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this really happened to me, although these were not my first loves but its worth a penny...
Paano at kailan kayo nagkakilala?
I was a freshman in college and I had a 4th yr. HS steady gf whom I only got to see every Sunday masses only since she's studying in Bulacan and I'm in Katipunan. I belong to a block section and my classmates at first thought I'm a snobbish type of a person because I have chinky eyes but when they came to know me, hayun, riot na! There is this one girl in our barkada, she stands 5'4" and her name is Arce. She is a beauty, white skin and most of all, dimpled. I get to get along with her like most of the guys but she was always persistent and sticky wherever or whatever I do. I knew based on her ways that this girl is falling for me despite my none assertiveness to her gestures. I just played along as being a close friend to her. In our section, di maiwasan eh, there were other factions. Lahat naman ng classmates ko kinakausap ko and I want it that way. Just being friendly. So dun sa isang group, there is a lady there in the name of Jopay, balbon sya, maharot and oozing with six appeal. Siya ang kabatuhan ko ng biruan sa kanilang grupo. She would always call me 'boyfriend", na when my other classmates would hear that, hayun, they would tease us na as if it was true. Jopay loved the idea and she told me just to play along with her nasty idea. I told her that its not a good idea and that let others know that it was only a joke. And she replied, "Basta! Boyfriend kita!"... I just laughed it off and turned my back, shook my head and moved towards my barkada.
Paano mo siya dineskartehan or paano ka dineskartehan?
As school days went by, Arce and I got closer to each other. She was very intelligent and always topping the class academic subjects. She thought me the ins and outs of our main subjects. One day while we were discussing one subject matter. She looked so sad. So I asked her what's wrong and anything I can do to help her. She just shook her head in silence, embraced my arm and leaned her head over my shoulder. "Gago ka kasi, manhid ka, mahal na kita nuon pa lang, bakit ba ang tingin mo lagi sa paligid mo.. kay Jopay, kay Anna? ako itong lagi mong kasama ah..." she said. I told her that I have a girlfriend back home and we see each other every Sundays, etc. She replied, "O, anung pakialam ko sa girlfriend mo, iba naman sya at iba naman ako... Akin ka naman lunes hanggang Sabado, so mas lamang ako kesa sa kanya, at solo mo naman ako at wala kang kaagaw sa akin.."
Gaano katagal ka sinagot or gaano katagal bago mo sinagot?
Her statement alone made me felt uneasy. I will be betraying my gf of one year. Damn. But hey, my manly pride got the better of me and so I turned to her and kissed her forehead and that's it. We're ON. One thing I didn't tell her was that I never told her that I love her back. I just told her this, "Ok, we are into this relationship not because we loved each other for we are not really sure about this but we have to do this because its the right thing to do at this very moment..". Then we were locked in a passionate kiss.
Ano mga bagay na na enjoy niyo together?
We enjoyed being together. We enjoyed doing six and after which I would wake up seeing her study our lessons. She would teach me everything about our assignments and all. I would return the favor by teaching her various sixual pleasures she couldn't have imagined before. We would dine out every now and then. We do get serious when its examination week.
Problems that you encountered?
Jealousy. She's irritated when she asked me questions every Monday morning. She couldn't helped asking me what my other gf and I did yesterday. When I told her what transpired she would stand up and leave me. Our school foundation came with merry booths all over the campus. I invited Arce for us to go and have a look at different booths but she declined and pointing to her hand held notes. Upon hearing this, Jopay, who was sitting at Arce's back stood up, grabbed my hand and pulled me in a rush. Jopay said "Halika boyfriend, dali!" We went straight to the campus still holding my hand. There is this marriage booth and without further funfare, we were 'married' by a 'priest'. After the 'ceremony', the 'priest' told me, "You may now kiss the bride, James". I told Jopay discreetly, "Hahaha, hoy Jopay wala sa script ito ha.... tara na at balik na tayo sa room natin".. she replied by saying "James, maraming nanunuod sa atin ngayon, ipapahiya mo ba ako dito?". So I looked around us and she was right. So I positioned myself to plant a gentle kiss on her cheek but she grabbed my head instead and she kissed me in my lips. She didn't let go of that moment, not letting go, she opened her mouth and pushed her tongue inside my mouth. French kiss.I thought we were making out at that very moment. Oh boy, she's a good kisser. We left the booth and head towards our classroom. While walking, her arm is locked with mine and told me, "O paano na yan, kasal na tayo paano mo ngayon ipapaliwanag kay Arce yan..." .."Wala naman dapat ipaliwanag at biruan at laro lang naman yung kanina." I replied. "Sinong niloko mo? hahaha... sarap na sarap ka din sa halikan natin kanina tapos parang may matigas pa dyan sa harapan mo hahaha.." she chided me. When we've reached our classroom upstairs, Arce walked towards us and slapped my face.
Ano kinahinatnan ng relationship, nagkatuluyan ba or nauwi sa lahat?
After the semester ended, Arce and I called it quits because of so many jealous and nagging matters of which I am guilty of. Jopay and I became an item for two months while the not so mentioned lady in the name of Anna also became my girlfriend for another 4 months or so.
Most importantly, ano mga natutunan mo from your relationship?
That it is bad to play with somebody's heart if you were really not into it in the first place. But I still wonder as to why I was to be blamed in a failed relationship. I have been very vocal about my existing relationship with them but to no avail. They still want my attention and yet I was the one being tagged as the culprit when things got sour. I guess I have to take it all on me just to spare them from any embarrassment.
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this started a couple of years ago.....
Paano at kailan kayo nagkakilala?
I was sent by my company somewhere in a European country for an official business. It was my second business trip there. And for the second time I was fetched in the airport by Antonio, my handler. He would pick me up and would drive me to my assigned hotel. Palibhasa pinoy ako kailangan kong makibagay sa mga nakakasama ko. Mahirap mag-isa sa lupang hindi ko kabisado. So I asked Antonio if we can have some drinks sa gabi at sa makalawa pa naman ang official function ko. He said yes and he will be there right in my hotel door by the evening. So I waited. It was around 6:30pm when he picked me up and he invited me first sa kanilang family house. When we got there, isa isa nyang pinakilala sa akin ang family members nya. He introduced to me his younger sister, Nellie, ang ganda nya, long black hair na straight, tangos ng ilong and she's only 19 then. She stands at a stunning 5'8" at talaga namang parang dinrowing ang figure nya. To my big surprise, she works as a part time model and a student at the same time. Na-meet ko din mga parents ni Antonio while endless pastas and breads ang dinner namin. Lengya, di ata uso ang water or soda sa lugar nila at puro red wine ang drinks.
Paano mo siya dineskartehan or paano ka dineskartehan?
After dinner, ayaw ko ng umalis kina Antonio at talagang gusto ko pang makita si Nellie. Kaso nahihiya naman ako at naalangan at matangkad sya kaysa sa akin. So mayamaya lang nag-aya na ako na umalis na kami ni Antonio at iinom nga kami, pinigilan kami ng father nila and instead sinama nila ako sa may di kalayuan sa kanilang house, may gathering ng mga tao duon at may festivities. So duon kami uminom at naki saya. Hindi ko naman maintindihan ang kanilang lenguahe kaya sagad ang english ko. "i will leave you James to my sister, Nellie, ok?.. don't worry she will not leave you, she will take care of you...in our country, we play a good host to our visitors..." sabi ni Antonio. Nakaupo lang kami sa long table ni Nellie gawing likod. Kwentuhan kami ni Nellie. Kapag nauubos na ang laman ng beer mug ko ay kinukuha ito agad at sinasalinan ng father nila.Sabi ko sa sarili ko, "Ok dito ah, tama nga pala, they play good host sa mga katulad ko, aba sa Maynila bahala na ako dito ah hehehe"... Mahirap din kakwentuhan si Nellie, barok ako sa languange nila at barok din sya mag-english, but somehow we've managed to understand each others' point of views. Red wine ang iniinom nya at strawberries ang pulutan nya samantalang ako lamb chops na parang mechado ang luto. Iba ang music nila, nagkakasayahan ang mga tao, accordion ata hawak nung isang matandang lalaki duon at kantahan sila ng kantahan na di ko naman naiintindihan. Sabi ko kay Nellie kung bakit strawberries ang kinakain nya, she told me na it brings out the flavor daw sa red wine. Aba okay din naman ang isang ito ano at alam nya ang tasting ng wine. Ganito pala dito, namnam ang bawat sip ng wine. Gandang tignan ng face ni Nellie, palibhasa bata pa at panay ang ngiti at tawa sa mga sinasabi ko. Di ko lang alam kung naiintindihan pa ba ako nito or what. Nung nakakarami na sya ng wine, nasabi ko sa sarili ko na ano kaya ang meron at nag-aalis ng sapatos ang isang ito. Naghintay ako kung tatayo ba sya or what, wala naman akong nakitang dagat na malapit duon para maglakad sya ng walang sapatos sa buhanginan. Basta pinatong lang nya mga paa nya sa sapatos sa sahig. So tuloy naman ako sa kwento ko. Tawanan kami until naramdaman ko na kinikiskis nya ang paa nya sa legs ko. At first i thought baka may pusa sa ilalim ng mesa pero alam ko paa nya yun. Dahil wide reader naman ako, alam kong isang flirting gesture yun sa mga foreign countries.
Gaano katagal ka sinagot or gaano katagal bago mo sinagot?
So nung maramdaman ko ang gesture na yun, I immediately stood up and whispered in her ear na I have to go and I invited her to come with me. She obliged and we left the festivities without others knowing it. We flagged down a cab and on to my hotel. Once inside my room, we freshened up and we had six the whole night. Inaasahan ko na paggising ko sa umaga na wala na sya sa tabi ko and usual naman yun at customary sa mga foreign countries pero laking gulat ko ng pagmulat ko ng aking mga mata na she was wearing my long sleeves without undies na nakatingin sa akin, smiling. I can not ask her the question na "o bat andito ka pa".. but rather i asked her if she's hungry. We fixed ourselves and went to the nearby cozy cafe ala alfresco sa tabing kalsada. Kwento na naman ang James pero bigla nya akong hinawakan sa kamay ko at tinanong, "I like you, do you like me?... We have different worlds but I know I will get to know you much better... you speak by heart and not all men carry themselves like you do...". Para akong tumama sa lotto sabi ko sa sarili ko. "Oh please James, say that you like me too?"..I didn't respond by words but I kissed her lips as my answer. The people that were looking at us chanted the words "amore! amore!"
Ano mga bagay na na enjoy niyo together?
Enjoy ako sa kanya kasi parang malaking bata ang kasama ko palagi. She would invite me sa kanilang house at pinagluluto pa ako ng mother nila. Parang Filipina din ang style nilang mag-anak. Hospitable. Ako na din ang nahihiya kay Antonio kasi naasiwa ako na nakikita nya akong hinahalikan ng sister nya. Bibili kami ng gelato sa store at share kami sa iisang cone. No doubt, malupit sa kama si Nellie. Alam nya kung paano ako tatagal at kung kailan ako pabibilisin. Makita ko lang ang maamong mukha nya sa kama talaga namang tatawagin ko ang lahat ng santo na alam ko.
Problems that you encountered?
Marami kaming naging problema. Kadalasan puro time sa isa't isa ang pinagaawayan namin. Long distance relationship din kami kasi laging one or two months lang ako sa bansa nila. Feeling nya kasi parausan ko lang daw sya. I tried proposing to her early last year but each time na mag-try ako laging may problema kami. Nag-aaway. I guess she's not ready yet to settle down mainly because of her age and her career as well.
Ano kinahinatnan ng relationship, nagkatuluyan ba or nauwi sa lahat?
Naging madalang na ang aming communications. Last time na magawi ako sa kanilang lugar eh wala naman sya duon sa bansa nila. I should know because of his brother Antonio na handler ko duon. Dumadalaw pa din ako sa house nila and meet her parents. Ganun pa din naman ang pakikitungo nila sa akin but sadly hindi kami mag-abot ni Nellie, Kapag nalaman ni Nellie na dumalaw ako sa house nila tatawag yan sa akin just to thank me and kumustahin na din ako. So laging ganun. Hanggang sa dumalang na ng dumalang ang aming communications. Alam ko na at her age marami na siyang nami-meet na guys.
Most importantly, ano mga natutunan mo from your relationship?
Lumawak pa lalo ang understanding ko sa isang relationship na ang partner ko ay isang foreigner. Maraming cultural differences that we have to consider. Communication is one and the other is the culture and traditions they have. Masaya lang din ako and I have no regrets kasi hindi naman lahat ng lalaking pinoy ay may experience na ganito. Btw, Nellie called me up late last year just to say hello to me, I just gave her my sweet replies but deep inside me I have no more feelings for her kasi occupied na masyado ang attention ko sa aking work and sa isang Filipina.