Tambayan ng mga Chicx at Tsonx => General Discussion => Love & Relationship => Topic started by: chocomartin on April 23, 2013, 06:17:28 AM
Title: ang negatibong aspeto ng pagmamahal na nagpapalabas ng positibong aspeto nito
Post by: chocomartin on April 23, 2013, 06:17:28 AM
Mambabasa.. alam ko kaya napindot mo ang topic na ito ay dahil naguguluhan ka sa nakasaad dito. Dahil siguro sa iyong pananaw ay isa itong sarkasmo o retorikal.Pero nais kong ipaalam na mayroong kabuluhan ang aking isinasaad. Dahan dahan lang sa pag kritiko ah.. unang post konpa lang po mga ser at mam
Hindi ka ba nagtataka na merong isang pusisyon sa buhay mo na nagmahal ka at sa pagmamahal na iyon ay mayroong isang aspeto o katangian ang taong minahal mo na naging dahilan para mahalin mo ay bbanda huli yun din ang ikabwibwisit mo. Kung ihahalintulad natin, para kang bumoto ng isang palpak na kandidato ng senado para sisihin mo siya pag wala kang nakikitang pagbabago.(medyo lumayo sa usapan, gusto ko lang talaga isama yon)
Maganda/gwapo siya nalaglag na ang brief/panty mo, di katagalan nabwibwisit at nagseselos ka dahil maraming lumalapit na kababaihan/kalalakihan sa iyong iniirog. Kung ano man ang dahilan nang kanilang paglapit ay sila lang ang may alam
Mapagbigay ang taong mahala mo, di kalaunan Ikaw ay naglalasing na dahil ibinibigay na niya ang sarili niya sa kahit sinong tao
Pero hindi lang diyan nagtatapos ang lahat, sa mas seryosong usapan alam mo ba na ang babae at lalake ay naka hardwire psychologically na hindi magtugma sa ilang bagay. Aminin man natin no sa hindi karamihan sa atin ay naexperience na ito.
Examples: si jun ay mahilig sumagot lang ng oo at hindi lamang dahil ayaw niya ng komplikado. Pero nais ni julia na sagutin ni jun ang bawat tanong ng detalyado. Marahil para sakanya Mas malinaw dahil hindi na siya magtatanong pa ng marami
Example ng example: Scenario 1: julia: jun saan ka galing? Jun: jan lang sa kaibigan ko Si joey uminom lang kami. Julia: sino yung kaibigan mo san kayo pumunta sinong kasama niyo Nakailan kayo? *para kay jun. Sapat na ang sagot niya dahil andoon na ang pangunahing tauhan at ginawa sa sinabi niya. Simple at hindi nakakalito
*para kay julia. Nakakapagduda ang sagot niya. Dahil parang sherlock holmes nakakuha na eto ng ibat ibang ideya/teorya kung ano ang nangyari habang umiinom sila ni joey
A. Nagsiping sila ni joey(jobakels ang asaw ko?!!) B. Nambabae ito(walangh*ya siya di pa siya nakunteneto!!!.....) C. Hinijack ang armored truck ng isang banko(ok lang yayaman naman kami) D.superhero ang asawa niya(puny*ta!! Kaya pala di na nakakapasok sa trabaho!!)
Scenario 2 Julia: jun may trabaho ka na ba? Jun:wala pa di ko pa nakuha requirements ko Julia:bakit di mo pa nakuha? Jun: di ko alam. Bakit tatanong mo sakin eh nagtatanong nlang din naman ako sa pinagkuhanan ko. Ginagawa mo pang komplikado
*para kay julia nais lang niyang magbigay ng opinyon dahil baka may maitulong siya
*para kay jun. Ok na yung sagot niya. Simple at nandoon ang pangunahing sagot. Kaso nga lang may halong badtrip kase talagang matagal ang kuhanan ng requirements mas lalo na sa nbi.(opinyonnlang po wag niyo akong hulihin
Lumalabas ang mga ganitong sitwasyon dahil sa simpleng kadahilanan. Ang lalake at babae ay nagtutugma dahil sa kanilang pagkakaiba.. ang pagkakaiba natin sa isa't isa ang dahilan kaya nagiging matibay ang isang relasyon at. Naglalapit sa atin sa isa't isa dahil nacucurious tayo sa mga pagkakaiba natin sa isa't isa.. isipin mo na lang kung parehas ng opinyon, kagustuhan, ayaw, ideya, kinagagalitan, walang mangyayari sa aisang relasyon. Magiging boring dahil kumbaga sa pelikula wala ng suspense parang pelikulang pijnoy na paulit ulit na lang ang mga eksena kahit iba iba ang title nito. Eh iisa lang ang plot. Kaya maging matuwa tayo sa ating pagkakaiba.. at imbis na palalain ang problema. Subukan natin intindihin ang isa't isa at pakinggan ang opinyon ng isa. May dahilan kaya inilalabas ang ihi na inihahalintulad sa pride.. hindi mo eto kailangan :-) At para mas maintindihan mo ang aking pinagsasabi at ika nga ng isa sa ating mga senador na picha pie lang ito ay eto ang mga basic psychological differences natin
Though we would like to think males and females are fairly similar (except for the obvious physical or reproductive differences), we know that there are fundamental psychological differences. These differences do not mean that one six is better than the other, but it does mean that your partner may gain a unique perspective, hold a unique view, or have distinct abilities in the world which are rooted in their gender.
Here are some interesting and, perhaps, fun facts on these differences based on neuro-scientific research.
Men are better at orientating objects
There is a marked brain difference in females which may explain why males (versus females) generally excel in certain areas and struggle in others. Because of the larger parietal cortex and amygdala, men generally tend to perform better at reading maps, spatially related tasks and mathematics.
Women are better at communicating
The frontal lobe (which is responsible for problem solving) and the limbic cortex of the female brain tend to be larger than in male counterparts, which appears to provide women with an advantage (over men) in problem solving and emotionality.
Men and women process information at different rates
The male brain contains more grey matter whereas the female brain contains more white matter. White matter basically increases the speed of transmission of all nerve signals which ultimately allows women to process thoughts more rapidly than their male counterparts.
Boys in blue
From the moment males are born, the gender role separation begins. It usually starts with something small, such as a simple blue blanket or various other masculine-type color schemes and themes (i.e. dinosaurs & trucks etc). The socialization of males to not only favour a certain colour but to also act a certain way stays with them throughout their lives. This is the origin for the concepts of masculinity and femininity which are social constructs and not biologically determined.
Pretty in pink
Like males beginning their socialization in blue, females are traditionally gender socialized in pink. Little girls start their lives off with this concept of femininity and what that actually means. These messages are continuously reiterated to them over the course of their lives through various media outlets, parenting tactics and many other contributing factors in their daily environment.
Men and six
There is an age-old idea that the male libido is much stronger than the female libido. Although this is not always the case, research has shown that it is not necessarily the libido itself which is stronger in males but rather the ease with which it is expressed. This can be traced back to the basic reproductive nature of males versus females. The simple fact that the male sperm to female egg ratio is extremely disproportionate in favour of males; females are naturally more selective in expressing their sixual desires.
Females and six
Women tend to place more value on the emotional connection involved with sixual activity. Though the debate is still out as to whether this is due to socialization or biology, the reality is most women like to connect emotionally before succumbing to their sixual needs.
Men speak logic
Men often use logic when engaging in conversation. There is a lot of discussion on how much of this is nature and how much is nurture, but males generally have been taught (since childhood) not to openly express emotion, as this shows their vulnerability and can be interpreted as a sign of weakness.
Women speak emotion
Females speak from more of an emotional perspective. This is partially due to brain chemistry but also social learning. There is a stereotypical idea of females within the general public that has made it easier for women to openly cry, sympathize, laugh etc. without feeling judged or vulnerable like their male counterpart might feel in a similar situation.
Reaction to stress
Men have been known to take a 'fight or flight' approach to dealing with stress. Women, however, have been shown in studies to 'tend-and-befriend,' namely, creating and joining social groups for support and resources. Women generally tend to have larger social support networks which seem to help with relieving stress and aid in the confrontation of the stress source. It seems that the 'tend-and-befriend' behavior is likely is maintained by physiological factors and by social and cultural roles. Women are generally more open to expressing their emotions and communicating with others to resolve various stressful situations whereas men seem to prefer to deal with things on their own.