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di ako romantic, di rin ako sweet... pero my gf is demanding an effort... wala daw syang nakikitang effort saken... di ko naman sya maintindihan... pahelp po mga ka PT...
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una sir mali board ka....
second baka hindi ka nakikitaan ng appreciation. baka hindi mo sya naaappreciate sa mga bagay na nagagawa nya. Appreciation is a one hell effort para sa kanila yun. Ano ba nagawa mo para iaappreciate mo yun pagmamahal nya sa yo?
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@fayt, sorry sir di ko na napansin... panu ba idelete itong post ko?
di ko talaga alam, malala pa nyan niloko ko pa sya at umamin ako... salamat nga at binigyan nya ako ng 2nd chance pero sbi nya wala man daw ako ginagawa.... sbi nya pa wala daw akong romantic genes... nagtanung naman ako sa iba kung panu mag effort, sbi saken ung mga kakurnihan daw na nasa pelikula un daw gawin ko...
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well niloko mo pala.... mahirap maregain sa dati kapag ganyan ang nanyare...
para sa effort...
try mo gawin yun mga hindi mo pa nagawa non sa kanya.. Ittry mo issuprise sya. Ano ba least na ineexpect nya? Dun ka umatake..
e.g.
bilan mo sya flowers at bigyan mo sya kahit walang ocassion.. tiyak magugulat yan.. Yaain mo magdate sa araw na least expected nya... Massage mo sya kung napapagod sya... Hilutin mo ang ulo kung masakit.. Ipagluto mo kung nagugutom...
all of these basta hindi mo sya routine na ginagawa tyak masusuprise yan...
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palipat na lang natin yung thrad mo sa Love Section...
OT: First na kailangan gawin mo is sunduin mo sya araw araw...kung kaya mo lang...kapag hindi and may good reason ok lang...
Remember your promises, like monthsary nyo, little details like nagpapagising or may pinabibili sa iyo...if wala, try to text her love messages kahit gawa gawa mo lang...basta galing sa puso mo...yun ang sinasabi nyang kakornihan...
Basa basa din ng thread na Love Banat...kuha ka ng pick-up lines kahit papaano makakakuha ka ng idea kung anong pick-up ang applicable sa inyong dalawa...
Puede ding kapag dadalaw ka sa kanya or susunduin mo sya, may dala kang something, like flowers, chocolates, or kahit anong surprise para sa kanya...
Marami pang puedeng ieffort...usual lang yung mga ganyan...they deserve more attention...and cyempre they want na may time ka para sa kanya...
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@fayt, mahirap po talaga... tumatanggi sya everytime na yayain ko sya magdate kami... by the way, pareho kami 4th year college sa bicol university college of engineering, Mech. Eng. course ko, Civil Eng. naman sya...araw araw kami nagkikita at araw araw din kami nag aaway... pero kahit ganun kami at niloko ko pa sya, araw araw syang nag iloveyou saken... sobrang nagsisi ako sa ginawa ko... more than one year na kami pero di ko pa sya nabibigyan ng flower... di ata ako deserving sa kanya...
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@aga, tnx sir sa payo... di ko alam kung bakit ganito ako... alam kong mahal ko sya pero sa one year namin, narealize ko sya lang palaging naga effort sa amin... araw araw inaaway ko sya... never ko pa sya nabigyan ng flowers... alam ko she deserve better than me pero sbi nya ayaw nya na daw sa iba... hayzzz... im such an asshole... pinaibig ko lang sya pero wala man lang ako magawa para sa kanya...
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@fayt, mahirap po talaga... tumatanggi sya everytime na yayain ko sya magdate kami... by the way, pareho kami 4th year college sa bicol university college of engineering, Mech. Eng. course ko, Civil Eng. naman sya...araw araw kami nagkikita at araw araw din kami nag aaway... pero kahit ganun kami at niloko ko pa sya, araw araw syang nag iloveyou saken... sobrang nagsisi ako sa ginawa ko... more than one year na kami pero di ko pa sya nabibigyan ng flower... di ata ako deserving sa kanya...
wag mo isipin na hindi ka deserving dahil kakainin ka ng thought na yan... the fact na kayo pa still proves na para ka pa rin sa kanya. Itreasure mo yun kung ano meron kayo... hinihintay ka lang nyan na may gawin ka something special for her.. nag aabang yan sa kung ano gagawin mo sa kanya...
in short, nag aabang na pakiligin mo sya... simple act will do. kung ayaw nya makipagdate, wag pilitin. marami dyan bagay na makakapakilig sa kanya.. Bigyan mo ng something na kahit simple lang magugustuhan nya. Haranahin mo tiyak matutunaw yan.. She is just seeking your utmost attention kaya sya ganyan.
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@fayt, di ko po alam kung may lakas ako ng loob para gawin un... kinikilig ba talaga ang mga babae sa ganun?
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@fayt, di ko po alam kung may lakas ako ng loob para gawin un... kinikilig ba talaga ang mga babae sa ganun?
uu naman... lahat ng unexpected sa buhay nila na gagawin ng guy para sa kanila eh nakakapagpakilig sa kanila yun. Hindi nila kailangan na masyadong magarbo or fabulous na bagay na manggagaling sayo.. basta may something ka na binigay o ginawa for her sake, masaya na sila nyan.
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@fayt, tnx sir sa mga payo at replies mo po... pagpaplanuhan ko na ung mga gagawin ko... balak ko sana syang haranahin sa classroom nila at bigyan na ng flowers... aus po ba yun?
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hindi mo kailangan nang malaking bagay, kahit yung simple things lang like appreciating her dress or her grades or simply her saying "I love you" sayo. Tell her honestly and wag yung plastic. Try finding out her likes and dislikes and and get to know her more. Don't start by asking her out on a date but instead, bring the date to her. Bring her lunch or snacks. Write her short notes saying that you miss her and sorry for making loko of her. PM mo ako ano reaction nya para tulungan pa kita sa iba pang gagawin mo. cheers!
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@gerrydave, tnx sir sa payo mo, di ko pa din naman un nagawa sa kanya, ung pagdala ng luch or snacks... salamat po sa kagustuhan mo pong makatulong...
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di ako romantic, di rin ako sweet... pero my gf is demanding an effort... wala daw syang nakikitang effort saken... di ko naman sya maintindihan... pahelp po mga ka PT...
agree akong lahat sa sinabi ni sir Fayt at sir gerrydave.
If you really love your gf at talagang nagsisisi ka na sa nagawa mo, don't think of something na gagawin mo sa kanya is just an effort to make peace. Do everything for her full heartedly because you love her. Simple gesture by giving flowers, writing poems, making loveletters, sending text messages, hatid pauwi ng bahay nila or apartment, etc... are all things na corny but can make a difference in a relationship. Try to learn more about your gf's likes and dislikes, favorite food, drinks, colors, etc... this will give you an edge when you plan something big for your gf.
I know it's still early to think for your future with your gf besides you but if you really want to make her comfortable with you, you should always talk to her, make her laugh, make her smile... it dosen't need a date to do all of this. Make sure that everytime you're with her, you're full attention is with her. Make every moment you're with her counts as something special, whether it is at school or somewhere else. And be sure to open up, if you want to build her trust again. Don't keep secret, you've lost this privilege the moment na niloko mo siya.... Good luck and take it easy, don't pressure yourself, i know that your gf still loves you just don't try to screw up again......
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@imoy, salamat po, i really appreciate your advice... gagawin ko un lahat para mapakita ko man lang sakanya pagmamahal ko... tnx sir...
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If you think she has been nothing but kind to you, then appreciate and reward that with your attention too. Do something nice for her.
I'm not saying be all romantic and go casanova on her, pero show her what your intention is. Do you enjoy being with her? Then show it. Do you like to experience eating in a restaurant with her? Do it. Would you like to jog with her in the morning? Go for it.
Let what you feel guide you. If you think watching a movie marathon with her would be a thrilling experience for both of you, man do it.
If you care about this person like you say you do, andami mo sigurong gustong gawin and ma experience with no one else but this person.
I am an introvert, and I am not very showy either pero if I feel like doing something, I do it. We used to jog around folk arts early in the morning and go have a picnic after, it's very cheap and a very healthy alternative if you guys are into that kind of thing.
Or we go on a road trip, buy a little something from the market and head on to the beach, hike a little, swim a little and cook lunch on a hot charcoal.
There are no rules. Just do what feels right.
Anyway that's just an example, my ultimate advice is do what feels right. Don't take her to watch a concert that you wouldn't enjoy, or to eat in a restaurant that you know you wouldn't like, you will just be miserable as a company. Go do something you think you both will enjoy and work from there.
And by the way, past is past. Never bring up what happened before, may kasalanan ka jan kaya steer away from that topic if it ever comes up.
Bro my advice only applies if she wants to do these things with you. It's a two-way street. If you think she is up for it, and she still wants to give your relationship a chance then go for it.
Good luck mate.
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Bro my advice only applies if she wants to do these things with you. It's a two-way street. If you think she is up for it, and she still wants to give your relationship a chance then go for it.
Good luck mate.
Tama si sir Prime...It all comes down to kung ano ba ang kaya mong gawin at ang alam mong magugustuhan nya...
Think that you are doing this as a couple and not just some random act...
It will help you develop a certain bond with her and as time goes by...both of you will look back and say that you were happy and you can do it again...
Marami namang puedeng gawing activities...at sana balitaan mo kami kung ano ang mangyayari...
Lastly, kiss her unguardedly...spur of the moment...let her feel kung gaano mo talaga sya kamahal...
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If you think she has been nothing but kind to you, then appreciate and reward that with your attention too. Do something nice for her.
I'm not saying be all romantic and go casanova on her, pero show her what your intention is. Do you enjoy being with her? Then show it. Do you like to experience eating in a restaurant with her? Do it. Would you like to jog with her in the morning? Go for it.
Let what you feel guide you. If you think watching a movie marathon with her would be a thrilling experience for both of you, man do it.
If you care about this person like you say you do, andami mo sigurong gustong gawin and ma experience with no one else but this person.
I am an introvert, and I am not very showy either pero if I feel like doing something, I do it. We used to jog around folk arts early in the morning and go have a picnic after, it's very cheap and a very healthy alternative if you guys are into that kind of thing.
Or we go on a road trip, buy a little something from the market and head on to the beach, hike a little, swim a little and cook lunch on a hot charcoal.
There are no rules. Just do what feels right.
Anyway that's just an example, my ultimate advice is do what feels right. Don't take her to watch a concert that you wouldn't enjoy, or to eat in a restaurant that you know you wouldn't like, you will just be miserable as a company. Go do something you think you both will enjoy and work from there.
And by the way, past is past. Never bring up what happened before, may kasalanan ka jan kaya steer away from that topic if it ever comes up.
Bro my advice only applies if she wants to do these things with you. It's a two-way street. If you think she is up for it, and she still wants to give your relationship a chance then go for it.
Good luck mate.
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im so captivating bout you advice sir prime very well said and truly believe that all you've done it will be base on that makes you happy and enjoy it hindi para sa gusto ng iba or maplease mo just be honest to yourself... as a woman minsan kasi may limit din ang pasencya namin if mahal namin ang isang tao ipaglalaban namin kesohoda sasabihin na your so desperate kasi nga mahal mo pero kng hindi ka ng exist at wala yung effort mo , automatic na yan mawawala na then saka mo mairealizes yun kng totally wala na siya sau, magulo ata advice ko hihi... basta just do what makes you happy ok
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@sir prime, astig po ung advice nyo po...pero panu po kung lahat ng pagyaya ko sa kanya ayaw nya? sobrang bitter pa din nya saken eh... pero nung wednesday napasmile ko sya kasi dinalhan ko sya ng mga snacks na favorite nya... di nya daw kasi ineexpect un...hehehe... sobrang saya ko nang makita ko ulit smile nya...
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di ako romantic, di rin ako sweet... pero my gf is demanding an effort... wala daw syang nakikitang effort saken... di ko naman sya maintindihan... pahelp po mga ka PT...
Hmmm madalas sabihin to ng babae pag nanlalamig na at di na nararamdaman presence mo minsan kahit magkasama na kayo parang magkalayo pa rin. Madami relationship na dumadaan sa ganyan stage.
Maaaring di ka romantic at showy na tao tanggap ka na ganyan ka, pero the moment na humingi ng effort. Oh dude, you really need to do something. Di pwede ibale wala yan.
Hope ok na kayo ts.
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EFFORT? Ako, pickup lines lang everyday. Hahaha. Masaya na siya dun. Though wala kasi akong bad record, even dun sa ex ko. :P
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@fayt, mahirap po talaga... tumatanggi sya everytime na yayain ko sya magdate kami... by the way, pareho kami 4th year college sa bicol university college of engineering, Mech. Eng. course ko, Civil Eng. naman sya...araw araw kami nagkikita at araw araw din kami nag aaway... pero kahit ganun kami at niloko ko pa sya, araw araw syang nag iloveyou saken... sobrang nagsisi ako sa ginawa ko... more than one year na kami pero di ko pa sya nabibigyan ng flower... di ata ako deserving sa kanya...
ayusin mo kasi ang pagsuyo sa kanya... tama si tol fayt, gawin mo yung corny things sa movies... bakit mo naman inaaway sya madalas? may dahilan ka ba para awayin sya? huwag ganun tol... baka kasawaan ka nyan lalo't hindi pa kayo mag-asawa at mga students pa lang kayo... may manligaw dyan na mas matino kaysa sa iyo eh ikaw rin baka magsisi ka sa huli...
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@jamesbond, natakot naman ako dun... pero meron syang manliligaw ngayon simula pa 1st year, apat na taon na nanliligaw and taon taon busted palagi pero matyaga pa din manligaw... gusto ko na nga dispatyahin...hehehe
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Do something unique -- the small things dude.
The bigger things are somehow generic, dahil halos lahat ung ang pinupursue para sa taong gusto nila.
When you put up the small things together, you can make something bigger.
Like they said, gumaya ka sa movies. One time, gumamit ako ng sinulid na singsing to ask my ex GF out. And she was like, kinikilig LOL.
Another thing, wag ipilit ang hindi gusto. If ever that fact is lingering, let go.
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tama silang lahat hehehe
it all boils down to "time" and "communication"
Time is a precious thing, its finite and you can never take it back or make more of it. - spend quality time with your someone and make sure you both enjoy every second of it.
Communication is very important too, if you love her;... tell her!... open up!...
if you like her;.. find out what she likes!... start a simple conversation and go from there
It doesnt have to be extravagant. its the simple things (as per witherwind).
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im so captivating bout you advice sir prime very well said and truly believe that all you've done it will be base on that makes you happy and enjoy it hindi para sa gusto ng iba or maplease mo just be honest to yourself... as a woman minsan kasi may limit din ang pasencya namin if mahal namin ang isang tao ipaglalaban namin kesohoda sasabihin na your so desperate kasi nga mahal mo pero kng hindi ka ng exist at wala yung effort mo , automatic na yan mawawala na then saka mo mairealizes yun kng totally wala na siya sau, magulo ata advice ko hihi... basta just do what makes you happy ok
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Right on chief and aga.
Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness
That's what it's all about.
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di ako romantic, di rin ako sweet... pero my gf is demanding an effort... wala daw syang nakikitang effort saken... di ko naman sya maintindihan... pahelp po mga ka PT...
alam mo dalawang bagay lang yan eh...at aminado ka sa isa "hindi ka romantiko"...mahirap magpakita na you appriciate your partner kung hindi ka romantiko...maganda siguro manood ka ng mga konting love story...kahit na conry...pangalawa...it's either meron ng ibang nag-eeffort sakanya...at ayaw mo yun...siguro maganda start to compliment her...halimbawa...kung magkasama kayo sa upuan ng bus...tignan mo lang siya habang nakaupo kayo at nakaakbay ka sakanya sa balikat...tapos kapag tinanong ka sabihin mo wala lang...tapos bigyan mo siya ng light kiss sa forehead niya sabihin mo love you..AHAHA...ganun ang banat AHAHAH
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hayzz... mga ka-PT, sobrang naiinis ako sa sarili ko... di ko alam bakit ako ganito... napakawalang kwenta ko... ginagawa ko best ko at nagiging maayos kami pero pag may maliit na bagay kaming pinag aawayan di ko makontrol galit ko... di ko naman sya sinasaktan physically pero kahit ano nasasabi ko... hayzzz... by the way salamat sa mga payo nyo... naappreciate ko lahat... salamat talaga sa inyo...
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Aw TS is everything ok? Anyare?
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Aw TS is everything ok? Anyare?
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napapagsalitaan ko po sya ng masama...
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nung una, akala ko ganyan din yung bf ko, na wala man lang ka-effort effort. pero kasi narealize ko na 'hello, bakit ba ako naghahanap pa ng effort eh yung magkita na nga lang kami, effort na nya yung pagpunta samin eh'.
sa totoo lang kasi, parang imposible naman na wala kang ka-effort-effort koya. pag pinupuntahan mo gf mo, kahit nga pag simpleng tinetext mo lang sya na kumain ka na ba blah blah, effort na yun.
minsan nasa babae din kasi ang problema. ang gustong effort eh yung isusurprise pa, yung susuyuin (eto dapat lang to lalo na pag nag away kayo pero duh sana yung girls wag naman oa magpasuyo diba haha) saka basta yung mga big gestures talaga. hindi lang naman kasi yun ung mga pwedeng iconsider as EFFORT.
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TS kamusta na ano na nangyari syo?
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ngayon po medyo ok naman po kami... sbi nya po nang tinanong sya ng friend namin kung kailan nya ako sasagutin sbi nya sa dec.22... hahaha... talagang may date pa... request nya dapat daw pag tinanong ko sya kung pwede na maging kami dapat daw romantic at may mga surprises... ganun daw gusto nya pero di nya man ako pinipilit na yun ang gawin...hahaha
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ngayon po medyo ok naman po kami... sbi nya po nang tinanong sya ng friend namin kung kailan nya ako sasagutin sbi nya sa dec.22... hahaha... talagang may date pa... request nya dapat daw pag tinanong ko sya kung pwede na maging kami dapat daw romantic at may mga surprises... ganun daw gusto nya pero di nya man ako pinipilit na yun ang gawin...hahaha
naks! naka schedule ka na pala eh hehe..
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@jamesbond, natakot naman ako dun... pero meron syang manliligaw ngayon simula pa 1st year, apat na taon na nanliligaw and taon taon busted palagi pero matyaga pa din manligaw... gusto ko na nga dispatyahin...hehehe
balikan ko lang itong reply mo sa akin tol... Narealized ko na tama ang gf mo... She's doing the both of you good... She wants both of you to finish your studies first kaya siguro kahit mag effort ka pa ng kay superman ganyan pa din ang sasabihin mo dito... sinasadya na nya yan para umayos kayohg dalawa...
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di ako romantic, di rin ako sweet... pero my gf is demanding an effort... wala daw syang nakikitang effort saken... di ko naman sya maintindihan... pahelp po mga ka PT...
Then be sweet and be romantic for sometime! Kahit hindi lagi. Forcing yourself to do something against your reason is a great effort! Write a letter about your emotions, express it with serious words yung mawala ka sa comfort zone at mahiya ka means you've done it seriously at ginamit mo ang emotion mo. Maging malambing ka for awhile, gulatin mo ng isang date, magbigay ka ng flowers kahit walang okasyon.
Kung hindi pa niya maapreciate yung ganoong effort tsaka ka maguluhan.