang baka gawin kang fertilizer sa kangkong nung tatay at kapatid nyang lalaki. :peace:
OT: Man up! Nasa tamang edad na kayo nung GF mo. Sabihin mo ng diretso sa pamilya nya na mahal mo ang anak nila. Ask and the worst they can do is say No. Then it's up to you and your GF if you are willing to continue your relationship without her family's permission.
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thank you mga tol....... pag di namin ma resolve yung sitwasyon namin ngaun... pupuntahan ko gf ko sa bahay nila.. bahala na heheh... tnx sa advice
[/show her family how much she means to you in your life, earn their trust, kung anuman sabihin nya sa iyo, tanggapin mo. tutal, opinyon lang nya siguro iyon, isapa, dahil nga siguro babae ang anak nila kaya protective lang sila sa anak nila. it may take a long time, but in due time, kung talagang mapatunayan nilang sincere ka sa anak nila, they will understand. good luck po!]
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Tol, kung anong tricks ang ginawa mo sa gf mo nun niligawan mo sya. I double mo pa sa panliligaw sa erpat ng gf mo. At laging ipakita mo na magalang ka. Mag sori ka din kasi di sa pamamahay nila mo niligawan ang gf mo.