LDR-Long Distance Relationship

[Batanguenio]

Mga Ka-PT...

ever been to LDR..?

Share your expi.. mga DO's and DONT'S
para mag work ang relationship...

[jaycee]

Haven't experienced that, pero some of my friends are in that kind of set-up.. basta ang sabi nila ang pinakaimportante eh yung TRUST and LOYALTY sa partner mo...

[monde8]

When I was in college, parang natadhana na ang mga gf ko eh pumupunta ng abroad. 3 out of 3 times, it didn't work dahil nakahanap ako ng iba.

Pero kung sa panahon siguro ngayon na nag mature na ako, I guess it would work. Yun nga lang siyempre hindi maalis na titikim ako ng iba pag natigang. Pero ang puso ko ay mananatili padin dun sa wasweet ko.

[lot]

iwasan ang pagtatalo kung magkalayo.
iwasan din ang pagdududa ..

[Batanguenio]

iwasan ang pagtatalo kung magkalayo.
iwasan din ang pagdududa ..

Sir..mahirap ata yun lalu na kung yung partner pa ang walang time sayu...walang effort at kung san san nagpupunta..tanungin mo xa pa ang galit...masakit mang isipin..pag lalaki ang gumagawa  ng ganyan..alam na natin ang dahilan..ganun din ba sa mga babae.?

[dimple]

Pointers in LDR

TRUST.... yan ang number one kase magkalayo kayo kaya dapat pagpumayag ka sa set up na ganun handa mo ibigay sa partner mo na 100% yun walang halong duda or kaba

COMMUNICATION ... may mga emails, skype, tango viber at kung ano ano pa na paraan na pwedeng maging regular ang paguusap nyo pagkwekwentuhan...

OPEN MINDED...  darating ang times na syempre magkalayo kayo at magkaiba ang mundo nyo iba ang mga taong ginagalawan nyo... dapat matuto tayong umintindi na hinde lang kayo ang mundo nya na pwede din sya paminsan minsan mag goodtime or lumabas or makipagbarkada.. gumimik... makiparty basta sabihin lang na may tiwala at pagkaingatan yun

No EXPECTATION... dyan kase tayo nasasaktan pag nag expect tayo sa taong ka LDR dapat alam mo sa sarile mo na apg nag LDR kayo ay maaring di amg work out kahit nga hidne LDR minsan hinde pa rin nagkakatuluyan di ba.. para di masaktan wag amg EXPECT.

Be SUPPORTIVE... pag malayo kayo maraming pagkukulang sa isat isa so the best u can do is to give moral support kung halimbawa nalulungkot sya nahihirapan sa work or nagkakaproblema... kase lakas lang ng loon ang maibibigay mo dahil sa space nyong dalawa

GIVE TIME to each other... eto ang mahirap sa LDR lalo na iba ang time difference nyo.. lalo na umagaa t gabi ang  difference .. so make sure u two can set a time na u can chat talk or call each other lambingan mode ba kahit na gaano kayo ka busy...

AVOID KEEPING SECRETS... once u hide something yana ng parang anay na sisira ng relasyon nyo kahit ano pa yan dapat sabihin mo sa partner mo

KISS and TELL....... avoid telling other people kung ano man ang romantic moment nyo or kung ano man ang problema nyo kase minsan THIRD party dont help  makakagulo lang sila so imbes na maayos ang problema lalo ka pa gagatungan....

naku madami pang POINTERS ang dpat tandaan pero ang wag kakalimutan eh to PRAY for your relationship na amging matibay to at i guide ni LORD ang isat isa...

[ladyvirus01]

Pointers in LDR

TRUST.... yan ang number one kase magkalayo kayo kaya dapat pagpumayag ka sa set up na ganun handa mo ibigay sa partner mo na 100% yun walang halong duda or kaba

COMMUNICATION ... may mga emails, skype, tango viber at kung ano ano pa na paraan na pwedeng maging regular ang paguusap nyo pagkwekwentuhan...

OPEN MINDED...  darating ang times na syempre magkalayo kayo at magkaiba ang mundo nyo iba ang mga taong ginagalawan nyo... dapat matuto tayong umintindi na hinde lang kayo ang mundo nya na pwede din sya paminsan minsan mag goodtime or lumabas or makipagbarkada.. gumimik... makiparty basta sabihin lang na may tiwala at pagkaingatan yun

No EXPECTATION... dyan kase tayo nasasaktan pag nag expect tayo sa taong ka LDR dapat alam mo sa sarile mo na apg nag LDR kayo ay maaring di amg work out kahit nga hidne LDR minsan hinde pa rin nagkakatuluyan di ba.. para di masaktan wag amg EXPECT.

Be SUPPORTIVE... pag malayo kayo maraming pagkukulang sa isat isa so the best u can do is to give moral support kung halimbawa nalulungkot sya nahihirapan sa work or nagkakaproblema... kase lakas lang ng loon ang maibibigay mo dahil sa space nyong dalawa

GIVE TIME to each other... eto ang mahirap sa LDR lalo na iba ang time difference nyo.. lalo na umagaa t gabi ang  difference .. so make sure u two can set a time na u can chat talk or call each other lambingan mode ba kahit na gaano kayo ka busy...

AVOID KEEPING SECRETS... once u hide something yana ng parang anay na sisira ng relasyon nyo kahit ano pa yan dapat sabihin mo sa partner mo

KISS and TELL....... avoid telling other people kung ano man ang romantic moment nyo or kung ano man ang problema nyo kase minsan THIRD party dont help  makakagulo lang sila so imbes na maayos ang problema lalo ka pa gagatungan....

naku madami pang POINTERS ang dpat tandaan pero ang wag kakalimutan eh to PRAY for your relationship na amging matibay to at i guide ni LORD ang isat isa...

yeah all of the above are so correct sis admin (^_~) additional: "respect" lalo na sa feelings most of the time ito ang problema pagka insensitive the person involve, anyways all  u have to do alam mong i-work out if possible intact communication try to discuss or should i say open-end relation

[Batanguenio]

PROBLEMA to...panu pag nag sisimula na mawalan n communication..?

pero reasons kaya walang time...since mga sis ang sumasagot sa post na to...

pag kulang sa commu.at puro reasons ang guy,,alam nio na kung bakit...

same din ba to para sa mga babae..?

[serestro09]

minsan khit na alam mo na ung pointers pra ma work ung LDR nyo sometimes It doesn't matter how much you love someone, how deeply in twined into your very being, you breathe for this person, your arms ache for this person to just hold you because that makes everything ok again if only for a moment. Sometimes love just ain't enough...

[toshka]

most ng nakarelasyon ko LDR talaga either aalis si guy or ako ang umalis. it just didn't work out for me. Iba pa rin magkasama, pero bilib ako sa iba na nag-work out iba din siguro talaga kung tested by time na din.

[henu]

i've been through LDR before at ginawa ko lahat ng dapat. trust, communication, loyalty, remittance, name it.. pero pag natiempuhan ng isang saglit na lungkot at pagkamiss ang partner mo, and in my case she was not able to handle it properly, everything will really go down the drain at matatapos ang lahat. 2 years akong naka abraod nung mangyari un.

mas maganda huwag na patagalin ang LDR, the sooner na pwede na kayong magkasama ulit ng partner mo, the better.

[kikopath]

i thin it's pointless... one or both will definitely fool around

[xxxchoholic Rai ♥]

isa itong lumang post sa PT dati noong 2007 pa yata

Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

Dos

1) Establish an effective communication channel

The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.



2) Plan to meet each other

There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.



3) Build hobby that you can both share

By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner

Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment

Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement

One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly

The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see attitude

Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion

There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.

5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR

Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. 
 
 
 

[hyperboy]

mahalaga ang pagmamahal kahit malayo...

[fayt]

Long Distance Relationship aren’t always ideal. In fact, they’re really tough. You spend countless of hours just talking through a phone or through a screen. You can’t see the person when you want to or when you most need them.. You can’t hug, you can’t hold hands, you can’t kiss. You lose the intimacy in a physical sense. But then, Your relationship becomes based on each other and nothing else.

You learn to communicate,because a long-distance relationship without communication is nothing.

You learn to trust, because you can’t always see or know everything the person is doing.

You learn to sacrifice, because someone’s always going to lose a bit of sleep from the time difference.

And lastly, you learn to appreciate.

So often, we take for granted the people and relationships in our lives because we think they’ll always be there.

But When you only have a limited amount of time with a person,

you learn to appreciate and cherish every single moment you have with them.

When you finally see that person after weeks or months of seeing them only through a computer screen,

It is one of the greatest feelings in the world.

When you’ve waited for something so long and you finally have it,

you cherish it. The key to a long-distance relationship is faith.

If both of you are not willing to give up,

If both of you are willing to stand up and still try after every time one of you or both of you fall.

“Distance isn’t for the fearful, it’s for the bold ".

It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for the little time with the one they love.

It’s for knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.”