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Title: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 06, 2013, 10:11:00 PM: I don't want you to feel like a crazy person but have you noticed how you're always talking to yourself? Even now, while you read these words your mind is chatting to you as you read. If you're thinking of yourself listening to yourself, it can be a little crazy making. Our self-talk is active every waking moment.

Much of what we say to ourselves is made up of repetitive ideas that we're not even aware we're thinking. If a lot of it is negative, our thoughts will influence what we experience and give us the very opposite of what we desire.

If we don't get wise to self-talk going on in the privacy of our minds, we'll end up sabotaging our relationships, creating a lot of pain and misery. We can actually be telling our friends and family one thing but secretly in our mind be thinking the opposite.

There seems to be a "collective unconscious" of single women's thoughts. Here are the 3 things I hear women telling themselves most often:

I will never find a man who'll love me.
I'm not worthy of a great love.
I will die alone.

If these thoughts are all too familiar there's a remedy. We have to recognize that these beliefs are a product of our fear - they have to put be to rest by acknowledging the truth.

Instead tell yourself:

There is someone out there for everyone. I see proof of this as I look at the many different kinds of couples all around me. I choose to believe that if I exist, so does he. If I am longing to find my partner he must be longing to find me right now as well.

No one is perfect and that includes me and the man who'll love me. They're many imperfect people in wonderful relationships and I'm no different. I know I'm worthy of a great love because if I wasn't I wouldn't have the strong desire to be in one.

This is my fear talking and has nothing to do with my life now. I'm just being overly dramatic and scaring myself. No one knows the future or how their life will end. I refuse to hurt myself with this hurtful thought any longer. I choose to live in the present and enjoy my life.

We will always have negative self-talk, it's a part of our makeup and it's not going away. But we have the ability to choose to think differently, to catch these thoughts that want to hold us back and to choose a better thought.

credit to source!!!
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: Cathrina on August 06, 2013, 11:55:34 PM: Haha oh!boy..may ganun,nde naman kasi maiwasan kung may mga ganung thoughts and it doesnt mean naman na nawala na ang hope deep inside pa rin iniisip na oneday darating den ang prince charming na baka naligaw lang hehe ..anyway good share po sir :)
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: ¿m☺ÿ on August 07, 2013, 12:11:11 AM: good point sir fayt... thanks for sharing...
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Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 07, 2013, 09:57:03 AM: Quote from: Cathrina on August 06, 2013, 11:55:34 PM
Haha oh!boy..may ganun,nde naman kasi maiwasan kung may mga ganung thoughts and it doesnt mean naman na nawala na ang hope deep inside pa rin iniisip na oneday darating den ang prince charming na baka naligaw lang hehe ..anyway good share po sir :)

hahaha.. muka natamaan ka yata miss cath ahh.. todo explain ehh... salamat po sa pagbasa
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 07, 2013, 09:58:11 AM: Quote from: imoy on August 07, 2013, 12:11:11 AM
good point sir fayt... thanks for sharing...
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salamat po sir sa pagdalaw at pagbisita...
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: sweet_vagabond on August 08, 2013, 09:50:39 AM: base on xperience din cguro yung iba kaya nakakaroon ng negative thoughts..

ako kc naniniwala na kapag icnilang ka icnilang na rin yung taong para sayu matutu lang maghintay..

yung iba cguro choice nila maging single for life..
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 08, 2013, 09:53:06 AM: hehehe

salamat po sa pagbisita mam sweet.. ;)
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: ladyvirus01 on August 08, 2013, 06:50:15 PM: :dead: haba naman faytski hindi ba pwedeng paki tagalog para skn? :P
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 08, 2013, 09:35:58 PM: Quote from: ladyvirus01 on August 08, 2013, 06:50:15 PM
:dead: haba naman faytski hindi ba pwedeng paki tagalog para skn? :P

Hhahaha... Kaya mo yan doc.. suportahan taka hehe

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Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: jamesbond on August 10, 2013, 05:30:07 PM: Quote from: sweet_vagabond on August 08, 2013, 09:50:39 AM
base on xperience din cguro yung iba kaya nakakaroon ng negative thoughts..

ako kc naniniwala na kapag icnilang ka icnilang na rin yung taong para sayu matutu lang maghintay..

yung iba cguro choice nila maging single for life..

:'( nasaan kaya yung para sa akin...... ba't hindi kami magkatagpo....
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: dere'k ™ on August 11, 2013, 03:02:57 AM: Quote from: sweet_vagabond on August 08, 2013, 09:50:39 AM
base on xperience din cguro yung iba kaya nakakaroon ng negative thoughts..

ako kc naniniwala na kapag icnilang ka icnilang na rin yung taong para sayu matutu lang maghintay..

yung iba cguro choice nila maging single for life..
ayus yan ah... bat yung sa akin mukhang wala parin...? hehehe... peace..
Title: Re: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Single
Post by: fayt on August 11, 2013, 08:11:15 AM: Quote from: dere'k ™ on August 11, 2013, 03:02:57 AM
ayus yan ah... bat yung sa akin mukhang wala parin...? hehehe... peace..

Hahaha.... Marami ka na kasi ehhh.. hindi makasingit sa mga chiks mo.

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