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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: grayle on February 03, 2014, 08:33:58 PM
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I'm attracted to this girl who I've been talking to for the past 2 months. I make it a point to talk to her pag nakita ko siya, and I don't think she's uncomfortable with it because she seems to have fun chatting with me too - hindi parang nagmamadali or tahimik. I've made it a point to keep the topics fairly friendly and not flirty, because I don't wanna put her on the defensive and I wanted to get to know her because I'm serious. Since Valentine's was coming up, I decided to make my move.
She said she had to do OT sa work during Valentines - I'm used to it because she's in IT crazy naman talaga and work schedule dyan. So I offered to bring her coffee in the evening. She said sure, but she insists on paying for it. Ako naman, I told her it was fine and I was happy to pay for it. She still insisted in paying for the coffee though, and I shouldn't convince her otherwise.
So mga ka PT, advice lang. Am I friendzoned or not? Parang mixed signals ata that she's ok with me dropping by and having coffee with her pero ayaw naman magpalibre.
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Not at all. Ang mga babae ngayon wants to show their independence and it's an old fashioned chivalry to pay for girl's tab. Hintayin mo na lang when you ask her for a formal date then you pay for everything. Don't let it ruin the vibe and just go with the flow.
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based on your story siguro i can say safely na may pag-asa ka if you pursue pero take it easy kasi the signal is not clear.... it is still early to say na friendzone, and most of the ladies are really hard to read.... why not try, unless a lady said you are just friend....how 'bout a hint, mga palipad hangin na pwede mong sabihin ng hindi direct.....
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I'm attracted to this girl who I've been talking to for the past 2 months. I make it a point to talk to her pag nakita ko siya, and I don't think she's uncomfortable with it because she seems to have fun chatting with me too - hindi parang nagmamadali or tahimik. I've made it a point to keep the topics fairly friendly and not flirty, because I don't wanna put her on the defensive and I wanted to get to know her because I'm serious. Since Valentine's was coming up, I decided to make my move.
She said she had to do OT sa work during Valentines - I'm used to it because she's in IT crazy naman talaga and work schedule dyan. So I offered to bring her coffee in the evening. She said sure, but she insists on paying for it. Ako naman, I told her it was fine and I was happy to pay for it. She still insisted in paying for the coffee though, and I shouldn't convince her otherwise.
So mga ka PT, advice lang. Am I friendzoned or not? Parang mixed signals ata that she's ok with me dropping by and having coffee with her pero ayaw naman magpalibre.
Hindi pa huli, sir, although my advice for this is state your purpose. I know, it definitely keeps you contented being in the safe zone on this situation. Ang ibig sabihin mong minamadali is minamadali mo to be your gf, right? So it doesn't include your expression that you love her. Get out of the comfort zone as I usually say, kapag tumagal na friendly ang action mo friendly din ang personality mo na magmamarka sa utak nya. So friend din ang idedefine niya sa'yo, right?
Going dutch isn't a sign of being in the friendzone, especially sa mga babae ngayon sa cities. They want to feel they can provide themselves what they want. Or perhaps she still haven't have much trust in you to let you to be her provider.
Kung hindi mo kayang sabihin atleast magpakita ka ng mapapansin niyang motibo.
It doesn't mean she doesn't want to, she won't want it all the way.
Try mong alamin lagi gusto nya. Ibili mo na siya agad ng kape bago pa kayo magkita. Kung ipilit niya pang bayaran yung kape at medyo badtrip na, take it, pero biruin mo na may utang ka pa ulit sa kanya. And do it some other day until she's comfortable. Kung puro negative ang result, isip kang bagong diskarte.
Relax ka lagi, keep a smiling face and crack jokes. Hindi masamang magkamali, you can use your humor as a defence mechanism, mas maaapreciate niya confidence mo doon. Be expressive for rapport pero dapat gets na nya nararamdaman mo.
And be optimistic for more positive results.