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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: bohica on November 09, 2013, 08:21:16 AM
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Bohi's comments: These are 10 qualities of a future wife as compiled by goodguyswag.com. Compare these with your own and comment on this thread.
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1. She shares your beliefs
When it comes to finding your wife, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” It has nothing to do with weightlifting. Your potential wife should have the same beliefs you have. Now, you may think you can do some missionary dating, and turn that situation around. More often than not, you’re going to be disappointed with some bad side effects. If you don’t have the same core beliefs….good luck.
2. She makes you a better man
If everyday is hell with her, that should be a red flag. Your potential wife should elevate you to Yourself 2.0. You can get a good idea from your friends and family. Do they say you act differently in a bad way when you are around her? Not a good sign. She should bring out the best in you, not bring out heartache and frayed nerves.
3. She’s trustworthy
In fact, she should inspire trustworthiness within you. If you don’t trust her, you’re probably making her as bitter as you’re making yourself. Not worth it. If you can’t trust her, maybe you’re not ready to date her or maybe you need to work on confidence issues within yourself. If there’s good reason not to trust her, don’t even go there.
4. She has ambition
She should have strength in character and carry herself with confidence. As a man, you should be the leader in the relationship, but that doesn’t mean she’s the consummate follower. She should have plans too. In fact, she should be a hard worker just like you. That doesn’t mean having a job is a requirement. One of my friends is a stay-at-home wife with three kids, and she works harder than any of my friends with careers.
5. She’s selfless
She should care about others. Look at the way she treats her family and her friends. If she’s not close with her family, and doesn’t have any good friends, that’s not a good sign. If you start dating her, much less marry her, you will discover why. Some questions to ask your self: Does she care about causes? Does she go out and volunteer? These are important characteristics to consider.
6. She’s attractive
In your eyes, she should be a “10.” When my wife walks in the room, I’m awestruck by her every time. She’s beautiful from the inside out. However, I’ve dated “hot” girls who ended up being downright ugly by the time we broke up. Personality plays into attractiveness big-time. Just remember, “charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.” She should be beautiful down to her soul because that kind of beauty lasts forever.
7. She’s smart
You’re going to be spending a lot of time with her, so she should be able to hold a good conversation. She should be wise, smart, and give you good advice. Her women’s intuition should be strong. I look to my wife all the time for advice. She’s collected all sorts of wisdom from her mom. She remembers everything. Yes, everything….maybe too much.
8. She loves you unconditionally
If she’s trying to change you to be another person, it’s time to move on. Your future wife should love you just as you are, regardless of anything you’ve done in your past. There will be minor adjustments along the way, but if she nags you about your core characteristics, it won’t get any better in marriage.
9. She’s responsible
Does she remember appointments and meetings? Does she flake all of the time? She should already do a good job of managing her own life. If she’s got loads of debt and doesn’t work, you’re going to be taking all of that on. Ultimately, she will have some part in your financial well-being, and guess what? Finances remain one of the leading causes of divorce.
10. She gets along with your family and friends
If she doesn’t even try to connect with your family and/or friends, it’s probably time to move on. She shouldn’t be critical of the people who have been loyal to you throughout your life. There might be cases where your mom doesn’t like your future wife, and that may require your intervention. But in general, she should be a good fit with the people in your life. Marriage is a joining of two lives that existed prior to meeting the other person.
When it comes down to it, you know what you can handle. Love can overwrite many of the qualities above, but having these qualities will certainly make your lives easier once you are married. No one’s perfect. Even with this list, both of you are still going to bring some kind of baggage into the relationship.
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What if she has 8 out of 10...or 8.5...hahaha
I'm just curious...for you sir bohica... does your wife has those 10 qualities???
then you are one lucky man...
:P :P :P
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What if she has 8 out of 10...or 8.5...hahaha
I'm just curious...for you sir bohica... does your wife has those 10 qualities???
then you are one lucky man...
:P :P :P
Good that you asked. I should have posted my score.
Here it is:
(http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ZlxcGpCOnvo/TyMVOanOb3I/AAAAAAAAAKo/FO-nMMUgWvk/s1600/8outof10.png)
But we've been together for a looonnnggggggg time.
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Nice thread chief. Probably a better reference for future applicants. Thanks for sharing. Hoping to get that high score like what you've got lol. +karma
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Good that you asked. I should have posted my score.
Here it is:
(http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ZlxcGpCOnvo/TyMVOanOb3I/AAAAAAAAAKo/FO-nMMUgWvk/s1600/8outof10.png)
But we've been together for a looonnnggggggg time.
okay yan sir bohica...mukha ngang mas tatagal pa kayo...
kaya ko natanong ay same din yung sa akin...
sayang nga at nakakita ako ng sa palagay ko ay 9-9.5 out of 10...
but IT'S VERY COMPLICATED...
:( :( :(
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nice post bohica.... i posted the counter part of this in the spiritual section for ladies naman..... husband list: 12 non negotiable......
+karma sa iyo
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9 out of 10. Di pa kasi sya ganun kaclose sa family ko. Pero pag bumibisita mmn kami sa parents ko, ok naman sila.
Sent from my sharona...
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this is way more reasonable and realistic than that husband list of 12 non-negotiables. that one was probably written by either an old maid or a woman in a loveless marriage -- either way, she was deluded.
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My wife is 9.5 out of 10.
She has 1/2 marks on the last entry. She's not on good terms with my family, but is very well regarded among my circle of friends.
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even though i'm single
i find this list very interesting
nice share TS
kudos to you
dahil sa post
may +k ka TS
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this is way more reasonable and realistic than that husband list of 12 non-negotiables. that one was probably written by either an old maid or a woman in a loveless marriage -- either way, she was deluded.
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Sir it's just so happen na yung gumawa ng husband list is the wife nung gumawa ng wife list....i'm just saying na hindi siya old maid or loveless.
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kung ganito standard na hahanapin ko for my future wife, kung matatagalan pa ako makakapag asawa ah...hahaha
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Sir it's just so happen na yung gumawa ng husband list is the wife nung gumawa ng wife list....i'm just saying na hindi siya old maid or loveless.
...and they are now in a bitter divorce battle because of irreconcilable differences.
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...and they are now in a bitter divorce battle because of irreconcilable differences.
if this is true...what a good example sila...hahaha
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This is a good standard to follow just like a test if you got half the question correct then pasang-awa.... and its a good start kasi wala namang perfect na relationship, always depend on the person if she or he wants to adjust for their partner......
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...and they are now in a bitter divorce battle because of irreconcilable differences.
yeyyy!!! hehehe each of them blaming those damned lists they made realizing they want other people pala! hehehe