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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: somebody on December 16, 2013, 11:16:24 PM
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I love you. And not, not in a friendly way, although I think we’re great friends. And not in a misplaced affection, puppy-dog way, although I love you. Very, very simple, very truly. You are the epitome of everything I have ever looked for in another human being.
And I know that you think of me as just a friend, and crossing that line is the furthest thing from an option you would ever consider. But I had to say it. I just, I can’t take this anymore. I can’t stand next to you without wanting to hold you. I can’t, I can’t look into your eyes without feeling that, that longing you only read about in trashy romance novels. I can’t talk to you without wanting to express my love for everything you are.
—from “Chasing Amy”
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Falling in love with your best friend is a bitch. Nakakatakot na nawala ang friendship ninyo kapag nagtapat ka. Nakakalungkot naman na lagi mo siya kasama pero hindi niya alam na mahal mo siya. Feeling mo nasa pagitan ka ng langit at impyerno everytime na kasama mo siya. :-\
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Falling in love with your best friend is a bitch. Nakakatakot na nawala ang friendship ninyo kapag nagtapat ka. Nakakalungkot naman na lagi mo siya kasama pero hindi niya alam na mahal mo siya. Feeling mo nasa pagitan ka ng langit at impyerno everytime na kasama mo siya. :-
mukhang may pinaghuhugutan ser magbubukid ah..hahaha
uu nga..mahirap talaga mainlove sa bestfriend mo..bka masisira ang maganda nyong relationship...
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Nangyari na sa akin yan. I chose to keep our friendship kaya never ko sinabi na mahal ko siya nang higit pa sa kaibigan.
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Nangyari na sa akin yan. I chose to keep our friendship kaya never ko sinabi na mahal ko siya nang higit pa sa kaibigan.
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Wala ka namang regrets po ??? at napreserve nyo pa rin ba ang friendship nyo ngayon ??? :D
sakin kasi once bestfriend ko..bestrfriend lang talaga..walang lalagpas sa linya ...hahaha
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Wala ka namang regrets po ??? at napreserve nyo pa rin ba ang friendship nyo ngayon ??? :D
sakin kasi once bestfriend ko..bestrfriend lang talaga..walang lalagpas sa linya ...hahaha
Friends pa din kami. She's married now and has 2 kids. :uwa:
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Some people prefer friendship first before love, which i think have an advantage kasi... if you know the person you are inlove for a long time... the adjustment maybe more easier at hindi ka mahihirapang manghula sa feelings niya kasi you know her/him better like the back of your hand....hindi ka mahihiyang magsabi sa kanya ng feelings mo or things that you want to change or you want both of you do....meaning in short term, hindi mo kailangang magpanggap or magtiis na hindi magsalita because it will come naturally dahil you both know each other very well. This is a very good foundation in my perspective though not really perfect to assure a lasting relationship is more better than starting to zero(not knowing anything).
Whereas if he/she is not your friend, the adjustment will be more harder...kasi you have to know everything about him, likes dislikes...etc...during the relationship period, one can not really release or do everything he/she wants without thinking or with caution if it will offend your partner meaning there is a point na kailangang magpanggap or hold something back sa pag-uugali or sweet effect until we think we know enough about the person or the relationship is getting better. The challenge and adventure of doing this is more fun, seldom it gets boring. Normally, it this is the kind of start of a relationship... it is like beginning from a scratch that may not last for long kasi it started from physical attraction only, but the moment you found something not really what you prefer... then one may start to doubt, then thats the beginning of a downhill relationship if the person is not hopelessly inlove with the other person.
In love, there is not a single procedure, things to do, friends, etc....that will assure a better or successful relationship...crossing boundaries are one of the choices we can do that sometimes are the best thing to do.... actually, for me... from friendship to being lover is not crossing boundaries, it is an upgrade relationship that defines the boundaries you can do with each other.....
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Friends pa din kami. She's married now and has 2 kids. :uwa:
mabuti naman po :D
Some people prefer friendship first before love, which i think have an advantage kasi... if you know the person you are inlove for a long time... the adjustment maybe more easier at hindi ka mahihirapang manghula sa feelings niya kasi you know her/him better like the back of your hand....hindi ka mahihiyang magsabi sa kanya ng feelings mo or things that you want to change or you want both of you do....meaning in short term, hindi mo kailangang magpanggap or magtiis na hindi magsalita because it will come naturally dahil you both know each other very well. This is a very good foundation in my perspective though not really perfect to assure a lasting relationship is more better than starting to zero(not knowing anything).
Whereas if he/she is not your friend, the adjustment will be more harder...kasi you have to know everything about him, likes dislikes...etc...during the relationship period, one can not really release or do everything he/she wants without thinking or with caution if it will offend your partner meaning there is a point na kailangang magpanggap or hold something back sa pag-uugali or sweet effect until we think we know enough about the person or the relationship is getting better. The challenge and adventure of doing this is more fun, seldom it gets boring. Normally, it this is the kind of start of a relationship... it is like beginning from a scratch that may not last for long kasi it started from physical attraction only, but the moment you found something not really what you prefer... then one may start to doubt, then thats the beginning of a downhill relationship if the person is not hopelessly inlove with the other person.
In love, there is not single a procedure, things to do, friends, etc....that will assure a better or successful relationship...crossing boundaries are one of the choices we can do that sometimes are the best thing to do.... actually, for me... from friendship to being lover is not crossing boundaries, it is an upgrade relationship that defines the boundaries you can do with each other.....
I really love to read your Points of view ser Imoy.. +karma po sa inyo :D
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well sa panahon ngayon uso na po ang FUBU, kung di kayo puedeng magkaroon nang relationship nang bestfriend mo puede naman kayo mag tutnakan... yan napo ang treanding ngayon sa twitter at iba pang microblogging sites hehe
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getting out of the friendzone is one tough quest to succeed.. pero worth it sa huli pag naging kayo.. kasi alam mo na kaagad ung ugali nya at mas madali kayo makakapag usap sa problema..
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well sa panahon ngayon uso na po ang FUBU, kung di kayo puedeng magkaroon nang relationship nang bestfriend mo puede naman kayo mag tutnakan... yan napo ang treanding ngayon sa twitter at iba pang microblogging sites hehe
Ayos talaga ang payo mo sir troll... Trending ba? Hahaha....
OT: a fruitful relationship best starts in a friendship.. The more you know him the better before going to that serious level... Ang mahirap lang dito is kung papansinin ka nung guy friend na mapunta kayo sa estado as lovers... Are both parties willing to give it a try? Careful since friendship is at stake...
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Some people prefer friendship first before love, which i think have an advantage kasi... if you know the person you are inlove for a long time... the adjustment maybe more easier at hindi ka mahihirapang manghula sa feelings niya kasi you know her/him better like the back of your hand....hindi ka mahihiyang magsabi sa kanya ng feelings mo or things that you want to change or you want both of you do....meaning in short term, hindi mo kailangang magpanggap or magtiis na hindi magsalita because it will come naturally dahil you both know each other very well. This is a very good foundation in my perspective though not really perfect to assure a lasting relationship is more better than starting to zero(not knowing anything).
Whereas if he/she is not your friend, the adjustment will be more harder...kasi you have to know everything about him, likes dislikes...etc...during the relationship period, one can not really release or do everything he/she wants without thinking or with caution if it will offend your partner meaning there is a point na kailangang magpanggap or hold something back sa pag-uugali or sweet effect until we think we know enough about the person or the relationship is getting better. The challenge and adventure of doing this is more fun, seldom it gets boring. Normally, it this is the kind of start of a relationship... it is like beginning from a scratch that may not last for long kasi it started from physical attraction only, but the moment you found something not really what you prefer... then one may start to doubt, then thats the beginning of a downhill relationship if the person is not hopelessly inlove with the other person.
In love, there is not single a procedure, things to do, friends, etc....that will assure a better or successful relationship...crossing boundaries are one of the choices we can do that sometimes are the best thing to do.... actually, for me... from friendship to being lover is not crossing boundaries, it is an upgrade relationship that defines the boundaries you can do with each other.....
I really like the way you comment a single word, meaning no boundaries for a friendship zone but it depends upon the situation.....thanks sa comment sir imoy your the best! (^_~)
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Being in the friendzone is the most simplest, easiest and safest way to get attached to a person. Pero, hindi ito basihan para magkaroon ka ng chance na makatuluyan ang tao.
The purpose of friendship is to have emotional and moral support through other people, kinda like love pero it must be less intimate. The thing kasi bakit nga ba may pumupunta muna sa friendzone or bakit ang nanliligaw napapapunta sa friendzone is usually based on how you attract them. Hindi nila magets kung anong purpose mo sa kanila bakit ka nakikipagclose sa kanila. It maybe caused by staying at your comfort zone, maging matapang din kasi. Tiwala dapat sa sarili at suportahan ng buo ang desisyon.
Parang prutas lang yan sa isang mataas na puno, totoo bumabagsak sa lupa ang pinakahinog na prutas pero nakakasigurado ka ba na hinog sya pagpunta sa kamay mo? Tutukain siya ng ibon, pwede ring magkaroon ng uod bago pumunta sayo, pwede ring kapitan ng insekto o baka bulok na siya bago pa mapasayo. Bakit hindi ka nalang maging matapang, magtiwala ka sa sarili mo at pitasin ang prutas sa mataas na puno. Posible kang malaglag at masaktan pero katumbas din nito ang sarap ng prutas at nadaragdagan pa ito ng kaligayahan dahil nakuha mo ang gusto mo at alam mong pinaghirapan mo ito. Nagbabago ang paraan sa panahon ngayon pero sa pagmamahal ganun pa rin, hindi siya instant. Kung hindi mo sasabihin ang totoong nararamdaman mo how will you expect na papasok sa isipan niya na mahal mo siya? Kung tayo nga nagdududa, sila pa kaya?
At kung dumating sa panahon na hanggang friends lang talaga, give space have some closure. Maaring temporary or permanent. Give some dignity for yourself and try to accept the fact na hindi ka niya gusto at marami pang tao sa mundo, siguro sa kanya ka lang nagfocus noon.
I had this experience once, pinilit ko from the start na love ang nararamdaman ko sa kanya but she still force us to be friends. I had closure. Naghabol siya ng naghabol at ako naman umiwas na ng umiwas. Kung ano ako sa kanya ay nagbago, nakakaloko, from friends naging hindi sigurado. XD
Anyway, cut the story short, hindi pa rin ako nakipagtuluyan sa kanya. Kung ano kasi ang nararamdaman nyo sa isa't isa yun yung paghuhugutan mo sa oras na magkaroon kayo ng problema, papayag ba ako ng may ipinaglalaban na hindi sigurado? Hindi nalang. XD
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Being in the friendzone is the most simplest, easiest and safest way to get attached to a person. Pero, hindi ito basihan para magkaroon ka ng chance na makatuluyan ang tao.
The purpose of friendship is to have emotional and moral support through other people, kinda like love pero it must be less intimate. The thing kasi bakit nga ba may pumupunta muna sa friendzone or bakit ang nanliligaw napapapunta sa friendzone is usually based on how you attract them. Hindi nila magets kung anong purpose mo sa kanila bakit ka nakikipagclose sa kanila. It maybe caused by staying at your comfort zone, maging matapang din kasi. Tiwala dapat sa sarili at suportahan ng buo ang desisyon.
Parang prutas lang yan sa isang mataas na puno, totoo bumabagsak sa lupa ang pinakahinog na prutas pero nakakasigurado ka ba na hinog sya pagpunta sa kamay mo? Tutukain siya ng ibon, pwede ring magkaroon ng uod bago pumunta sayo, pwede ring kapitan ng insekto o baka bulok na siya bago pa mapasayo. Bakit hindi ka nalang maging matapang, magtiwala ka sa sarili mo at pitasin ang prutas sa mataas na puno. Posible kang malaglag at masaktan pero katumbas din nito ang sarap ng prutas at nadaragdagan pa ito ng kaligayahan dahil nakuha mo ang gusto mo at alam mong pinaghirapan mo ito. Nagbabago ang paraan sa panahon ngayon pero sa pagmamahal ganun pa rin, hindi siya instant. Kung hindi mo sasabihin ang totoong nararamdaman mo how will you expect na papasok sa isipan niya na mahal mo siya? Kung tayo nga nagdududa, sila pa kaya?
At kung dumating sa panahon na hanggang friends lang talaga, give space have some closure. Maaring temporary or permanent. Give some dignity for yourself and try to accept the fact na hindi ka niya gusto at marami pang tao sa mundo, siguro sa kanya ka lang nagfocus noon.
I had this experience once, pinilit ko from the start na love ang nararamdaman ko sa kanya but she still force us to be friends. I had closure. Naghabol siya ng naghabol at ako naman umiwas na ng umiwas. Kung ano ako sa kanya ay nagbago, nakakaloko, from friends naging hindi sigurado. XD
Anyway, cut the story short, hindi pa rin ako nakipagtuluyan sa kanya. Kung ano kasi ang nararamdaman nyo sa isa't isa yun yung paghuhugutan mo sa oras na magkaroon kayo ng problema, papayag ba ako ng may ipinaglalaban na hindi sigurado? Hindi nalang. XD
Wow.very well said ser tonying.,ang lawak talaga ng yung kaisipan..... Super like ko yung advice mong maging matapang at akyatin yung puno.... Salamat po ^_^
Somebody that I Used to Know *-*
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Saktong latest status ko kasi ang kinuwento ko sa last part. Hahaha!
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Falling in love with your best friend is a bitch. Nakakatakot na nawala ang friendship ninyo kapag nagtapat ka. Nakakalungkot naman na lagi mo siya kasama pero hindi niya alam na mahal mo siya. Feeling mo nasa pagitan ka ng langit at impyerno everytime na kasama mo siya. :-\
[/the feeling is mutual po... happened to me way back 4th yr hs, we're friends the until after our graduation, we communicated thru letters since then until i felt there is something i really feel for her. since i'm always with her, told her about my feelings towards her but she said that she just wanted us to remain friends and wont entertain such feelings. somehow i felt she got angry about this but i told her it just wasnt my plan or what. it just happened, one day i woke up, realizing it isnt platonic anymore for me. but i respected her decision and up to now, though, we have not seen each other for years, we are still bff.]
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there's a reason kung bakit nasa friend zone ka. And unless may pinapakita siyang kakaiba rin towards you, malaking risk talaga ang magtapat sa kanya dahil more likely friend lang talaga turing niya sa iyo.
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i can relate to this situation. Yung wife ko ay naging mag-bestfriend muna kami bago kami nagkatuluyan. I was also scared na mawala siya if magtapat ako ng totoong feelings ko sa kanya pero it was worth it.
Even if it went the other way, at least you can say you have tried than not showing to her what she really means to you.