f you're not part of the solution you're part of the problem. Stop being part of the problem and put the other guy on the line. - Die Hard
When guys come to me for relationship advice they always have a huge apocalyptic disaster story. Kids. Years spent. Infidelity. It can be a little overwhelming. But then I remember the fundamentals of great relationships and I know exactly what to tell them. In this article I'm going to share with you one of those guiding fundamentals.
When I was researching and experimenting and studying all this stuff trying to save my own ship wrecked marriage, I discovered that there's two sides to a great relationship. And each side has a number of different parts. Most relationship advice only focuses on one part of one side of the relationship. It's no wonder so many people struggle.
After today's article you'll have a big head start.
All great relationships have two sides.
1. What you do when you're with her.
2. What you do when you're NOT with her.
I teach guys to take creative control of both sides of this equation. I think you should start to think of your life as one adventure. And I'll show you how to start doing that today.
What to do when you're with her.
Once you've reached the place where you're reading this article the first assignment I would give you is to pay attention. Listen. Watch her. Ask yourself:
What's she feeling? What does she want? What does she pay attention to?
And that's it. Don't suggest anything. Don't promise anything. Don't give her advice. Be supportive if you can; if you can't, just be quiet.
Now a quick comment on this. You may feel like this is all you've been doing. Listening. Now understand this is not all we are going to do. This is a preparation for the next step. The other thing I would do would be to limit your time with her. Which is exactly what the next section will allow you to do.
What to do when you're not with her.
When your relationship has reached the disaster planning stage this is the side that needs the most work to begin with. You need to build yourself a life raft. And we call that life raft your secret identity project.
What we're going to do is to start turning your life into the adventure it was meant to be. Now you're already dealing with a sinking relationship. Building a meaningful adventure out of your life is too big and scary of a project to take on. So we're going to start small. But don't let that fool you. This is the most important thing you have to do right now.
But we're going to make it simple. Pick a hobby. Start doing it. Set a one month goal. Try to reach it. Repeat.
That's it.
Some tricks to get the most out of this. Do the hobby at least once a week with at least one other person. Make your goal challenging. Plan a test to demonstrate reaching your goal in public. For example, learn to play a song on the guitar and play it on an open mike night before a live crowd.
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>>Dear teachers
Di porket pare pareho kami ng sagot, nagkopyahan na kami. May sagot ba na iba iba? Ano yun, originality?
----- Shin Chan
