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Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: Santino on July 26, 2013, 08:46:21 AM
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Is it right to still forgive a partner who is cheating on you? how long can you withstand that situation in the name of LOVE? :(
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nice topic...+karma sa iyo...
it's really hard to answer these questions, actually i'm thinking from the past to remember my reaction when i actually experience this kind of thing...
from my experience, because i really love the woman i forgave her once at tinimbang ko yung sitwasyon at tinanong ko yung sarili ko kung bakit niya nagawa sa akin na mag-cheat siya. And then i realize na may pagkukulang din ako na i'm willing to give us another chance. But I think nahiya na siya sa akin so eventhough i try so hard to mend our relationship eh naging useless kasi it takes two person to their part to make a relationship work. So sa madaling salita hindi na na-mend pa.
so i say for me, it is really right to forgive, once as long na nakahanda ka na kalimutan ang lahat. It's not easy to do it kasi everytime na hindi kayo magkasama, you will always wonder what she's doing, and you will have a lack of trust which is a key to a successful relationship.
Now if she's really doing it multiple times, i don't know if i can stand it, but definitely it's not something that i can really accept. Though i extremely love her for some reason, i'm sure i can not and will not just stand there and do nothing. as of the moment, i only give one chance and that's it but i'm not really sure if i can really do it twice.
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Thanks bro!
Hirap nga e db? na kinalimutan nang lahat para lang sa love e ginawa at ginagawa pa rin niya. ewan ko kung katangahan na ba kung mananahimik ka na lang pero I just can't imagine my life w/ her. She's everything to me.
Siguro kung hindi lang sa mga bata aayaw na ako.
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Thanks bro!
Hirap nga e db? na kinalimutan nang lahat para lang sa love e ginawa at ginagawa pa rin niya. ewan ko kung katangahan na ba kung mananahimik ka na lang pero I just can't imagine my life w/ her. She's everything to me.
Siguro kung hindi lang sa mga bata aayaw na ako.
ganyan talaga ang pag-ibig bro, inaalis nito yung pagiging logical natin. Pero kung sobra-sobra na at talagang wala ng ibang paraan kundi ang hiwalayan, siguro its about time na ipakita mo sa kanya na kaya mo siyang iwan. Kasi by experience din unless may mawalang importante sa buhay ng isang tao, hindi niya malalaman ang halaga nito.
And sometimes, we need to go away to move on. Mahirap man na may nagba-bind sa inyong dalawa dahil sa mga bata pero hindi rin yung maganda kasi baka isipin nila eh ok lang ang ganun, i know they will understand pagdating ng araw anuman ang iyong maging desisyon....
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Forgive and forget once or twice or even thrice but more than that, tanggalin na ang forgive at iforget nalang.
I've been in that situation before and the above is exactly what I did. I'm glad na yun ang ginawa ko kasi ayon sa narinig kong alingawngaw ay nag cheat din uli siya sa dawalang sumunod na jowa niya after sakin.
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Kung ako nakagawa ng cheating, i will ask forgiveness but never ko sya pipilitin na magkabalikan kami. After all ako gumawa ng mali in the first place at kapal naman ng muks ko kung pipilitin ko sya na bumalik sa akin. Kung mahal pa rin nya ako at pede sa kanya na magkabalikan kami at mahal ko pa sya. Then bonus yun sa akin
Kung si partner ang gagawa nyan, maliit ang chance na magkabalikan kami. Madali masira ang trust and it will play repeatedly sa utak ko yun nagawa nya. Kung maoovercome kung yun sitwasyon kung saan naghihinala ako pag umaalis sya. O hindi ako mag iisip na kung ano ka ginawa nya at mahal ko pa rin sya. Then yun ang chance na tanggapin ko pa sya uli. Mababa nga lang ang chance na manyari yun.
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i did forgave her. it happened to me already. i cheated on her too in the first place, because i was still seeing my ex every chance i get.
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I forgive people when they hurt me, but to give another chance to a man who cheated on me is another thing. If he cheated on me once, he can do it again. And the cycle will keep on going on. Once is enough.
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If you're not yet married and your partner cheats, be thankful because it will be an indication of what's going to happen when you marry him/her.
Forgive him/her but then say goodbye.
If you're married already, forgive him/her, ask for an HIV test, and ask for a separation, annulment , or divorce.
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:-\ forgiveness is the best... forgive your partner whatever the result maybe... she may or may not comeback to you.. don't expect it to have a positive outcome... lucky if she comes back to you... as i have said, always forgive who ever caused you pain and sorrow... she will only come once in your lifetime, so better leave her in peace and at the same time you'll feel also blessed and relieved after doing so.... goodluck...
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Forgive, but not for her but for you. Anger and resentment eats away at you and the sooner you find mental and emotional equilibrium the better.
Why? So the sooner you can move on and find someone better.
I think if someone cheated on you, it is highly likely they will do so again. They may or may not, pero do you really want to be there to find out?
Fix yourself, pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Meet new people and find someone else.
I know it's very easy for people to give such an advice, being on the outside looking in and all that, pero I cannot in good conscience say go and forgive and forget because at the back of my mind I believe that the possibility of them cheating again is very high and you would be the one suffering in the end.
Don't be angry, don't be resentful and don't be depressed. Excess baggage like that is hard to carry everyday. It will just turn off potential mates and scare them off.
Let it go, and focus on yourself and what would make you happy. Don't let this incident turn you into damage goods, specially by people who do not deserve to be in your life.
There are plenty of wonderful women out there man. Don't focus on one that broke your heart. Walk like a man, bro.
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Maganda ang topic na ito lalo na sa katulad namin mga OFW...
Mahirap magisip kasi di natin alam kung nag cheat ba sa iyo ang asawa mo o hindi di mo kasi nakikita e....
Pero ito ang nakikita ko dun sa amin sa lugar namin, reality talaga ito... cheat ang babae tangap pa rin dahil mahal nila at isa pa walang magaalaga daw sa mga anak nila which is totoo... pero mahirap tangapin ang katotohanan na talagang niliko ka kasi andiyan ang usap usapan na tinaihan ka sa ulo... pero sa mag asawa yan, magandang usapan lamang yan ng isa't isa... pero kung magloloko pa rin ang asawa mo ibang usapan na yan dapat gumawa ka ng kamay na bakal o isang mabigay na decision para sa sarili mo....
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If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also. :-* THANK YOU haha
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I forgive people when they hurt me, but to give another chance to a man who cheated on me is another thing. If he cheated on me once, he can do it again. And the cycle will keep on going on. Once is enough.
I agree. If the person has already cheated on his or her partner, it will be easier for him or her to do it again. There are some people who have the character to mend their ways too, but they are not that many.
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Depende din sa sitwasyon at kung ano ang ginawa
pero mahirap na din
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Depende din sa sitwasyon at kung ano ang ginawa
pero mahirap na din
:-\ tama ka jan tol... mahirap sumugal ulet... pwera na lang kung talagang mahal mo sya.. pero i don't know kung sya na lang ba ang natitirang babae dito sa mundo para balikan pa after... sometimes its hard for us to lose someone so deeply attached to us..
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nangyari saken to. well first nung nasa pinas pa ako. oks naman kame halos nag live in din naman kame ni ex. and then what happened is pumunta ako dito sa america. naging LDR kame pumasok na sa isip ko na pwedeng pwede niya ako lokohin kasi sa nangyari dati ng ex niya na niloko din niya kasi pumunta na ng america. may maganda namna kame communication dahil narin siguro sa technology. inisip ko nalang kung lolokohin niya ako kaya ko siguro siya patawarin ng isang beses. then BOOM. niloloko nga niya ako. well guess what? hindi ko pala siya kayang patawarin. sinubukan ko ng ilang beses pero hindi ko talagaya kaya. i guess naover estimate ko sarili ko. lol
anyways life must move on. kahit hanggang ngayon masakit parin.
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Once ang trust nasira mahirap na ulit ito mobou.. I can forgive but I can't forget. hahaha...
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Once ang trust nasira mahirap na ulit ito mobou.. I can forgive but I can't forget. hahaha...
I agree. Kahit patawarin mo lagi pa din papasok sa isip mo yung ginawa nya at magdududa ka lagi na baka inuulit na naman. Konting kibot lang yun mag aaway na kaya kalaunan sa hiwalayan din ang tuloy nun. :-\
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ang tiwala eh parang salamin lang yan kapag nabasag di mo na maibabalik sa dating anyo. bakit ba nagloloko ang partner dahil hindi sya satisfied sa partner nya, at hindi kuntento sa kung ano ang nasa kanya.
Meron din naman na pangbida lang, hindi ka raw lalake kapag di ka nangbabae, thophy daw ang babae para sa mga lalake, kapag marami ka nito astig ka. pag sa babae malndi ang tawag hehehe.
Anu't ano paman kailangan panindigan ang ginawa. nasa tao na rin kung papatawarin nya o hindi depende rin sa bigat ng ginawa at sa sitwasyon
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:-\ so how do we explain ang situation kapag ang girl/boy na marurunong na tao at nakita mong nagbigay ng 2nd chances pa din despite na alam mong matatalino pa naman sila? hmmm... there are times kasi na kapag talagang mahal mo ang isang tao, gaano man kabigat ang binigay nyang problema sa iyo ay nakukuha mo pa din syang patawarin at i-accept for the 2nd or 3rd chances.. iba kasi kapag tinamaan ka ng sobrang love sa isang tao...
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:-\ so how do we explain ang situation kapag ang girl/boy na marurunong na tao at nakita mong nagbigay ng 2nd chances pa din despite na alam mong matatalino pa naman sila? hmmm... there are times kasi na kapag talagang mahal mo ang isang tao, gaano man kabigat ang binigay nyang problema sa iyo ay nakukuha mo pa din syang patawarin at i-accept for the 2nd or 3rd chances.. iba kasi kapag tinamaan ka ng sobrang love sa isang tao...
3rd chances....parang di na magbabago yun........ i think
yun kasi mahirap kapag pina-iral na ang tibok ng dibbdib
kaysa takbo ng utak nagiging bulag na :-\
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may mga tao talagang bulag sa pag ibig, may kapitbahay kami dati babaero asawa ok lang daw basta sa kanya umuuwi, at lagi kompleto bigay ng sahod. ok lang daw may kabit dahil kabit lang sila habangbuhay yun sabi ng misis.
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forgive yes pero makipagbalikan.. wag na. nagawa na once, pwede pa ulit gawin
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Nakakalungkot isipin pero meron talagang mga tao na balewala ang pangagaliwa sa partners nila. Yung iba napapasubo lang sa sitwasyon pero yung iba naman talagang naghahanap pa ng ibang kapartner lalo na kapag nasa malayo ang legal partner nila.
I'm not sure about the statistics pero sigurado mataas ang percentage nang cheating among partners na nasa ibang bansa ang asawa or girlfriend or boyfriend. :-\