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Title: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: fayt on April 22, 2013, 07:59:36 PM: In the context of dating, "bad boy" conjures images from the '50s-the guy with the motorcycle, leather jacket, cigarettes and thick air of mystery. He's the guy parents didn't approve of, the one friends tsk-tsked about while they secretly swooned. But in reality, every generation has its own version of the "bad boy"-or, rather, many versions of him. And plenty of women will be attracted, for the wrong reasons and with disastrous results.

First, let's be clear that this isn't about a man who is unconventional, risk taking, and doesn't even own a button-down shirt. Being a "bad boy" is never about appearances. Instead, it's about a man who's "bad" because he's "bad" for you, and you probably already know it-whether because he's a known womanizer, engages in dangerous, illegal or immoral activities, is physically or verbally abusive, or any number of other reasons that tell you deep down you should not be wasting your energy on this guy.

So why do women do it?

To begin with, to be fair, sometimes it's difficult to see the bad boy for who he really is. Say you're dating a guy who just can't hang onto a job; you'd like to think (as he likely does) it's because he's simply too talented/artistic/misunderstood to get along with his employers. But maybe the truth is that he has a poor work ethic and larger-than-life ego... and is used to finding women (like you!) who will happily take care of him until the perfect job appears. Eventually-but the sooner the better-you're going to have to figure out if the guy you're dating is an eccentric late bloomer or just a guy with an oversized sense of entitlement.

Another reason some women are drawn to these guys is because they believe they can fix them. A classic example is the woman who's convinced she'll be the one who turns a world-class womanizer into a committed monogamist. This could be because she's naïve, or it could be that he's just so darn charming. In spite of his reputation, this kind of bad boy is an expert at making whomever he's with at the time believe she's the one. But it's that very charm you have to watch out for, because you might be one in a long line of the "most beautiful and interesting" women in his world. Of course, you shouldn't always take someone's reputation at face value-the stories of his womanizing could be coming from someone with an axe to grind or just a passion for gossip-but if the signs are there, don't ignore them. You're simply putting off the inevitable heartache of finding out the hard way that you're not his one and only.

Finally, some women are attracted to bad boys simply because they are bad boys. They love the thrill of stepping out of their comfort zone, shocking their friends or even rebelling against their horrified parents. In this situation, the wisdom of dating this guy depends on your motive. On the one hand, there's nothing wrong with taking a walk on the wild side if your expectations are realistic and you just want to have a good time (within reason; of course you should walk away if he ever involves you in a dangerous or inappropriate situation of any kind). On the other hand, just trying to get a rise out of disapproving family or friends, is a downright terrible reason to date someone. It may well work in terms of getting them riled up-and even getting you a little extra attention, which can hold appeal of its own-but if you get serious about this person and he's truly wrong for you, you're the one who will pay the price, not them.

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Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: ¿m☺ÿ on April 22, 2013, 11:15:56 PM: kakaiba-talaga ano...
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: monde8 on April 22, 2013, 11:26:29 PM: Most girls consider me as a bad boy pero I don't fit the description stated above. Medyo out dated na yata ang line of thinking ng nagsulat ng article. Sa panahon ngayon eh hindi naman na mga bad boys as in bad na masama ang dig ng mga chicks. Its bad boy in the context that they don't appear to look like guys na hindi makabasag pinggan. Bas boy in terms of being more rugged and casual.

Ang mga bad boys ay hindi katulad ng mga goody good boys na napaka reserved ng paglalakad, laging maayos ang buhok, laging mukhang bagong ligo, bagong tootbrush, at mukang laging bago ang suot na damit. On the contrary ang mga bad boys ay may angas maglakad, hindi laging mukhang bagong ligo at bagong toothbrush pero hindi rin naman mukhang hindi naliligo or hindi nagtotooth brush, ang damit hindi mukhang laging bago pero hindi naman ibig sabihin na puro luma or pampulubi ang mga suot niya pero more relaxed looking lang.

Its bad boy looks na appealing sa mga chicks at hindi literal na bad boy na as in masama ang ugali.
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: fayt on April 23, 2013, 10:07:54 AM: Yeah tama ka. Hindi sa ginagawa kung bakit bad boys ang tawag dito kung hindi yun looks and mannerism nila as bad boy image yun ang kinacount at appealing sa mga babae..

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Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: j4kst0n3 on April 24, 2013, 12:30:59 AM: i don't know.

i've never been attracted to bad boys.

i like bad girls, though :) :) :)
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: catchmeademon on April 24, 2013, 11:47:36 AM: karisma lang yan.. kung confident ka at marunong ka magdala.. yun na yun.. :D
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Post by: dre on April 24, 2013, 11:51:20 AM: tanong kolang bakit pag Rakista lapitin din ng mga magagandang bebot ? :-\
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: xxxchoholic Rai ♥ on April 24, 2013, 12:23:29 PM: they don't impress me that much

yeah true they got charisma and guts on what they do

but i don't know why others do like them
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Post by: Soujiro Seta on September 03, 2013, 10:36:44 PM: sa tingin ko yung ibang girl cnsb nila astigin kase yung dating ng medyo bad boy..maski naman dati eh..yung mga chx ng hs batch ko puro bad boy nagng syota sa batch namen hehe
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: jamesbond on September 07, 2013, 10:32:03 PM: well usually aggresive mga bad boys... they get girls kasi mga kapalmuks sila... kaya nilang magdala ng flowers in public contrary sa mga normal guys na nahihiya magdala ng flowers... hahahaha... ika nga.. daig ng maagap ang masipag...
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: fayt on September 07, 2013, 10:59:05 PM: Quote from: jamesbond on September 07, 2013, 10:32:03 PM
well usually aggresive mga bad boys... they get girls kasi mga kapalmuks sila... kaya nilang magdala ng flowers in public contrary sa mga normal guys na nahihiya magdala ng flowers... hahahaha... ika nga.. daig ng maagap ang masipag...

tama ka dyan... associated ng pagiging bad boys yun confidence kaya alam kaagad ng chiks kung ano intention sa kanya ng guys ;D
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: siggy on September 12, 2013, 06:22:22 PM: My hobbies and interests are usually heard to be done by men, so I guess I'm attracted to them because I like what they do. And I love complications.
Title: Re: Why Are 'Bad Boys' So Appealing?
Post by: fayt on September 12, 2013, 10:19:11 PM: Quote from: siggy on September 12, 2013, 06:22:22 PM
My hobbies and interests are usually heard to be done by men, so I guess I'm attracted to them because I like what they do. And I love complications.

So, are bad boys appealing to you if their interest is the same as yours mam?

anyway welcome here/...